I'm 29/M, Doctor by profession. A girl of age, also my colleague became my friend. Gradually we became very close. Although I made it very clear from the start that I'm not into marriage and stuff and I would like to live my single life forever. We both agreed but caught feelings for eachother. we graduated and she got married few months later. I was heart broken watching her marriage and couldn't hold myself up. I texted a day after her wedding that I was heart broken and made a huge mistake by not marrying the women I loved. I asked her for a second chance which I knew was wrong and she replied she's already married nothing can be done now. So i moved on. 1 month later I got a call that she's unable to share bed with her husband because she was still attached to me. Her husband works abroad and she stays in india. They couldn't connect for obvious reasons. Her parents got to know this and are ready to break this marriage if she cannot continue. But I've already moved on and living a life how I wanted to be as a single guy with travel hobbies. I don't know what to do. Whether to marry her after her divorce or live a happy single life. Although i was her best friend but I know myself that I'm going to hurt her on the longer run as a husband as my priorities are different. But I care so much about her and I know she's struggling mentally in this marriage Any suggestions on what I should do? Whether to marry her after her divorce and completely cut off myself from this.
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Marry her now. Ask her to give a divorce to her husband with the compensation for marriage expenses and a huge apology. In his next marriage with another girl be ready to clarify that it's not his mistake.
Stay single stay happy buddy...... Today's women don't have any heart feelings rather than monetary benefits..... She didn't find any monetary benefits out of her husband hence she wants you..... Just stay safe and play safe.....
The grass is always greener on the other side!
Pl marry her as when she want remarriage and for u also love is most importent in the lise
Within one month, you moved on.... and u said that ur heart was broken..... 🙄🙄🙄
If she really loved you, think deep, she would have never married. Yes you said you won't marry. Yes she said she wants to marry. But why did she marry. No real lover marries if she knows this is it. Yeh love waghare saab hormones ka khel hei..... Don't spoil yr life....in few years otherwise you will forget all you wanted from life.... Rather if you really want life to teach you/take decision for you, then go for a live-in for 2 yrs and you both travel and then see you both going your seperate ways automatically..... Coz she won't love travels and she and you have other goals...
You are a doctor who regularly counsels patients. Now you can't decide for yourself?
Bhai as a true brother I'll say. Jaldi se jaldi shaadi karlo Mae samajhta hu single rehke khushiyaan nhi mil sakta Aur ladki tumhare liye divorce dena chahta hai Isse bada green flag nehi ho sakta Trust me don't think negative about yourself. Marry her. And travel both. Trust me you'll feel so much good for yourself you can't imagine.
First you get a clarity for yourself. If you want solo life then part ways with her forever
Jo marzi karo. No one should influence your decision.
Small doubt doctor... You do an operation. Patient dead.. postmortem over.. and again after one month, same patient asks for same operation... Will you do ?? Is it possible.. just asking a doubt mr.doctor :P
A generalized formula can't be applied in everyone's life. No one knows how your bond is with your girl.
Just go your way .
Men and their selfishness 😒
Ek naya chutiyapa aata hai roj yahan
Kamal ke doctor ho ap 😂🙈 waise itna jldi move on krne ke liye kon si medicin li thi apne 😇
Jab tak laddu hath na lage tab tak meetha Aur jab laddu mil jaye to chahiye nhai Don't marry anyone, live n let live
Both stay single and let others leave at peace
साले तुम इतना क्यो confuse हो ।बडे हो गये दोनो लेकिन समझदारी नही आयी ।शादी करनी है तुमको क्योकि सब कर रहे ।करने के बाद मौत क्यो आ रही उस लडकी को
Yeh jawani h diwani k character mei ho ap yeh real life h bunny banne k chhkar mei ap chutiya ban gye ho
And he is a doctor, wtf.
There is no second life after death. This is one & only life. Marte waqt sirf pachtawa nahi rehna chahiye... So make your decision and live by that till death
You made things worse by texting her after her wedding. It wasn't your place, yet you still did it out of ego and a need for attention, not love. You knew she loved you, and you reached out for validation because if you truly regretted not marrying her, you'd carry that regret in your heart forever and not move on within a month. Now, marrying her out of guilt isn't right. You clearly don't love her. Apologize to her genuinely and leave it at that. And don't let your fleeting emotions confuse other people ever again.
