I (28M) come from an affluent Business Family, our Family earns more than 50 Lakh per annum & we have also have a lot of Familial Wealth. Recently, I got engaged to a Woman (25F) who also comes from a Business Family like ours, but based in a different City. She isn't much Educated & just wants to be a Simple Housewife (just what our Family wanted). Before committing for the Marriage, I asked her about her Past. She told me that she had been in a Relationship in the Past, which didn't work out for several reasons & had broken up more than a year ago & moved on completely. I assumed that it must have been a Normal Relationship, like most people these days & even I had a Relationship in my Past. She also said that she was wholeheartedly ready to get Married, when I asked her if she was under any Pressure from Family. Their Family was also quite well reputed, so we went ahead with the Engagement, which also involved exchanging some Gifts, between both Families. When I posted our Engagement Photos on Instagram, they were noticed by a Business Acquaintance, who had also known their Family. He appreciated me for being Open-minded to marry a Woman with such a Dark Past. When I asked him what he meant to say.. he revealed something about her, which shocked me. Apparently, my Fiancee had been in a Relationship with a Notorious Guy in their Town, who was a Local Goon, with Criminal cases & also Political Connections. Her Parents didn't approve of the Relationship (obviously), so she had Eloped with him a few years ago & lived with him for over a Month, but ultimately her Family got her back using Money, Connections & Threats & made her cut all connections with the Guy. When I confronted her, she began Crying & confirmed that the Rumours were true, but then she was young & naive & that he had also turned abusive, when she went to Live with him. He used to Beat her & also blackmail her. After her Family brought her back, they discovered that she was Pregnant & forced her to undergo Abortion. After that she was sent away to their Native Village to live at her Grandparents Home for a year, wherein her Aunts had rigorously trained her in how to be a Good Housewife, making her Ready for Marriage. Since the Revelation, I've begun Re-thinking this Marriage.. but she's been Crying & Pleading with me to go ahead with the Marriage, saying that it was all in her Past & that she has completely moved on now. I didn't tell my Parents anything about this, but confronted her Parents.. they're also pleading me to go ahead with the Marriage & have also offered me a huge amount of Dowry, so that I won't Reject her. Now I'm dilemma, whether I should overlook her Dark Past & go ahead with the Marriage or should I Reject her & move on? I hadn't even told my Parents that she had a Past Relationship, when we had discussed about it, before Engagement, as it was supposed to be a personal matter, between the both of us. But now, shall I tell my Parents everything I found out about her Past & also the Dowry offer from her Parents? Or shall I take a Decision, by myself. Please advise me.
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If this was a real story, you would run from her instead of looking for advice on a confessions page. 😂
Bhai kahin bhi vacation karne matt jana, especially pahado par. Lohagarh fort toh bilkul nahi! On a serious note, you definitely shoul discuss this with your parents and listen to their advice. No relationship should start with lies.
bro.. peace 0f mind is more than any wealth in this planet earth.. just leave n move on...
Marry her or not but definitely tell your parents please.Parents knows much better than you about human behaviour.Let them decide what is good for you.
betrayals start with lies. even if you got to marry her... make sure to get a prenup signed... detailed and well versed... other's misery is not your problem, when lied about.
I see that your decision is up for sale, they just have to match the price now.
Ek din muje bhi itna ameer hona hai ki basic duniya daari ki cheezo se anjaan rahu...😜
Yes your parents will anyways get to know about this. At least they have the right to know about it. Later you can decide if you want to go ahead with the relationship or not.
You should marry only if you believe you will be happy to spend your rest of the life with that person. Dont do it by the way you are thinking.
Hey, I understand that talking about the past isn't easy, and I truly believe that a person's past does not define who they are. Everyone has experiences that shape them, and no one should be judged solely for them. At the same time, since this is an arranged marriage where both families are involved, I feel it's important that your family knows the truth. They deserve the opportunity to make an informed decision, and whatever they decide, it should be respected. If this were a love marriage and these events had happened before you met each other, it would be completely understandable if you hadn't discussed her past with your parents. But in an arranged marriage, if the truth comes out later, it could create unnecessary pain and misunderstandings- not just for you, but also for the girl, her family, and everyone involved. Being honest from the beginning may be difficult, but it is often the kindest and most respectful approach for everyone. I hope this perspective helps you in some way. Whatever you decide, I wish you clarity and strength. Take care☺️
Another reason why background search from a detective agency should be done before marriage 🙂
Siya Goyal case with a difference. It's Just that you are still alive and if u want to be still alive then RUN.
