I (28M), working in fintech with a salary of ₹30 LPA, met a girl (23F) on Hinge toward the end of last year. She works at a consultancy firm, earning ₹6 LPA. We initially started exchanging memes and casual messages. She wasn’t very responsive at first, which was completely fine by me; I just sent a post every couple of days. Eventually, our interactions grew, leading to our first phone call. During that call, she spoke at length about her dreams, ambitions, and communication skills, while I mostly listened respectfully. About a week later, we had a second call. I mentioned that I would be moving abroad in six months for a role paying the equivalent of ₹50 LPA. She noted that moving abroad was a dream of hers too. Given the upcoming relocation and the fact that we lived in different cities, we explicitly agreed that dating didn't make sense. We decided to keep things strictly casual. As we continued talking, she learned more about me: that I come from a financially comfortable family, work in tech, and had only been in one prior relationship. She had a few past relationships herself, though we didn't dwell on it since we weren't planning to date. A week later, I decided to deactivate my Instagram. We exchanged well-wishes and said goodbye. However, eight days later, she sent me a LinkedIn connection request and messaged me the following day, sharing a few normal pictures of herself. I complimented her, and we gradually resumed talking daily on LinkedIn. By this point, she was visibly more invested than I was. I flirted back a little, viewing it as harmless since we still hadn’t met. A week later, she mentioned she was visiting my city and suggested a meetup before I left India. When we met in person, we had a good time. She continued to flirt openly, while I tried to keep my emotions checked because of my move. She even joked about moving abroad and marrying me one day. I didn't take it seriously, given our prior agreement. Following that meeting, she began visiting my city almost every week. We spent a significant amount of time together, eventually entered a formal relationship, and became physically intimate. After we became intimate, her behavior shifted dramatically; she grew highly possessive and controlling. I didn't have female friends or an active social life, so there was no real basis for her insecurity. Around this time, she began actively applying for jobs in the country I was moving to, but soon realized openings in her field were extremely scarce. From the beginning, we had agreed the relationship had no future unless we could be in the same country. I supported her emotionally through the stressful job hunt. She also became fully aware of my family's financial background during this period; looking back, people later suggested this changed her trajectory, though I can't say for sure. Despite the uncertainty, I genuinely cared for her and thought that if things aligned professionally, marriage could be a possibility down the road—though we were nowhere near making such decisions. Then, completely out of nowhere while I was home, she showed up at my house. She confronted my mother, accusing me of manipulating her and using false promises of marriage to initiate a physical relationship. I was entirely shocked. She demanded I delete every photo and memory of us, stating she no longer trusted me, and threatened to file a police complaint if I didn't marry her. A week before I was scheduled to fly out, she filed the complaint. The legal case is currently ongoing. As a result, my move abroad was derailed. The visa process and police clearance became complicated; though leaving was technically possible, it risked compounding the legal issues and forcing a disruptive return later. People around me maintain that she is motivated by money, but I refuse to assume intentions I cannot prove. What I know for certain is that my career plans are disrupted, I am fighting a legal battle, and a standard dating app match has turned into my worst nightmare. I am sharing this because I want to hear from anyone who has navigated a similar situation. Has anyone else faced allegations of false promises of marriage following a consensual relationship? How did the legal process eventually resolve for you?
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If you can't control your lust, lust will control you. Hope you heard it before.
If you entered into a formal relationship and became physically intimate despite agreeing from the beginning that the relationship had no future unless you both ended up in the same country, so did you ever make any plans to take her with you? If not, then what was the point of entering into a formal relationship? Were you planning to enjoy the physical benefits of a relationship until you moved abroad and then end it?
Buddy lets approach this practically. There is no way should marry this girl. Now the part where you try to get rid of her. 1. Hire / consult a good reputed-lawyer from known circle who will not mint money but actually help you 2. Gather / keep all proofs ready and be geared to fight the battle 3. File a counter case of extortion/ abuse of law and other stuff etc to get the bal rolling under lawyer’s supervision 4. Track her dating history / find a way because this will help to build your case 5. See if you have any mutual friends who can help you in a mutual settlement Best wishes. If you luckily have all chats and proofs, she will not be able to extract a dime out of you. And your lawyer should also be smart so that the girl is also asked to be present at multiple hearings / made somehow accountable for. Ensure your counter complaint gets registered and there is a chargesheet against her / maybe that will be very tough but try. Lastly, do jot lose hope and think it more like a community program where you have to give few hours of your time in few months. But teach her a lesson.
