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This is my point of view: Avoid pursuing her further, because she seems genuine and respectful toward her future relationship, whereas you are here seeking opinions from others instead of resolving things directly with her. Problems between two individuals should be discussed and solved by those two people. From what I see, she appears more mature and emotionally bold in handling the situation. Even if you both get married, her past may continue to bother you mentally, and that could affect the compatibility between you two in the long run. It’s better to stop the process now rather than force something that may not work peacefully. I sincerely wish both of you a happy married life with partners who truly deserve and understand you.

Better say no marriage.. if you cannot accept her past then it's better to say bye bye .if you lost interest why get into relationship or even marriage where it would be big mess .. save your self from divorce which can be avoided ..

She Lied To You, And That Alone Is A Strong Reason Not To Marry Her. Trust Once Broken Is Hard To Rebuild. If She Can Hide Important Things Before Marriage, There Is No Guarantee That More Hidden Truths Won't Surface After Marriage.

What is the guarantee that, another girl you will meet in the future, she will be virgin or never been in the relationship? See, been in a relationship is common but making that relationship for this mush year , this shows she is the girl who keeps values in the relation and she knows the importance of the relation, according to me, if she moves on from her past and she decides to give a fresh start then go ahead, I mean if she has forgotten everything about her past, then she must be given chance too.. and yeah, it's 1-0 , soo before marriage just make 1-1 😜 ... Baat barabar.. (just joking)

Always trust your gut feeling. Ek baar doubt aa gaya, it's better to find someone else. Tell her to go back to her college mate. The saying - "no foot - no peg" is there for a reason.

Run before you can!

You'll always come second for her,never first... A woman never forgets who took her virginity... That's why the past is extremely important, it'll guide your present and future...

In kaliyug you will find it rare a person who has not dated or been with their ex. Well just take a promise from her , if we get married she needs to be faithful to you and you too. If found cheating , it leads to divorce. Before marriage both get tested for pre marital blood tests And get married

Since a seed of doubt has already been planted in your mind it is better not to go ahead in the interest of both's future.

Girls cant forget their first love or whatever, better leave and dont get trapped for life, also there is no guarantee other girls will be telling you truth so its like throwing arrows in dark. Bless you

Break today and don’t regret tomorrow… these few days will pass away but once you go on… then you are gone bro

Bhai Priyanka bolo na relationship cannot decide character of a women..😄😄

No seal no deal

When a red flag says she is a red flag, u have to just trust bro

Refuse now only if you have doubts bro. You're not wrong neither is she ...

Marry her, but in your heart, don't consider her your soulmate. Just have kids and love your kids. Just keep her as your wife on paper but not in heart.

Marry if you like her and want to spend the life with her. If you are marrying just because of society, then don't.

Trust your gut feeling, that's all. No marriages can be broken as long as the partner / partners don't rekindle their feelings back to their respective exes. And one thing you need to keep in mind in order to take your final decision. She told you that her relatioship wasn't serious but then she told their relatioship was serious. So i'm sensing something is fishy here.

Bhai agar hole hi goal h to check kar lo. Aagar aatma ko shanti na mile to kaisa lugai. If there is a single doubt clear it and you can find the answer in yourself. How come social media random person's opinion matters when it is your life. But still if you are doubtful don't go for it.

As an adult if you need other’s advice for your life decision that justifies why you never dated anyone. Probably you aren’t capable of decision making. It’s not about who is right who is wrong,it’s about what’s right for you and what do you want. As simple as that. And I know you don’t have courage to call of the engagement,so all the best 🙂

You would get a female with no past if you are into no past only females . Take your time.. if you accept then well and fine

M seeing from last few days that all have these same kind of stories.

When something is broken, it should be considered broken! There is no way for U-turn. Why not next time, you should be smart enough to ask everything in first instance even before girl shows her soft nature.

Make sure she's emotionally involved enough with you to become a wife. People with serious relationships in the past lack this part. Especially women.