Now if you proceed to marry her, especially after their dowry offer, you won't get any respect in their home, they ll consider you as something that they bought and treat you accordingly. Think well and decide
There is nothing wrong in getting married to her but before that just make sure you do the below 1) do a complete background check that she is not in contact with that guy and no way thay guy is going to come into your life again. Because there are chances they both will join hands and plan a murder against you which we have already read in lot of news. 2) sign a prenup saying zero penny will be given to her if she decides to move away from this marriage or if you decide to move away from this marriage if you get to know that she is cheating on you. 3) ofcourse tell your parents and dont take the dowry that they are offering. If you take the dowry its like a bribe for a mistake that theu already committed and you are supporting that crime. You will never have a voice to speak out because they will tell you took money and you no longer a genuine person to find mistakes in them. 4) If you dont want to go through any of these...just tell your parents and cancel the wedding...you are still young and you will get a better person. Don't lose your life over the dowry.
She should have been upfront about her past. Also, her parents should have mentioned this to your parents. Especially, if she has had an abortion, that is not something she should hide, if she was genuinely repenting. Tread with caution and please tell your parents. They have a right to know. Don't think about being magnanimous etc. Think only about your self and your parents in this situation. It is not selfish but is self- preservation. Good that you got to know before marriage.
Mat karo bhai. Shaadi dimag se karni chahiye. Past matters
If u are going ahead with marriage Get her confession statement in a writing signed by two independent witness that she will behave properly and will not contact him Consult a lawyer also in case of trouble or divorce What are you going to lose also Because whatever you get in dowry is returned with maintenance amount
Now you should tell ur parents and arrange a meeting with both side's and ensure past is past and ur girl is no more in touch with him. Hire a good detective to do complete background verification about girl and her family. Finally decide based on the report .
Bhai agar usne oos ladke se marriage kar li ho yo aapki marriage illegal hogi..aur Agar uski marriage nhin huyi thi aur Agar wo oos relation se bahar nikal aayi ho to osse maaf kar dijiye aur shaadi kar lo
Instead of we suggesting you, ask yourself if you can accept this and lead a happy life and her past would never be an issue for you at any point in life. Even if you think you will have slight hesitation or if you feel you cannot accept it, please move on. Above everything, first tell your parents.
better dont marry her and spoil both ur life...u will not be normal even when u r going to get money from them because the way u think is different and u cant keep her happy...on the other hand no idea if the girl has really changed if she had changed then she deserve a better person than you but if she has not changed then u will be in trouble later...so thinking all possibilities avoid this marriage and let the girl be happy and u be happy too
Paisa bolta hai 😂😂
bai demand as much as money from her parents afterall money is the most important factor and you can also have your own networth/ bank balance
Tell your parents and let them decide. Don't interfere with their decision.
Never hide anything from your parents ! If by chance u got into big mess, ur parents are your only hope. I would suggest have a open discussion with ur parents first and then the girls parents.
Second chances are kind of life changing sometimes...you are in a position to give her but she must know about the value. Think deeply and get to a decision.you know your life and family better
Lol. Sounds like a movie script. This forum is a nice dig for some movie scripts😂. However if this be real, time to use common sense😂
Kabil Movie dekh le bhai
Have you read abt Pune incident ???
make sure the goon that notorious person didn't make your and your family life like a hell. these fool people can do anything, could k*ll anyone. they can destroy a happy family too. there is a risk. that person could be return in her life. what u will do then...?
what if your had this same situation? marry her
Choose your Peace. Why do you want to ruin your life?
Get her past a professional check before moving forward. If the agency assures you that now she has no link with that guy, u can marry.
But why did you confront her Parents?
Don't end up being pushed down from a cliff or in a blue drum. Inform your parents. Godspeed
Everyone has a past if you willing to move past it ad live a good life.