If you had physical intimacy or sexual intercourse on pretext of marriage then she has all right to file a criminal case .. Get a good lawyer before you get arrested or mediate out of court settlement ..
Someone once told ...True Romance are often found in Empty pockets... In Heavy Pockets only Alliances are found
Bc londe pyaar me beh k sb bta dete h and upar se previous chat aur clear kr dete h which they can use as a proof. I almost hv each n every msg backed up so that no one can blame me for anything I've never done or committed either it's related to office or personal life. Trust people but don't trust anyone blindly.
Kuch vi ho ye log pehle physical intimate ho jata hai . Pushing 30 and still playing single games 🤡
I'm glad "it was casual relationship", "i was clear from the starting that I'm not going to marry her" is coming back to bite in a$$ for atleast few men.
Never get intimate without marriage. Atleast marriage has some proof . Personally I think u have an obsessed stalker on your hands
Men should learn to honor women by having few codes of conduct like intimacy post marriage only. Women live in lalaland that if they have allowed a man to be intimate then she has an upper hand. Women ignore prior discussions on ‘casual arrangements’ almost always. Hence, men better update themselves & protect themselves from devastating consequences. There’s a vast difference between the psychology of men & women. In order to preserve order in communities, early marriage was the norm so both genders are protected & gain far more than they lose.
Bed is the place where men loose their nuts nd life lol😂
It's a clear case of coming after you, for your money & softness....it's well planned, physical bring a part of it. Else she won't be running to your city for no reason...you were carefully trapped....last nail being barging into your home & worse still, filing a complaint....timing again was superb. It's v simple - she after money & a easy guy, physical majeh tumne nahi usne liye hei, soch samajh ke, future banane ki sazis..paisa ne usko andha kar diya, kahan 50,000, kahan 500,000 Just fight legally, and shunt her out of your life n proximity, Daiyan hei woh! On lighter note, aisa masala life ko life banata hei anyway, wah rei kudrat😑
You shouldn't have mentioned about moving abroad...should have given her a surprise... Guys should never reveal every plan to random girls...i repeat never...
Marry her and achieve your dreams
That's why previous generations used to investigate thoroughly. They would verify everything, cross-check the facts, ask people around them and the neighbors. We, however, tend to see all of that as unnecessary interference. Now, dig deep into her past and gather as much information about her as possible—her personality, background, behavior, and other relevant details. It's possible she has been through trauma and now wants to settle down with a wealthy man. If you can't do this yourself, hire a private investigator. It should give you a much clearer picture of her intentions.
I know this is a difficult situation, but many people are jailed due to false allegations when they lack the evidence. protect yourself—stay alert, keep records of everything, and try to bring her family into the discussion to see if you can reach a settlement and avoid the courts.
As in today's time I know why people are saying that he should have control over himself..... But why double standards, when a girl can do casual hookups then it's not a crime, she can leave any relationship when it fits her but when a man does it's a crime. Anyways I suggest u to find good lawyer and get some references of old cases.
If you really want the relationship to end, one (highly unconventional) approach would be to quit your job, assume you have no financial support from your family, and tell her you’re taking time away from work because you’re struggling with your mental health and need to focus on recovery. If financial security is a major reason she’s staying, she may choose to leave on her own. After a year or two, when you’re ready to return to work, explain the employment gap to recruiters as a planned sabbatical to focus on your health and personal development. You could even complete a part-time diploma or certification during that period to strengthen your profile before re-entering the job market.
Mom said you lay in your bed that you make..
Next time , whenever you get oppurtunity to go abroad and to all people reading this , never tell any stranger of your move . 90% people you will meet are jealous of that fact and do stupid things like this . This case is always going to be on your record now . ☹️
Once you landed in bed with her, it's ON YOU NOW! second, and you'd have learnt by now, keep your plans and ambitions etc to yourself and don't advertise. Best wishes.