See bringing this person in your life or not is your personal decision. But remember, a liar can always spin different stories. Secondly, having any past relationship is not a problem, the problem is when they become physically intimate. If you're willing to accept that and never bring this fact into consideration ever then go ahead. Else just don't continue forward, cause this very thought that this person you're bringing in your life, as your partner for life, the lakshmi of your house laid naked with someone else in some cheap hotel or hostel room will eat you inside every single day and that will act as a counter productive measure in your life and professional career. So choose wisely and proceed accordingly.

Where there is doubt….there is no confidence…..without confidence, misunderstandings grow….Misunderstandings lead to arguments, arguments lead to conflict, and conflict creates distance between people….so it’s better to say NO to prevent both lives …..

Are you scared because you're bad in bed?

virginity is a state of mind!

She be open as space ...

If you will consider her past relationship as an obstacle to your bonding with her then call off. After marriage you get such thoughts then you are heading to a disaster. If you just accept it is her past and it no more bothers you then proceed

Be ware- Stay away without any 2nd thought.

If u like her and believe u can love her and she can love u then proceed. Ask her directly her side of she will love u.

In Indian society, it's better to say No. Because She will compare you with ex for each and everything. That's along will ruin your peace

She is right, if you are unsure you must back off, otherwise you will never have peace bro. Just find a right girl for u, dont look for material things like job, salary or her family's net worth. Just find that girl with whom you can live at peace.

Bro.... If you are in such a dire situation where you are unable take decisions and trying to see some comments in social media so that you can have some change in heart/feeling then its better to leave n move on... Atleast she is being honest here The present is what matters... And one more thing... Dont chase virginity but personality

If she told you that doesn’t mean she won’t try to do it again…..it is a vicious cycle….first try to learn her behaviour patterns relating her ex….females tend to tell little details about their ex relationship….assume everything 5X of it and based on that judge yourself how far you can adjust with it….

Check whether she can be genuinely loyal and committed to you after marriage. If yes, go ahead with marriage. Past is something no one can change. Ignore it

I would say she could have hide this you after marriage too , but she took courage and told you the truth before Marriage and it takes a lot for girl to admit about the past . So I would say it’s your decision in the end.

If you don't believe you can genuinely accept her past, it's better to call off the engagement before the wedding....

If u r not too sure then don't marry her. U will be spoiling ur life n hers . U will be having this constant doubt in ur mind . U will not live in peace n also will not allow her too

She's telling you lower your expectations bcoz you will be disappointed after marriage. But respect her honesty man. Most girls will keep it a secret. That means she is serious about you

That is the past and has no bearing on how things will be in the future

Bro talk to her if the past is past Then go ahead vid engagement Otherwise u got to give a thought Because past by her should not create problems in future

Past is past... Ideally she shouldn't tell you... Being she is physically involved you do get thoughts about it so it's better don't go further

Her past isn't the problem. It's the incompatibility of the two of your pasts. Those without experience should choose similar while those with experience should choose their kind. It's about your peace of mind.

Bhaii dun leave her....agar if you had feelings before without knowing the fact...Uske jane k bad..use miss kroge aap... To soch smj kr decison lena

My views she is just perfect a person who is candid and open about her past relationships is okay to Go with if she is completely out of her past

She is honest woman... Forget past and go with her

She is ok with you coz your LPA is 3 times more than her's

Why did you mention her and yours pay package ?? How is that relevant...

Hard to get virgin men or women these days... now marriage is LPA marry LPA ,so go ahead...

If this thought is a recurring one, it's better to walk away without hurting anyone further. Better to express your emotion distress to her and see how it goes, before going further into any decisions.

Run as fast as you can, stay away as far as you can. Speaking from experience nothing gets easy I had similar situation and it ruined me from inside out.

