Hi. I am (F31). Anonymous Confession I don't know where else to share this, so I'm writing here. I have been married for 10 years and am a mother of two children—an 8-year-old son and a 2-year-old daughter. During my second pregnancy, I had to leave my job because my workplace did not provide maternity leave. I thought I would be able to find work again later, but things have not gone as planned. My husband used to work in a private company, but due to his health problems he had to take frequent leave. Eventually, he was asked to leave his job. He is now working as a delivery agent, but the income is very low and barely covers our basic needs. To make things harder, my husband suffers from severe gout and high uric acid. His hands and feet often become swollen and painful, and he is undergoing treatment. Seeing him struggle every day breaks my heart. I spend every day searching for jobs, sending applications, and hoping for a call that never comes. Our household expenses keep increasing, and my son's school fees have piled up. Next year, I will also have to enroll my daughter in school. As a mother, I feel ashamed and helpless that I cannot provide even basic education for my children right now. Some days I feel completely exhausted and lost. I worry constantly about our future and wonder how we will manage. I am not asking for sympathy—just needed a place to vent because I have been carrying all of this silently for a long time. If anyone has gone through a similar situation and found a way forward, I would appreciate your advice and prayers. Thank you for reading.
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If you're reading this, there are a few things you can do. 1. Tutoring, 2. English reading classes 3. Phonics classes 4. Shadow teacher 5. Emotional listener for apps in Google play store. 6. Hindi reading classes 7. Essay/paragraph writing classes These cost nothing and initially you might not get much. But you can use these as a starting point.
Why don’t you start a cloud kitchen on Swiggy and Zomato if you’re good at cooking? In a couple of months you’ll see profits if you’re good
Education levels and location are not mentioned in the post for either the confessor or husband. Also what were the previous jobs of both people is not mentioned. So it is a little difficult to guide what kind of jobs both can do. If husband has health issues he should look for WFH jobs; freelance jobs; home tuitions. I am not sure what kind of company was the confessor working which did not give maternity leave. Because as per the guidelines set by Indian govt every company has to give 3-6 months of maternity leaves
Why don’t you put your children in government school or semi private schools ? Now the government schools too have good education, in my city , they are one of the best and I’m sure in other cities too there would be good government schools , meanwhile keep looking for a job , or you can even join a domestic call Center , they pay decently plus you’d get transportation too .
Be strong... search for job.. somehow get into a job.. things ll be fine
U leave ur kids with ur husband...let him handle kids n house...he needs rest too ..so for some few yrs he will look after house n kids ..u go out n work more...take classes, work anywhere...ur kids needs money for everything...aise main...one has to stand up n earn money
For ur husband 1.stop alcohol in any form if it's there. 2.hit the gym or run daily 3-5 km 3.use lukeworm lemon water 5 days a week empty stomach 4.use tulsi drops water 3 days a week 5.include amla/orange/guava in diet 6.for immediate relief use aciloc/rentac for 10-15 days Gout nd uric acid issue is due to sedentary corporate lifestyle.
1. You must be ashamed, everyone who brings a baby into the world irresponsibly without financial stability and good health must be ashamed of themselves infinitely till the end of time. 2. Change the way you are applying for jobs. Enhance your CV and make it demonstrable achievement-focused with data instead of just listing job responsibilities. You can also ask AI tools to enhance it or for tips. Also make it ATS-friendly: no tables, images, etc. 3. Don't mention in the CV that you are on a career break. Just keep your last job's beginning date, not ending. The first target is getting a call and you can make a great impression there on (and you can always say the CV wasn't updated if specifically countered on that). 4. Don't say you lost your job due to pregnancy (hard to believe). Say there were mass layofss die to bad business/AI impact and your pregnancy was already in advanced stage, so you didn't apply then to avoid giving trouble to both yourself and the new employer. 5. Apply via non-mainsrream platforms too like Remotely, WeWorkRemote, etc. (there are many such platforms). 6. In the meantime, apply for freelance work if relevant to your job. You can apply via freelance platforms like Upwork, etc. 7. These days some companies are paying for video recordings of household chores etc for AI training purposes. Look out for them as a cushion until you find a job. 8. I don't know what your educational background/aptitude is or I could have been able to help in a more concrete way.
Don't give up. You will definitely get a job if you have prior experience. Keep sending applications, keep trying. And you will get that call.
Start home tution or tiffin services i know it's challenging but if possible try or ladies suit stitching work
Teaching and tutions is the best option until u don't find any good job, earning little is better than nothing
Mam, start working as a teacher, do work as a home tutor.... or start your own mess.... or start fruit businesa from very small level.....