I suggest when she was young and she did not know what it was also.. may be you should accept her as she is and give her a chance.. I’m sure if you want to marry some other girl also she must be having some kind of past.. I feel be mature enough if you really like her and trust that she don’t do it again because she has gone through so much in past.. if you cancel wedding again it will be a big remark on her.. so think that about it and if you cancel accept as it is you can go ahead..!
No need to part of depression in future now you will think its normal but in further you suffer from big loss and anxiety... take care
Bhai shadi mt Krna same case hua mere saath but mere ko shadi ke baad saari baatein pta chalin
Marry her bro. She is the one for you. If you were so open minded in the first place to accept her past, what's the issue? She said she was naive and that guy was a criminal. It's happens. Jyada se jyada kya hogaya pregnant hi ho gayi and abortion hogaya na? So??? She is ready to be a housewife and serve you all her life. Where would you even get such a woman nowadays? Over that her family is offering high dowry too. What more do you want? Or you are not man enough to marry her? Mai hota to kal hi shaadi kar leta Tu v karle 😌
You dont have to tell your parents or anyone. If you have gone through an experience, did you disclose to your parents and her family. You need to rise above the past issues. There are past life debts one has to get rid of. Consult a psychotherapist as a couple before getting married.
Every priest has a past and every sinner has a future... some people just need a second chance
Now you are more focused on dowry and don’t want to leave it! You are not in a dilemma of leaving the girl, it’s about leaving the dowry! Ok she has a past and she should have openly admitted it to you instead of being indirectly responsible for letting someone else tell you! If you feel her past won’t haunt you go ahead with marriage! If you feel it’s going to trouble you by any means stop it right away! She ll definitely get a boy who ll oversee her past! Don’t fall for the dowry! If you had real intentions you would have rejected the girl and her dowry upfront and would have informed your parents! Instead you are confessing here asking if you can give her a chance! If you get dowry and marry her, then even in your worst fight , or even in her worst behaviour you cannot question her as you have been bought by them !!! Once you are sold then you loose the right to question her or her family at any stage of life!
After marriage your murder is confirmed.... Bro you have already enough assets for life what you don't have a good character and a disciplined wife which is needed for a good healthy relationship
Why do you need to rethink .. if you want to break the engagement do it right away .. Say your parents to break the engagement .. end of deal and no ordeal for the woman too .. she has gone through all ordeal of her life .. why torment her .. she knows she did mistaken. You donot want to marry fine .. she ain't begging you .. so take it of your chest ..be a man and go and tell her you ain't interested
Bhai please aage mat bado tumari aur tumara family ki zindagi NARAK ban jayega 🤔
Nikal le...
50 lakh par annum and saying affluent business family 🙄🙄 damn sure either you forgot the difference or the numbers
Better to escape. Nowadays normal people are killing husband with help of ex lover. In your case ex lover is a local don. So you're finished bro if you get married.
If you don’t marry her her notorious ex will come after you :)
Would you have accepted the same things if the girl was from a poor family? Obviously no. So don’t act holier than though.
Bhai tum batao ya mat batao tumhara future saaf dikhra ya neela drum ya washroom ki flooring k Neeche RIP. Purana wala gaya nahin gayab hua jaisa tum Shaadi karte tumhari 50 Lakh PS welath p haath saaf kar lete.
Don't marry such type of girl your live will be hell and don't believe in one side story,if you want to make your life a living hell then proceed further or leave her and lead a peaceful life
Yesterday was the best day to Run, still you have time.
Dont tell anything to your parents about her past. Say some other reason and move out of marriage plans. You cannot live peacefully with her, when you had known her past already, and when the trust is broken. And, it wasn't fair enough to hide her dark past from you. They cannot buy you for money. Money isn't everything in life. Next time, you have to enquire well about the girl and family, before proceeding to engagement and marriage.
Do you read news dear? Only positive thing in this you are not yet married to the lady
Its not abt telling your parents or taking decision on your own... its abt taking that dowry and end up dead sooner or later or really escape from this trap and be alive.
If She's repenting then forget tge dowry and take her as your loving wife. Im sure sge understood her mistakes veing young abd naive. Rejecting her like this will destroy her and damage her more. Imagine her parents condition. They gave to beg for their daughter's mistakes. Why should they pay this heavy price. I would give her a second chance. And treat her with dignity. Love her. And respect her.