She is an Alpha widow Run run Never listen to any woke feminists they say "why man can't digest women with past " because they never overcome the from their past trauma they emotionally connected to the first guy

bohot bara kata hain tera chutiya

Don't marry. Concentrate on your job and personal well-being. Not everyone that has taken birth has to marry and reporduce. Especially people like you should not enter marriage. Save the woman, save yourself, save the entire family and your future kids. Don't marry

Iss page ko therapy ghosit kar do. 10 me se 9 confession me sab ko virgin nahi mili iss baat ki tension hai.🥺

You should call off the wedding...the person who's revealing secrets slowly will give you more and more secrets and surprises throughout your life...better stay away with this kind of person

Say no to marriage as u are virgin till date. This will not go away with time. You will find someone better in future.

If you judge sm1 just vasis of hymen vai tu mar jaaa.... or lawda tod k gand main dal le... 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃 sry fr slang

Yup ..say direct no .. and you could share this thing with her parents... If you want .

Please call off the engagement and save the lady’s life. Good for both of you.

Every human is going to have a past. You have to learn to look beyond that

Bye bye tata only the best option and give you peace of mind.

Don't marry her

People do successfully marry partners who had serious past relationships and go on to have happy marriages. Others discover that they cannot get past it, and ending things before marriage is better than carrying resentment into married life. Neither choice makes you a bad person. What's important is being honest with yourself. If, after reflection, you believe you'll repeatedly think about her past or lose respect for her, it is kinder to both of you to reconsi marriage.

Run brother Run Dont spoil your & your family’s peace

Tujhe koi nhi mili isme bhi uski galti😭😭😭.... Men this days uff

Run away

No no no

Once doubt raises it won't go away.. It will eat you up. So better cancel and look for someone and don't even ask about her past next time. All girls and boys are into relationship now a days even last worst girl/boy in class.

Poatavanuke breakup dhaan aairuku... Podadha unaku Mattum Ava kuda nalla life ah Amaya pogudhu??

If a girl reveals her past that is a problem. If a girl didn't reveal her past that is a problem. And someone explain what he is trying to derive from " I'm from Traditional Family" bugger.

A simple NO would be so much better 🧘

Isme apna package daalne ka relevance kya hai? Tu 1 crore bhi kamaa le, Hume usse kya?

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩it's not a flag, it's a hosting of red alarm... Just ESCAPE... Leave her alone, better find another person..

Initial lying is the issue but really what do you expect from a 28F who's working ? Those days of chastity are over If that's what you value maybe you should look elsewhere.

Well leave her if you have doubts...marriage is no joke and if later you are asking these questions..you will be more miserable...both you and the wife

Leave her asap.. Dodge the bullet as quickly as you can .. I know some people never change 🥲

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How much are you into black holes? 🕳️

We handled similar situation, we told openly "I have my own reasons, i may not trust you immediately after the marriage, it will take sometime. I may check your mobile your Social media accounts whom you speak and who are your friends and office colleagues and never ever you should speak to that guy again even a simple"HI" and you shouldn't feel bad. second since you also had physical intimation when you both were young and dont have responsibilities now i never dated anyone and coming from middle class i have my own worries and responsibilities so may or may not satisfy like him be ready for this as well and third and most important one you need to love me more than that guy, then only this relationship can take it forward or we can end this here itself"

Reconsider the alliance

12l wants 36l. Who knows she has ended the relationship? Say big NO

She lied to you at first… don’t proceed with the engagement. What if she is still in touch with her ex ? You might face false DV case, extortion and finally end up in a blue drum in future 12 LPA + 36 Lakh alimony after divorce = Future set with her boyfriend

Postpone marriage Think more see

Search from village

I am 30 earning 11lpa Not getting matches

Run

Post save kr leta hu baad me padhunga

Say no to marriage. Because these thoughts will affect you later.

Say No

Limit your expectations. You're not young anymore

Talk with her properly, tell her about your doubt. If still unclear, better call it off. But if she has told you everything, I would suggest to go with her.