There is always problem if somebody putting irrational efforts
They are the most unpredictable and volatile creature on earth
Besh hoyeche. Deserved. Aur karle showoff. To the girl - You go girl. More power to you 🙌 Don't leave this guy until his grave.
Ab okhli me sar diya h to mushal se Darna chord do, uske past relationship kinke sath the, wo kaha rhti, uske gharwalo k bare me pta kro, sayad kuch help ho jaye,
She is trying to fulfill her dreams by hook or crook. It's really sad, what she did with you. You certainly need some good lawyer. Hope she does not have physical intimacy evidence or any audio recording. She might use them against you. Focus on possible solutions. If you believe in future predictions then ask a free question without disclosing your name at the online guidance platform WWW.STEER-U.COM Times planet plays an imp role. Just a suggestion no compulsion. All the best. Take care of your mental health as well.
No future, no intention to marry, nothing, par sex karne ke liye ek min bhi nhi socha?? May be she really started loving you and wanted to keep you with her somehow! If you knew there's no future you shouldn't have gotten so intimate with her in the first place!
Don't worry bro every thing will be alright . Most of the so called independent girls are like this only . You can see the comment section most of these ladies commenting here would have done the same thing to you . This is their favourite weapon now a days.
All problems started due to p.intimacy.Control karna tha bhai.
Do not marry. It will be 10x costlier to divorce
You became a victim of lust. The Red Flags were pretty prominent from the very beginning. Hire a good lawyer and pray to God
Bro u should not have got physical with her without knowing her background and intentions, ab woh tere gale pad rahi hai
This is complete bs. I'm truly sorry it happened to you. Just learn from this experience. Though not all end up with unhappy endings, just move on. It's not possible to judge people correctly always. She's a terrible person at this young age. Too bad for her.
If you didn't promise to marry her and clearly told her there is no future in the relationship, then you should gather all evidence and file a case of blackmailing
I think for many women, marriage is the ticket to freedom and money without a real job. There's many perspectives on it, all of them equally convincing, depending on the situation. I feel, if women continue to be this way, equality is a distant dream.
Bhai rone se koi fayda nahi, galti tumhara hai. She came to your city, she didn't come to your place. You indulged these things. If there was no future and u wanted to keep things casual, why did u go so far? U could have skipped weekly meetupa. Seems like she had a plan set beforehand which is wrong too. But it worked for her since you indulged it. We men have to be more rigid and cautious when it comes to lust.
Money money money .. bas karo bhai .. kya pata ladki ko sach me tumse pyar ho gaya ho
Even though u were not in the idea of marriage, u spilled the beans. U told everything about u, ur family nd especially ur financial background nd future plans. U did all whatever she told. Then she planned well. Wat u said 'standard dating app?' illegal relationships never have standard or genuinity. Bcoz genuine person never reach such apps.
All written from how “she” has done it . You are 28 - you didn’t realise anything going wrong 🤨
How to get a job in the corporate sector without having any technical degree 😔
Keep chats as proof and you will be fine.
If u were nit seeing any future together ...why u were jumping into physical relationship and when she insisted that she is visiting ur place ..why did u go with the flow?
आया मज़ा 🥸
This is exactly why it's important not to rush to conclusions based on one anonymous post. The relationship described lasted for months, became serious, and both parties appear to have made decisions willingly. Whether there was a "false promise of marriage" is ultimately a question of facts, intent, and evidence, not something that can be determined from one person's account. If the allegations are false, the accused deserves a fair investigation and due process. Equally, if someone was genuinely deceived into a relationship through intentional false promises, they also deserve legal protection. The law exists to examine evidence, messages, timelines, and conduct, not public opinion. Rather than assuming "gold digger" or "victim" based on a single narrative, it's better to let the legal process take its course. Anonymous confessions often omit details that could significantly change the context. Empathy for both parties and respect for due process is a more reasonable approach than jumping to conclusions.
