Hello Everyone, I am the same girl who posted #C24403. This is the continuation of my struggle since then as we got married in May first week after a courtship period of nearly 4 months. On our first night, I had told my husband that I would need some time to get comfortable physically. He was completely understanding and never pressured me. For the first few weeks, I kept making excuses - periods, stress, not feeling well, adjusting to a new family. Every time he simply said it was okay and told me to take my time. During May end , we went to our honeymoon where I gave up on avoiding intimacy. But if I'm honest, it wasn't because I suddenly felt attracted to him. It was because I felt guilty. The problem is that the connection I kept hoping would develop after marriage never really happened. With my husband, everything is nice, but it still doesn't feels same as that of my ex. Even during intimacy, I have to think about my ex in my mind everytime so as to make my body physically receptive for my husband. Before marriage, I had also clearly told my husband that I didn't want kids for at least 1-2 years. He agreed immediately and said we should first enjoy married life and understand each other better. Again, he did everything right. That's what makes this so difficult. And to add fuel to the fire. Last week, I got a call from an unknown number. It was my EX. I had blocked him everywhere after our breakup. He asked me how I was, how married life was, whether I was happy. I told him I was happy and content and angrily asked him why is he calling me now? He immediately sensed it and said that I am lying! Then he told me his grandma is very serious and one of her last wishes is to see him married. He said he tried moving on after our breakup. Matrimony apps, dating, family references. But nothing worked because he kept comparing everyone to me. Then he started crying. He said he still loves me and never stopped. He told me that if I was truly happy, he would never contact me again. But if I wasn't, and if I ever chose to separate mutually from my husband, he is ready to marry me the next day !! I didn't know what to say. I still don't. Ever since that call, I've been questioning everything. Do feelings for a spouse sometimes take years to develop? Because I am not feeling anything special with my husband even after almost 8 months of relation with him. Or is the fact that I'm still making these comparisons a sign that I never truly moved on? I haven't spoken to my ex again. I haven't told my husband about the call. I'm just confused, guilty, and honestly scared of making the wrong decision. Has anyone been through something similar? I genuinely want honest advice, even if it's difficult to hear.
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It sounds too good to be true. If it's real, your ex might be lying about his grandma, or you might be exaggerating parts of the story. Anyway, to answer your question, married couples sometimes fall in love and sometimes they don't. There's no guarantee. But you clearly haven't moved on from your ex. It may feel magical that he's back and ready to marry you, but he's your ex for a reason. And you're already MARRIED. Getting married without moving on was a wrong move. Imagine your husband thinking about his ex while he's with you. This whole situation is messed up. Marriage isn't a joke. If you genuinely think you'll leave your husband, do it sooner rather than later. Marry your ex, not someone else. Otherwise, cut your ex off completely and forget about him.
1/10 Story needs more improvements to make it believable in terms of reality. Yes for a movie script filled with fantasy and suspense, it's 8/10 - ur ex suddenly returns, his grandma is dying, last wish to see him married, nothing worked, ready to marry u if u divorce ur husband 🤣🤣
It's a common thing with everyone, our mind goes towards new( nawam nawam ) as it is human behaviour. You can even notice in every day life also, like purchase something which is so close to your heart then after few days your heart will fade on that things, it will go towards some different things. In that case you need to understand it just a our mind is playing with us for short span. In shorts it is all moh maya . Which distracts and deviates you towards nawam nawam things, person, etc . Now it's our duty to control this illusionary path that our thought showing to us temporary to enjoy a peaceful life. For more or any confusion don't hesitate to DM me.
If possible drink some 30 ml of POLYDAL....
Please don't visit hill stations or forts with your husband and also stay away from blue drums.
Shubam Sabherwal aaja bhai bachane isko 😂
Will you really be happy if you ditch your husband for your ex? Remember,Your ex is an ex for a reason.
people complicate their own Lives and then blame others ...
altleast she didnt kill him
If you divorce your husband then you be ready to write one more confession saying after divorce again my ex boyfriend ditched me twice and ask for suggestions to go back to husband. Think 1000 times before taking any steps.... It's your life and lesson for you till you die...
Whatever it is, don’t take your husband to Lohagad for trekking! 😄
It's not possible to move on...True love happens only once...
If any ex in life dnt get into new
You can check with siya goyal
You are doing wrong and remove ur number n change it. Remove all insta n fb ids. Forget past n come to real n love ur hubby. If u again think if ex. Both will say get out one day n u will be the looser.
You are a sick shit lady with zero commitment, carrying baggage of your past, destroying your husband's life. Your ex has no right to take care of what is happening now in your family, you have no values for your own family.
just shut up and live ur life wat u got now...u will be happy once u brk out frm ur stupid mind of thinking abt ur ex...dnt spoil ur husband life and both ur family happiness..ur bf is gone and let him be gone only...at least if ur husband is not good wat u say is ok but now if u do then u will nevr be happy in ur life after doing it
It all looks fake and foolish from outside. Even if it’s real, still the girl is foolish. She is at the verge of destroying someone’s trust and her own present and future. Who can save such a person!