I am a Kerala based man of 39, married 7 years back to a girl, now 38 in an arranged setup. Each of us earn around 1 lakh monthly. She doe not spend a single penny from her salary while I am almost out of pocket at the end of every month due to a few EMIs, homely expenditure, and a little support to my parents. Even for her own very little expenditures, she asks me for money. I don't mind it, though. She buys property in her name with the money she collects from her salary and says that she is collecting the property for our children, though we don't have any child yet as she has some medical issue, and I am happily bearing the treatment. I am getting worroed about my future. If we, despite all the efforts, don't get any child in next few years, neither is she ready for me to marry another girl and She holds all the property in her name, may she quit me in an of age of late 40s or 50s as any girl, without her own children, would certainly like to share her property with her brothers and nephews, not with those of her husband. In that condition, I would hardly be having any wealth of my own, nor the age to settle again. Once I expressed my fear, she assured me "There is nothing divided between us. Yours in mine. Mine is yours." Is our family cart being driven well, or I need to be cautious of upcoming jerks in old age?
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In current scenario I would suggest add your name in nominee for every property incase situation gets difficult
make sure everything to be joint property,
She is carefully planning. Just becareful
Ask her to buy the property in both of your names
Please explain to me the sentence "neither is she ready for me to marry another girl." I mean, why would you marry another girl when you are already married?
Ask her to share house expenses so that both of you could save some money and buy properties in your own names. you can also live happily with her even if she has medical issues by adopting children but the way you said about marrying another woman, I am quite doubtful of your intentions, no wonder she has no trust in you.
You should buy joint property or you should both divide the household expenses and where did this thing about she not letting you marry someone else come in between ???? Do you have an affair or something ? No one thinks of another marriage if there are no children , there are many treatments in today’s world , you can option for those or simply adopt .
Don't be fooled by her words. All property should have joint ownership else all home expenses must be equally shared
It is in Ladies genes...There is limitation in eveeything..TC... U strictly tell her house hold expenses should be 50-50%...
All the assets created after marriage will be shared by both in case of divorce. It doesn't matter who's name the property was bought in.
she never stopped you making your own property ... save your money for your old age ... If you donot have kids till now , so no responsibility ... You can save a lot of Money after Home expenses also... Her property You donot have a share ... Its her property , If she keeps you nominee , Then You just Nominee , But property will go to that person legally whom she gives it to either Gift deed or transfer of ownership ...
🙂↔️ mein kuch bolungi nahi but the way you said she does not allow me to marry another girl saying a lot about you and your relationship, I bet your wife does not trust you as well, if you can talk about bringing another wife so easily then I can only imagine the situation in your house. Yes house because I don’t think yours is a home
Joint property
Why would you get separated? Just because she has medical issues? And then you want to marry another girl? Do you think you both can happily adopt a child and live peacefully?
Isn't this what men did all these decades to women who were made to stay at home, to live with insecurity? 😅 Just wondering.
one day is hisab se kat jaega don't be negatively stay happy
भाई already कट गया है तुम्हारा,,,एक बार आवाज उठा के तो देखो,,,time to unveil the devil
You need to be cautious bro...
Be upfront bro. Don't be so stupid.
Yours is mine Mine is also mine ☺️☺️
Everything should be 50 - 50. Your concerns are genuine. Ask her to make you co - owner in all those properties if it is really for your children. Also ask her to contribute in all the expenses because you also want to save for your children.
Ask her to balance to avoid extra load on one person
Please tell her, household & other expenses should be 50 - 50 and nothing wrong with it. If she agrees, try to buy an asset on your name and pay EMI like how she bought the property on her name. If she did not agree, then ask her to make a joint property.
If u have grown doubt now itself ask her to share all expenses....tell her openly what u feel/think.... Don't worry
then why u spend on her and spend for her medical expenses...ask her to do it as fault is with her not u, also ask her to repay u for watevr u spent so far
Soon you are gonna get ducked😅, I know some people with similar issues. If they can't support their partner not sure why they marry lol. YOUR MONEY IS OUR MONEY, MY MONEY IS MY MONEY.
Absolutely yes
Men are foolish
Be smart dumbass, how have you been letting this go on n for 7 years?
Tell her u lost job & stay home for 2 months … her true colours will come out