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Confession / Advice Needed Please don't judge me—I'm genuinely looking for advice and to hear from people who may have been through something similar. I'm a 37-year-old woman, originally from Lahore, currently living in Spain and planning to move to Australia soon. I've been happily married since 2018. We don't have children yet, and overall I would describe my marriage as loving, stable, and full of friendship. My husband is kind, supportive, open-minded, and hardworking. He works full-time, usually six days a week, and often has to travel to different European countries for work, sometimes for a few days and sometimes for weeks at a time. I know 100% that he is travelling for work and there are no trust issues between us whatsoever. The reason I'm posting is because I've been struggling to understand my feelings. I think I may be bis***al. I've always been attracted to men, but over the years I've realised that I'm also attracted to women. Sometimes I find myself noticing and feeling attracted to both handsome men and beautiful women, and it's a feeling I can't easily explain. A few years ago, I became very close to a female colleague whom I've known through work for several years. What started as friendship turned into regular dinners, coffee catch-ups, social gatherings, weekend outings, and spending time together whenever my husband was travelling. Since I often found myself alone while he was away for work, I started attending more social events and gatherings to keep myself busy. Over time, my friendship with this woman became rom***ic, and we were involved emotionally and ph*****lly on a few occasions. There were also times when some of her fr***ds joined us for dinners, outings, and social activities, and I found myself enjoying that social circle and feeling comfortable exploring a side of myself that I had never fully understood before. The confusing part is that I still love my husband deeply. We have a good relationship, we travel together, enjoy each other's company, rarely argue, and have no issues in our physical relationship. We even openly comment on attractive people when we're out together, whether it's a beautiful woman or a handsome man. We have always had a very friendly and trusting marriage. However, I've never told him about my feelings towards women or about my involvement with my female friend. Part of me feels he deserves complete honesty, while another part of me is terrified of hurting him or changing the relationship we have built together. Has anyone discovered their sexuality later in life while being happily married? How did you approach the conversation with your partner? Should I tell him everything, and if so, how? What would you do in my situation? Genuine advice and experiences would be appreciated.