You have to mentioned your place name ..so it is easier for you that is if anyone from you hometown has any information related to job they may tell you
If you could mention your qualifications and your field experience that might be good.
U r not alone in this situation 80%of Indians are in a similar situation.
Share what kind of work, location and salary you ok with..will definitely try to help👍 and one last thing that the only thing anyone in this stage should do is keep fighting trying to find a solution no work is big or small its in the mindset only.till you find something that makes you content do any bloody work and tell the problems that you will fight and win..been through a lot worst phase in many things but have learnt that jo darr gaya wo marr gaya..takecare god bless you and your family..har har mahadev
Everyone faces problems in life. No words to comment. God has to serve you..
Gout.. drink lots of lemon water, 2 to 3 litres.. Lemon is good for gout. It contains citric acid and vitamin C, which help neutralize uric acid in the blood and encourage your kidneys to flush excess uric acid from the body.How Lemon Helps GoutUric Acid Reduction: Lemons stimulate the release of calcium carbonate in the body, an alkaline substance that breaks down and neutralizes uric acid.Urine Alkalization: Citric acid helps make urine more alkaline, preventing uric acid crystals from forming in the joints.
Sometimes the dark period lasts a bit longer, but don't worry brighter days are ahead, just hold it there, don't lose hope. Start some zero investment business like coaching, cloud kitchen, reselling etc which you can manage nicely. Nowadays government schools are much better than before, you can enroll kids there. All will be good very soon, more power and best wishes to you
You can start your own tiffin service. It will take time but with dedication there can be success. Also, enroll your children in govt. schools. Education cost will come down.
Its very interesting to see you as a wife concerned and willing to contribute to family welfare. I think there are many work from home jobs. Select a job position that will balance with your domestic issues. Yes gout is very painful avoid red meet, cashew, etc drinks lot of water. Start believing and pleading with almighty you will overcome your pressure and anxiety. End of the day you both are building a family maintain the bond and move forward
It must be challenging for you and your husband is also going through all this so it can disturb anyone. What I suggest to you is please try giving tuition to the kids in your area. I heard people earn a lot just by giving tution and you are well educated so you can do it as long as you don't get a suitable job for yourself. I wish your husband a speedy recovery so he can find a better job for himself. I feel pain every time I see any family going through all this needlessly. I hope everything will be alright and you will fulfill all the needs of your kids. You are a great mother and trust me, God will take care of everything. Just don't give up and keep trying your best.. May mata Rani help you find a job soon. You will be happily posting one day that everything has been sorted out. My best wishes are with you. Stay positive ma'am. You are one of the most promising wives ever so just believe in yourself and everything will fall for you. Good luck..
Start cloud kitchen or tiffin service. Start blogging. It will take time but eventually givesvu money
no company should stop maternity leave, are you sure it is maternity leave or extended maternity leave? was the job remote or wfo? nothing to feel low in this...think what you are good at and plan for doing it...all the best you will succeed soon
Why always posters assume others have gone through the problems they are experience. Even if more than one person encounter same situation. Remedy or what helped them overcome will not be the same. Seek God's help, grace and direction to overcome
Sister, Gout can be cured. Real issue is he has leaky gut. Gut microbiome dysbiosis with right guidance and food it can be cured. No home made remedies or band solutions will work. His liver might also not working properly due to which uric acid issues arise. I too had this issue. Worked on my liver and kidney and also my gut. Have been symptom free for last 3 years no pain nothing. If your husband can reach out to me in messages i can guide him and also share right doctors no who will help him to cure his problems.
Be strong There are challenges in life but there are solutions too Which city do you live?
If you could share your location and qualifications people maybe able to help you
In this case always write ur education and experience so that any one of us can support help
As salaam alaykum allah khair kare allah asan karey allah aap ke hr wo pareshaani takleef ko jald se jald dur kr de aameen..insa allah u get job definitely allah tawakal..in box me
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Tuition is the best option
Consistency is the key to success just keep doing work whatever you get and keep finding better jobs
Hope u get job soon. Take care
You seem to be highly qualified and earning a decent livelihood should not be a major concern for both of you. What you can do is 1. Start a cloud kitchen and get enrolled on food delivery apps. If this is not manageable, you can start your own tiffin services in your neighborhood. 2. Start with tuition, from basic to advanced classes, depending on your qualification and knowledge.
Take this as a learning and tell others why you and they shouldn't have kids at first place when you are poor. Neither you can live a life nor give the kids a life they deserve.