If you really want to marry her look for how she wants to treat her current husband during divorce case and be prepared to be treated the same way. She is treating you as backup not the priority. If she got a chance to relocate with her husband you would be friendzoned again.. As long as you are getting actions on a regular basis don't think of risking half of your assets to your partner!!
Peak of zenG delusion.
Hehehe! You were never in love with her! You were just little addicted nothing else! Warna one month me Move on kaise kr leta jb heart break hua ho to!
ap ek mahine mein move on ho gye,ap rehne do vo Bina move on hue hi shadi kr chuki,unko b rehne hi dena chahiye..meri Mano,ek mahina aur do n dekho sab theek ho jaega😂
Marry her now . Full stop . You were confused earlier , you are confused now and you will forever be confuses . Let her be happy atleast
Stay single don't marry her
Don't ruin someone's life twice. Stay away.
So fast!!! In one month she changed her decision....in one month you suddenly changed your decision..... how strange!!! Is it possible to decide our life in one month??? So confusing....
In mahashay ko friends with benefits chahiye bas😂😂
Are most of the doctors insane in their personal life now a days?
Be single if you have to go abroad
Don't create more drama in yours and in her life. Think hard and very carefully, do you want to get married? If yes, do you want to get married to her? If answers to both of above questions are yes, then only contact her and let her know your decision. If answer to any of the above question is no. Let the girl figure out what she wants to do with her marriage and her life. It is none of your business. For the sanity of both of you, cut her out of your life, do not stay in contact with her.
Say No man save multiple lives.
Tujhe yehi chaiye tha na tho ab itna soch kya Raha hai
Yes u can marry no issue ..bcoz u like her that's enough
Stay Single Buddy
Poor diagnosis by doctor(s)
Stay single and be happy always....best wishes from a married man
🤔😕
Creatures like these folks don’t have purpose of living they can be used for experimentation of new medicine or force to do organ donation or even ethuansia to be made possible
Dekho bhai koi kuch bhi bolega par mae bol raha hu Ekdin na ekdin sabko marna hai single rehke maat maaro. Aur yeh last opportunity hai bhai jaldi se jaldi shaadi karlo bhai tumhara hi bhalai hoga. Single life is not happy anymore because sometimes we think single life is the best life but it's totally opposite. Paisa aayega jayega par pyaar aur feelings bohot rare cheez hai sabko milta nehi hai bhai. Isiliye bol raha hu bhai khushi se shaadi karlo aur thoda priorities change karlo. Jo tum travel akele karte ho future wife se share karlo acha hoga tumhare liye.
Nobody can give u absolute answer each will have own perspective. But objective I will tell. Let emotion settle dont take drastic situation either side. Time can give u answer at times. Let's see how girl respond during course of those days. In Some matter taking logical decision tough to make this is such. Her marriage was also rushed this happen when u take rushed decision. Clear your mind don't take either side drastic decision Letitia settle
🔴🔴🔴🔴🔴 If you're going to marry her, let's have a bet, Doctor. I bet you'll forever regret marrying her, like one regrets going to an infamous hospital after having a failed, lifelong disabling surgery. I'm all in! 🤝 🎲
Dono fraudy ho Made for each other,
1 minute me decision change. 😂
What a waste of 90 seconds.. FFS.
Both of you are in same line of mental instability. If married, she will find another and you one more nurse..
After reading the stories her I have come to the conclusion that India is a promiscuous country which has lost all its values..
MEN ⬆️ !! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Solo life is the most bakwas life I have ever seen. Kyu solo banke tadapna hai. Ek maard ko bhi emotional support chahiye. Bina emotional support se kuch nhi ho sakta. Self motivation theek hai par being committed will be blessings for you.
Drama
Your life your choice .. You asking for diagnosis .when you have seen all symptoms still you asking for diagnosis .. Seriously Are you really a Dr ?
N**ga you crazy?
Chutiya spotted
I hope your father and mother followed the same. N you r their result. Such a disgusting characters
Are you out of your mind you will destroy 3 lifes for sure i mean you already did
Sounds like you're a toxic, selfish narcissist. You don't want to be with her but you don't want her to break up with the husband either. Then you want her to break up but you don't want to commit. Do all the women a favor and stay single forever. Thank God they only require professional integrity to be a doctor and not personal integrity!
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