Huge amount of dowry adapavi dei 😅
Just break the engagement and move ahead with ur life
One side is a 304 and another side was greed, this marriage is doomed anyways. Having relationship before marriage is not an issue what she did was the problem
Uff, past is past. Just forget and move on with it. Cuz the dowry amount matters to you more than her dark past.....🥰
Inform your parents please
Should not have hid this from you, atleast the girl could've told... Major RED CARD....
Of course u should discuss with ur parents and let them know the truth as both the families are well known and influential somehow thr truth will come out later so better to involve ur elders and later take a final call if ur parents agree and u want to give her a chance as it was her past but, u have to accept her wholeheartedly or if this thing troubles u then move ahead
Bhaag bhai bhaag
Always remember dushma mile hazar ....
I am from the peaceful state of Nagaland. I have read and watched enough betrayal news of my fellow brothers and sisters in mainland India. I understand people have past . Everybody has their own share of the past but believe me, " You all from Mainland India deal with the past very cruelly" and infact innocent ones are mostly murdered. " Enough is enough" . Brother, her past sounds dangerous and deals with gangsters kind of.... If you want to be alive, you better run for your life. " Don't fall for sweet words : see the patterns" I am saying this as a sister and as a fellow Indian with so much love and concern towards you ( whoever you are). Jai Hind 🙏
Back off varna neele drum mein miloge aap
Don't marry her bro what if she again elopes with her lover again
You have enough familial wealth, don't take dowry. Ask for something else
Offered huge amount of dowry ah..... வாழ்க்கையை தொலைச்சிறாத..... escape aagitu......
I dont know how you idiots got so rich when you cannot even do a basic background check of the girl, which even your business acquaintance know....ok dont marry her as the trust is already borken...
Rethinking, MrKetan Agarwal?
Just leave her otherwise ur fate will be like ketan agarwal
Lohagarh fort and meghalaya mat jana 😂
Better stay single than marrying her. Call off your marrige immediately before they file a dowry case against you and your family.
Don't expect us to suggest a good decision on your life.
The gangster never broke up
Chore de bhai you will always gonna judge her eventually start to resent her as well
RUN has three letters but you should run at least 3000 km/sec speed. Why? If she can escape her parents who gave her birth, look after her and gave everything she wanted. Then who are you? Just a random guy for her. She cannot only delete you but also can use her ex bf connection to get you deleted.
Shaadi k baad ye na ho jaye ki wo local don ake thok de.
5-10cr k beech deal kar le bhai
Her lover (local notorious goon) will come take revenge from you. Looks like another news in development.
Her father is already a strong man you don't need to become another strong man bro
Teenager boy with 8 inch big monster tool.... anyone here for meet-up
Run from her, disconnect the engagement and move on, you will regret later if you marry her as you will have fights with her regarding her past
Tell your parents... They have more experience then you... In this world.... If she was in relationship with goons u never know what will happen in future
Tell your parents not relatives, and then in few days you all together decide. A interview with the girl is a must if the decision hinges towards a yes...
Take the dowry money is cash so there is no trail of it. Then tell your parents and call of the wedding. Go on an extended vacation with the said money. They deceived you only fair for you to do the same.
You really need a big heart to leave the past and see if you can create a future with her. If you agree to marry her for the dowry, it shows your attitude. Inform your parents and all of you take a decision together. We have no idea about your past either. Or to what extent was your relationship. If she’s not legally married what’s the issue? Many young vulnerable girls go thru such things.
Unlimited red flags unlocked !!
Talk to your parents
Arrange marriage me family involve nahi karega toh kab karega....itna bhi kya desperate...koi bhi sane dimag ke bande ko jarurat hi nhi padti yaha post krne ki.
Bro run from here It’s a red flag
1. Ur parents must know 2. When the inlaw offers more dowry , in future u can here ' u agreed after knowing everything plus extra dowry only' and no one will see ur heart or open mindedness to go get married to a poor girl. 3. Confront parents, deny extra dowry and go on to marry her (if u decide) with ur heads up , so u r always valued at ur in-law
Kya aadmi hai... Still cannot decide after all these info... Is it because of the HUGE dowry or expected inheritance from her side ..??
Just lie to ur parents and tell them something else, avoid the trauma for them
Seems like a madeup story
Potential Pune case types ...Kiya and Setan
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