So why u chosen such hubby who is financially weak..these things should be in your mind before ..people chose admi Acha hona chaiye paise se kya hota hai .. That's why I m again it financially stability matters for women who are AVG earning
Be strong , things will get better in the coming days.....all the best
Tell your location and profile in next confession and people capable of finding you job will surely help you. No one should be unable to pay their child’s school fees. We are in better time than those.
If you are not getting anything immediately, i will suggest you to start cooking in some good society houses. Even 2 house will fetch you 10 to 12k just by spending 2 to 2.5 hrs a day. Please treat this as one temporary option. Swiggy zomato cloud kitchen is a loss making business unless you have big amount to bear losses initially.
Don't think, Do Hard work every day. Be patience. One Day success will come.
You can search for freelance recruitment, it is a very good pay.
Don't lose hope....keep praying.... everything will be fine..... God is watching...
Have faith in God. Only he can work miracles
Switch places with your husband. Where he can be at home and take care of kids and home. You can go to office.
Please do a parasite cleanse not the once in six month one , immediately asap , your husband and you need guidance on how to get rid of parasites / worm incide the body which is causing diseases and weakness , it brings poverty as well cause a man doesn't have interest and eagerness to earn more
Start posting videos in YouTube and Insta.
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I saw this confession few days back...many people came forward to pay the school fee of her child. Again why?
Stay strong lady, not to lose heart, we too have had come out of this situations earlier in life. Wishing you the best in your endeavors..
Whr do u live I have some knw schools I can help u out Dm me so I can share u dnt worry
Mam, ping me personally. I can try providing some help with respect to your financial stability, like many hundred other peoples.
If you are in Bengaluru, share your CV to me. Will try my best.
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What qualification and job experience do you both hold can you ping me I can help you as much I can
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Really sorry to hear this, hope you get a job soon... unfortunately this country has nothing much to offer it's citizens especially the educated class who want to work& live with dignity, as the elected clowns have turned this place into a circus where only jokers, liars, scammers, criminals and now a days chapri influencers have a bright future here, but not common people.
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Hi. This is my post. I am from Sikkim Gangtok. Our situation became worse after my pregnancy and on top of that my husband's health problems. We never imagined that we could not even give basic education to our children. Here it's hard to get online jobs.
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Experiment with several solutions so you can settle on something which checks several boxes. 1. Find hidden talent/skill in yourself which can supplement family’s income through WFH model. You must find strength in yourself to take charge. WFH model, perhaps, will be best because family needs nutritious meals cooked by you, however basic and simple it is. You can figure out flexible hours and plan multitasking. Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed and can’t figure out managing your hours, look around you for inspiration. How maids manage different flats in the same society is a great example. Make a timetable for self and be disciplined so tasks get done. Cook double the food and freeze portions so when you are overly busy, you get a breather. 2. YouTube is filled with yoga videos which help in emotional and physical well-being . Explore those for yourself and your husband. Eg Check out Prashantj yoga on YouTube. He gives detailed instructions for yoga practice — https://youtube.com/@prashantjyoga?si=Huk_GEg2wmKA41vB 3. Develop very disciplined habit of saving. Even small FDs become big with time. So, you must save even if tiny amounts. 4. Your husband is worried sick that’s why his physical state is worsening. Give him support and comfort him. He needs his partner to show up right now. For yourself, find strength in daily mantra chanting like Om, hanuman challisa etc. Practice chanting along with your children so they develop a hood habit from childhood. spHere’s scientific proof why Sanskrit mantra chanting is powerful https://youtu.be/Z-n2cSZTGKs?si=RyzyfQEnwcLnP5Bg 5. Daily hug a tree 🌴 for minimum 5 minutes, if you have access to one. Here’s why https://youtu.be/_TZHfgXjmMY?si=6SorOtWikYP8X0u9 6. Call a meeting with your older child. Explain to him gently the situation and figure out a way to ask for his support in small things. Think ahead what small chores he can do. Remember to appreciate his help so he is motivated. 7. If you have a small balcony, start doing some gardening. Involve family. Little pleasures of seeing plants grow bring hope. Working with soil increases immunity. 8. Remember - what3ver you are doing, you are doing for your family. So, do it with dedication and selflessly. Stay away from woke liberal feminist bullshit amply available on social media. And don’t be concerned about what others say. You do what’s best suited for your family. Keep expectations low or nil from outsiders. 9. Move to a smaller home or smaller town so fixed expenses reduce. Move child to a cheaper school. Do everything to reduce your fixed expenses. Learn ways to stretch earnings. Best to you !
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When u already hv a son nd ur husband's salary low with poor health..then how come u planned another child..u being an educated working lady..why did u leave ur job..u could hv kept a maid nd continued working.. Poor planning 😢