Posting on behalf of my very close friend. I’m married( 2 years) long distance cuz of my job, I’m a doctor.I do love my husband, just I feel there’s some personality clashes and like I’m the one putting in all the efforts! I have always communicated him of how I feel and want but I think he’s too lazy to realize! Umm so, for the first time ever, I got connected to a random guy from facebook and he was married with kids in his 40s , we connected he was unhappy too, I was too, and so we used to talk and stuff, i get really serious in relationships idk why I have attachment issues why do I get attached so insanely and like genuinely! Anyway, with him it was just over we didn’t talk again! I felt bad afterwards that I’m never the sort of person to cheat ever! Anyway, so recently, a guy added me on Snapchat, I really never paid much attention to him, but for the first time I did, and we talked we connected so good He’s married he’s 38 with a kid , he told me how unhappy he is with her in a 5year marriage, and how he has problems and stuff! How he thinks he if one day finds a genuine connection and who would accept his child he would leave her then! He showered me with care love attention, we have gone out 3 or 4 times to meet! He’s good looking like me, he’s super rich, I felt special idk! I started to fall for him in this month badly, cuz all this time he would tell me how special this connection is and that we should wait it out and see and in the long run if things workout we might end up together! He told me he would never get laid around ever cuz of his daughter ( he doesn’t want to her to grown up thinking that). I had also told him I’m a very genuine person I would never cheat physically like this. I really felt a connection too! So recently, I asked him show me your Snapchat, I know he talks to girls and stuff, he said to me u will get offended, I said show me, I saw it and like there we, There were all girls added in his Snapchat, I mean he opened the texts nothing inappropriate but like I was feeling sad , he kept on reassuring me they are my friends before you and stuff, he kept on saying if u want I can delete it too! Idk since then I was so hurt, I know he’s not my anything why should I feel hurt?! But so I said I will have to remove you from Snapchat, he literally begged me like he always do to not remove! I haven’t yet I’m just not talking to him! I just feel maybe 😞 if what he said those things about us and our connection coming together later was it true or not:( I feel like a fool, how can I be so attracted and attached to him! I miss my husband ! I have been planning to go visit him this weekend! I don’t want to fall for other people, why is this happening? I thought maybe he’s my type good looking rich he’s there for me:( see I end up getting attached and hurt! That’s not what I wanted! :(I’m 31 but I have still failed to manage my emotions and attachment issues? I would like to admit , I seriously am never the person to ever cheat, I always said if 2 person aren’t happy despite trying their best, they should seperate and then look around! But yes I know this is all emotional cheating talking to someone getting close to them! It’s not like I intentionally do it, I kept telling this guy we are just friends and this can’t happen since both of us are married! He kept on saying what we have is a once in a lifetime time connection he can feel it, and that if in the longer run things work out we might work it out together! I’m sure he hasn’t fallen in love with me right now like I have in a way idk infatuated or what! But I was ready to even accept his child from previous marriage, cuz he asked me generally one day, I would make you meet my child one day. Do we think he’s lying about everything ? Am I just a good catch for him? Just an ego boost? Among the other girls! Idk! I would also like to point out, how when we met and go out in the car, I felt I felt happy, close and I generally have a good time! How can a 38year old really fake all that with me?:( I got attached to his good looks, his personality, him telling me how he has given the card to his wife she can do whatever she wants and buys stuff, I told him if I get attached I will end up going all in and I don’t want that. Then the point comes where I start to feel jealous of his spouse! He knows I’m going on the weekend, and he said he would also feel so jealous while I’m having s_x with my partner! For him, he says he’s out of intimacy since a long time since they don’t get along! Some days ago, it was his bday and he asked me to take me to bday lunch, I was super excited, next morning he tells me there’s a death in the family of a close one. I got really sad. But for some days he was totally lost, and it gave me so much anxiety, I texted him saying why are u ghosting me or what, I sounded so desperate, he called me and he was annoyed and disappointed that he was busy with The funeral and that I should have understood, and that he does not like me being clingy at all and it’s a turn off for him! I apologized for that. All that time I was wondering is he ditching me is he lying or what! After seeing the girls on the Snapchat, I told him I will remove you but he again said don’t remove me plz you have got it all wrong about me! I didn’t text or chat with him yesterday! 😞 look at me! Maybe cuz I thought he’s a better option? Just by looking at him and his lifestyle ?! I feel pathetic. I feel lost! I can’t share it with anyone obviously. Also, we kissed, held hands, hugged! For me physical closeness is also a big thing! It’s hard for me to get over someone then! I jaye myself for feeling everything so deeply! Idk why am I like this? I was thinking maybe I have lost a great person maybe he’s a great catch!?! If he was, he wouldn’t be cheating on his wife too! But why do people like him have to lie about a genuine connection? Why play with my feelings? 😞 It’s not like that I’m dying for attention ! I have always gotten attention from people generally cuz I’m a good looking person but a good person at heart too! Yes I feel lonely frustrated, my husband and I hardly talk or chat! He’s always busy in his work too! He has a tough life he works for the military! Yes it was my decision to stay at one place and finish off my residency for my career! But I also feel there’s way too many personality clashes, I like going out more socializing, him on the other hand just likes to stay inside home and not plan any trip or occasion! Some Financial things too! He should be the one planning spending on me cuz I’m his wife! I felt jealous and triggered when that guy said he has given the wife his card she can do whatever she wants! Good looking people are always my weakness! I felt he’s more settled more mature maybe I can have a future 😞 Even though the guy Also said he would never come in between me and hubby! What do you suggest I do? Avoid texting him obviously Avoid looking at Snapchat for him! 😞trying to forget the memories that I made with him! Tough! Maybe the prolonged loneliness, unmet emotional needs, I have the tendency to invest deeply once i trust someone, Also the intensity of the attention he gave me at the beginning. I could have done anything for him if he also wants me like I do! 😞 if a person is again and again telling you that he is there for you and he believes in the connection we have, even discussed marriage plans like what kind of function would you like and stuff! It hurts cuz I get serious
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Very well written post on “how to justify cheating”. If you have weak knees for good looking then it will happen all the time when you meet a good looking and rich guy
I dont cheat but i dated 2 married men and stuff🤣🤣🤣
By looking at the length of the confession i didn't'have the patience to read it fully , so came here to see the comments. Kudos to those who have read it fully.