Tere ko sab pata tha but phir bhi tune simping kiya. Sorry, tu sakht launda nhi hai bhai...aur uska anjam bhugatna hoga :(
You need to marry her if you have agreed to physical intimacy... No mercy should be shown to you....
No one has navigated a similar situation cz we don't sleep with strangers we wait for marriage. Even if we unmarried or not able to get married we prefer to die virgin 🤣🤣
It's called gold digger
Lots of victim blaming here for that man. I guess its only okay to not victim blame a woman, when it comes to men nobody gives a shit and their morality shifts
The point you kept saying in this post- she didn't come to you due to your financial status! Well, if that's the case, your post has so much to conclude that she was obsessed with foreign status and had dreams to settle down in that particular country, with your help and before you both got married. By all means, you should have moved foreign if you had a chance. You mentioned that case was filed a few days before you were about to leave. It means, you should have everything ready practically to fly. Ofc, she is not one to have a family with
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That's why smartest men visit hookers
Rule number 1: Never date an Indian woman if you plan to move abroad. Far better, far more beautiful fishes in the sea than ones found here. No tantrums, pure femininity abroad. Here they think having masculine trait is a must because some Sanjana di.cksh.it aka the goat pheminisht on Instagram said so
Such a naive man 🥵 How can you believe women yaar. Get out of your lala land. Also getting physical with someone and cannot control your hormones. Get the facts straight. Men have to control because they have no legal recourse in Indian laws. Still made such a grave mistake 🤦
Just marry her and she will drop all charges
You shouldn't have slept with her. It was clear what she was aiming to do.
This is new way of scam ,check her background and there may be multiple cases going with same.one of my friend is stuck with exact same situation.
God Knows what women want from their life now.These dating platforms are really dangerous.Listening to your part of the story it seems you are a sober & sensible guy..I don't know what she got out of this.I guess you had interest in marrying her then why did she have to plan & plot so much.
More girls are fooling boys than I had imagined. Oh God! Give this generation some wisdom on relationships. This idea of having fun by getting intimate with any random person is costing you people your peace of mind. Wake up!
Wtf bro
One false case is enough to destroy hundreds of years of legacy, as has history taught us. If you have the option to leave the country, do it already without second thoughts. And while you're at it, get in touch with Amish Agarwal (via Instagram or linkedin)
Do one thing - resume the relationship. Pretend that everything is alright. Continue the drama until you move and then break up. Are you crazy not to see what kind of a person she is?
BPD
Especially places like India,Justice is a joke If you ever been guilty or not if there is a complaint against you,you are fuc*ed up bro You sound as if you are not interested in that girl but took adv of the situation to get intimate You put up a good face but internally you have a villain attitude If career was your priority then no matter how many girls bump in you,you will refute But for you it was like,she fell for me so I took pleasures from her! So don't play victim here,if she is an antagonist,same to you too No out of country is "Swahaa"
If you have money power, then use against her. hire some random person,to file fake cases ,there is also many loop holes in our legal system you can use against her and her family make her life hell. Tit for tat.
She is clearly trying to blackmail you via legal threat. Get a good criminal lawyer and press charges against her.
Tu hi chutiya hai bhai, aurat jaat pe koi bharosa karta hai kya? Never ever give out your personal details to someone you haven't known for at least half an year. Of course the intention is money, why else will she be trying to be with you. It's very evident. Now prove this in court meanwhile you lose the opportunity. Aurat ka chakkar maut se takkar. Being rejected for having boundries is infinite times better than getting into a legal battle where you lose your identity, job, opportunity, social respect, whatever.
Physical relationship ended every thing evrry dream of yours beta. You should not have gone that far . May be she used s** relationship as a weapon against you . Smart girl with a brain of extra ordinary game of chess moves which results in check mate for the opponents, that's what she is. Now pay the price beta. Nothing wrong in just meeting talking as normal Friends. . S** always complicate the matter . You both know the relationship was not for a longer period. But once it goes to cops and law you will have to prove it in court and it takes time . So better reserve all naughty s*** for post marriage. To be on safer side. If you have any past what's app communications with her where she clearly states there is no future for this relationship you can use that as a proof to prove that u did not take s** ual advantage of her. Otherwise it's a long court battle ahead for you beta. Which will also drain off your monetary things. I won't be surprised if after few years of legal cases she tells you upfront . Let's settle this out of court . Pay me 10.lakhs or more and I will drop all the cases against you and give you your freedom. Even if you pay her , just ask your mind one question because of that s** you got entangled in this girl mess and paid a huge price to get out. Things would have been different if I would not have gone ahead for that 5 min of pleasure beta. That's why very important to control your senses. It's a wake up call for other men here in this group.
