33, M I am a reasonably good-looking man with an athletic build, although over the last 4 years of working from home, I have gained some belly fat due to a mostly inactive lifestyle. I got married about 3 years ago through an arranged marriage setup. Before tying the knot, I had an active dating life and was in 7 relationships. My first girlfriend was reasonably attractive, though not exceptionally beautiful, while the other 6 were strikingly gorgeous. I had passionate physical relationships with all of them, and intimacy was never an issue in those relationships. My stamina has always been quite good, and a typical intimate session for me would comfortably last quite long. Coming to my wife, she is dusky and looks okayish, though she is genuinely kind-hearted and caring. She had two relationships before marriage and had been physically involved with one of them, which I learned after our wedding. I chose to marry her because my instincts told me her kind nature would make for a peaceful home, which was a major priority for my parents. Over time, I genuinely started loving her and cared for her. We both work in the IT industry and are financially stable. I have always tried to be a supportive husband, ensuring she feels valued and happy in the marriage. We travel frequently, both within India and internationally, and are generally seen as a happy couple. I enjoy buying gifts for her, and she has never objected when I spend heavily on myself either. However, our physical relationship has always been a concern for me. I rarely feel strong physical attraction towards her, and our intimacy has been very limited since marriage. I often struggle with arousal and sometimes fail to maintain an erection, which eventually made me believe I might have a medical or s*xual problem. Last month, while my wife was away for 3 days on an office trip, my anxiety pushed me to make a regrettable decision. I hired a young and beautiful escort for a night purely to figure out whether I truly had a s*xual problem. Despite the guilt, the experience gave me clarity. I had no difficulty with arousal, stamina, or performance, which made me realise the issue was not physical. Now I feel deeply conflicted. Our parents have started pressuring us a little to plan for a child, but I still do not feel genuine physical desire towards my wife. What troubles me even more is the drastic difference in my s*xual life before and after marriage. I am unsure how to deal with this situation and would sincerely appreciate some advice on what I should do next.
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Pookie Baba was right ....Jo 100 jagah mu marega woh ek jagah kaise tikega.....go for counseling
As an IT guy, you finally did root-cause analysis instead of blaming the server 😂
Am I the only person wondering how Indian population has grown so much without any of what you say . They say thiruttu maanga enikkum..it's basically mindset .you know she is there always for you .so you take it easy .there are so many therapists who can guide you in right way .
Ye to bhut bada problem lag raha h muze 😂😂😂😂😂
Bhai u r problem is more in psychological side than physical
Nobody can get everything from a single person we are humans not robot that we can build according to our preferences. If hypothetically you leave her married someone else maybe she will be immensely attractive you will feel intense physical desire for her. But her heart may not be good . Then there will be physical satisfaction but not mental satisfaction. Which will eventually lead to disastrous marriage. Because marriage is long time thing peace is really important to work it out. Now you are getting mental satisfaction not physical. Now you have to decide for your own life what you want. Only you personally know you're own priorities. Honestly this type of problem if happen you should go to couple therapy to talk to doctor try to see if they can do anything about it . It's nothing uncommon problem actually. So instead of cheating or resenting her take right step.
Tabhi toh kehte hain na Virginity is a Gift in Marriage. Tu benkelundd kabhi satisfy hoga bhi nahi😂
Ye aisa karenge baad me wife office trip me enjoy karengi Fir ek dusra confession aayenga I found my wife intimated with her boss.
Streets?
As a Divorce Attorney, stick to.your marriage. In any relationship, se×ual excitement wears off anywhere between months to years. Beauty too fades. But a kind, loyal woman is tough to find. Note: Added Mentally and Financially stable? - Extremely Hard to find. On the flip side... think about this... she may be feeling it too. What if, she ends up cheating and decides to abandon the family simply cz "the se× was better"? I recently handled a case like this. The lady being hyperse×ual and the man being somewhat avoidant (but there was a genuine underlying issue there). I suggest, have urself checked for signs of mild-moderate NPD. As for your marriage - It's up to YOU to build the excitement. Tell her how u like to see her in the room. What lacks in intimacy. Treat her like your gf and things should get better. Escorts can be a risky game - 1 broken protection and your whole family is exposed to STIs. 3rdly, be too obsessed with a woman and it hurts ur work when it doesn't work out. 4th women with higher se×ual appetites may have a higher chance to cheat or seek better se× one the excitement wears off, if they too seek satisfaction like u. All in all... Is it worth fracking ur marriage and ur stable home for a few days of High? I would've suggested opening ur marriage- But that seldom works. One or the other either ends up getting attached elsewhere or ends up bringing home en STI. Same with ENMs. Rest as u deem fit.
no man is abusing this guy for cheating with his wife. Reverse the gender and fir gaaliya dekho
You need to go for a couples counselling ...
Let me talk to bhabhi ji
IUI/IVF krwa lo
Biwi ko bolo use dakh ke apka khada nahin hota
It's very simple. Just buy some gifts like a transparent saree for ur wife and take her for 2 or 3days without any disturbance spend quality time and night then ur issue may resolve.
I think I know the person behind the anonymous face 😂 but the story is bit modified 😆😆
think he follows soriyan :P
Happens to almost everyone at your position. The first few encounters set the baseline of definition of attraction for us. Should have gone for someone with similar physical characteristics, not same.
She needs more professional grooming and medical assistance to reach the level of your physical attraction, maybe those beautifying formulae, gym or yoga or complete overall transformation. Come on you have financial prowess, take it to where you want it up to. Come on. No woman will say no to anything that will beautify her.
Cover the face, f the base while u think about your ex's doing it . Simple ✌️☺️
Have a spine
If you are not able to have a stable and committed life, why you married? Having multiple affairs and shouting out about it in public forum is really decent? If your wife says that she wanted to check her femininity and sleep with another man, do you accept it? Have some responsibilities and commitments towards family. Wife is not a material...already you had 7 affairs before marriage.....still not enough. First change your thoughts....learn to respect your wife and live with her. If you still think only physical relationship is important for you, you are not fit for married life...
Switch off the light and continue...
STD test first
Yucky person
Check with counselor once they will counsel you both
Blud has no issue with cheating on wife now. But only has an issue with his sexual life with his wife? Vaare va. First discuss with your wife on how you have cheated on her. And after that we will give you suggestions.
So you cheated on your wife!
Post your photo and let us judge if you are handsome and athletic or not. Then we will advice you accordingly. Anyway you are going to die from STDs and your wife will be free from you. She can have a child with her next husband after you are dead from diseases.
You are for streets...Dont blame your wife.
bro open source softwares work for everyone .. for licensed one you need a key which you don’t have even if you have you don’t know how to use .. poor you😆😆😆
Aap larki hire krne ke jaga doctor ke pass be toh jaa sakte teh. Itne educated ho far dimaag gawar wala hai🤣🤣🤣🤣
So u cheated on ur wife woww such a character
u need mental treatment.keep hiring escorts u moron.Men are pathetic.
Har waqt L**d se sochna acha nahi hota - increase foreplay and play ur fantasies khada ho jayega
It's better not to have child when you don't love your wife... You are gonna cheat on her and divorce her anyway... So why bring a child to the world?
Do one thing become a gigolo I believe that will give you satisfaction because clearly you don't deserve love. All the best!
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