There is something called paragraphs. Use it!
Maybe if you can put this problem in few paragraphs, we can somehow find a solution there. I feel dizzy reading from the beginning to the end.
Arey kehna kya chahti ho 🤔
Uska koi marr gya uske baad 🔔 kuch samajh nhi aaya..DM aao baat krte hai..will sort it out
Summary - Woman cheats on her husband with a rich and 'handsome' married guy with daughter then gets used and dumped and goes on to justify how she never wanted to cheat, how moral saint and innocent she is but she can't help herself. Try forcing your rich bf for marriage leaving his wife and daughter. If you are lucky enough, he will just delete you forever and all ur sufferings will end at once.
Those stereotypes strike again and again.
Usey bolo ki tumne apne husband se mutual divorce le liya hai .. then usey shadi ke liye force karo .. fir dekhna kaise gayab hota hai wo .. never ever trust a married man .. ye jitne bhi married hai sabhi extra marital affair shuru karne ke liye yahi bolte hai ki they are unhappy in their marriages
Thoda break toh lagati ..i fee there are many issue in any couples despite that they do take efforts unless after multiple effforts ine is really bot serious..definately they can do such OOB stuf and meet others spend some off road time
So basically you're feeling cheated because the 2nd married person you found online "emotional"cheated on his wife with you, who is "emotional" cheating on your husband and then you're feeling sad and jealous because he's spending time with his wife
This is the first post ... didn't give the feel of ChatGPT 😆😆🤣🤣🤣
What a trashy post
Dear Women Any guy who speaks ill of his wife and marriage to a random woman on web (yes you are all random), A RED FLAG 🚩
Emotional cheating is cheating and I know that you haven't had any connection with your husband. Since you both know the medical industry well, have you guys tried counselling or taking things out in the open to mend the relationship. If you haven't, then do it and if you have plus it didn't work out then divorce your husband and find someone for you.
Moral of the story....... If you stay away from your spouse, just find someone and sleep with them.
"Super Rich" the keyword for this Saga 😮💨
Karma
Waste of time
Such a long confession...
Why exactly did you marry your husband? He is not goodlooking. He is not rich. He doesn't like socializing. He doesn't have/like to spend money on pampering wife. Did you talk about all these expectations BEFORE marriage? You are NOT cheating, your are still searching a match for marrying. Why?
If you have so much time AND INTEREST for these things, better use ur body to get some extra income. Will help in future instead of getting mind-fuc***d like this.
i don't know why people find his/her happiness in someone other ! they think the person who already in a relation can't keep happy the other one will keep you happy! anyway everyone has his/her own choice! nobody is perfect!
This 304 is delusional asf and btw she said "I'm a person that don't cheat" 3 times Spoiler she did cheated.
You need to go somewhere quiet, and run a vacuum cleaner through your head
You are a cheater so is he
No ,this isn’t trust but lust , to be precise ,you lust all good looking men you come across and try and serve yourself on a platter and then you say I’m not a cheater 😂 get your head together woman , you are nothing but a cheater
Are you really this naive ??? lol do you really think that whatever guy you meet is unhappy in their marriage? lol men always say that when they want to get into the woman’s pants .. lol … didn’t know that women are so silly , to fall for such nonsense now a days . And what’s this thing about ok good looking repeatedly , don’t be so high headed because most of the people keep say that are literally extremely average to look at.. lol and just go back to where your husband is , I can never understand what kind of marriages are these where the priority is money over family .
The audacity to cheat with a married person and feel jealous of his wife because she has her husband’s credit card! Too much time on hand. Better to get a job and have your own cards to spend on yourself. Of course there was no funeral, he was spending his birthday with his family. You are just a side kick
Lol
You are a doctor or some stupid who writes long essays, where did you learn writing like a 10th standard...😧😲
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