If a man can be in control of his mind, mouth, stomach & dick, he can easily avoid 98% of issues in life.
She honey trapped you.. There are tons of cases like that. You gotta follow legal handles to know more such cases..
This woman was a fraud from the beginning. She wanted to fulfill her abroad dream.as soon as she didn't get a job.she ended your dream too
This is the reason you should not over share to anyone.
Dating apps = scam plus going for those ugly thulthuli 4ft pajeetas is a bigger scam for Indian men they deserves better
you were in a relationship... women in india are difderent. you used her to satisfy you. now you want to throw her away as used tissue. it really stinks. you change your attitude or suffer. Talk to her family. marry her.
Why why did you have a physical relationship? Why can't men keep it in their pants? You're not an idiot, you understood right away she is trying to manipulate you. Don't act naive. Yet instead of being a sakht launda you fell prey not to that woman's seduction but to your own d¡Ck's wishes. Men, you have got to stop getting into a physical relationship even if the woman consents, especially if there is no relationship between you and will not be in future! Opportunists like the woman here will always search for weaknesses, so why give them one? Just m*st*rb*te, keep your lust in check, why is it so tough; now look at him, if this incident is true then poor fellow, his entire life dreams are ruined! Whatever evidence you may keep, do you really think that is enough? You laid in that bed with her, now you make it. Pathetic. Learn one more thing thoroughly and this applies to everyone, don't EVER speak your dreams or plans out loud, even to your friends or your siblings or your parents. Life has a way of humbling us even if we don't deserve to be humbled.
Ghanta. You led her on. You flirted with her. You went serious with her and went physical. You broke her heart. You are an a***hole and you deserve whatever is happening to you. Well done girl.
Lesson is never use dating apps....you know which kind of girls you find there...they are money hungary, self esteem, and not trust worthy... It's my experience
Woman can go any extent for money bro not all but most of all, so better fuck the bitches pay and exit simple...
Aur jao genz k pass idiot
If u will show money to a whore what else u expect?
Whatever your future is doomed even you want to move on with another women,either she gets to know about you and will for sure dump you or you may not be interested in any women at all What is your rush in getting intimate when you don't even know the future and about the girl You put yourself into this shi*t,so grab a tissue and wipe it yourself
You used her body for your lust and she wants your money. Koi doodh ka dhula nahi hai. STOP blaming the woman solely. You are equally responsible. If you didn't want a serious relationship you should have avoided physical intimacy, that too when you were planning to move abroad. Maybe the woman got serious about you unlike you who only saw her as an object to cool off your lust. Actually serves you right. Men who aren't serious and still keep using women's bodies deserve to suffer like you. You didn't love her and still chose to be in a relationship with her just for "casual sex".
You are an idiot of the highest order. Here's a tip. Before taking any decision in relation to any non platonic or non related woman, masturbate first. If need be, a couple of times more. Still if you feel absolutely sure about your decision, to for it. But even if you have a moment's indecision, after your hand-to-mouth session, back out .. 🤣🤣
You dig your own grave. Suffer
The only name i can think of is deepika narain bharadwaj... She handles such cases of fraud... U can find her on twitter, a famous personality.... My wishes with you.. May u soon get rid of such fraud gold digger...
She is a Gold digger and was after your money…. just fight the legal battle and don’t give her a single penny. You were just a cash cow for her.
Just castrate yourself, she wouldn't come into your life after that she'll move ahead with other men
Both of Them Culprits.. Now Acting here as innocence.. She & you Both Past Body Demand.. Now you Policy No seal No deal. 🤣😂😅🙉🙈🙊
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