#C27651 30M , I have been married for two years, and we still haven't planned to have children. Before my marriage, I was in a serious relationship with my girlfriend. I truly wanted to marry her, but because of my family's pressure and emotional manipulation, I couldn't. Eventually, I married someone else. After my marriage, I genuinely tried my best to move on from my ex, but I couldn't. Even after two years, I still don't have real feelings for my wife. Throughout these two years, I have been pretending to love her, even though I don't feel that love inside. Living like this has been mentally exhausting and feels like torture. About a year ago, I met my ex again. She also hasn't been able to move on, and she is still unmarried. Since then, we have been meeting frequently. Whenever I am with her, I feel genuinely happy. Every time we meet, I regret not standing up to my parents and marrying her. I often think about how different and happier my life could have been. My wife truly loves me, and that makes everything even more difficult. I never wanted to hurt her, so I kept pretending that I loved her too. However, sometimes the amount of love and affection she shows me makes me feel irritated, even though she has done nothing wrong. There have been times when I lost my temper and spoke harshly to her, and afterward I felt guilty and regretted it. She doesn't deserve that, but I still find it difficult to respond to her love because I simply don't feel the same way. Even during intimate moments with my wife, I don't feel emotionally connected to her. Instead, my ex comes to my mind. This makes me feel like I am being unfair to my wife. Living like this every day has become unbearable. I have been thinking about divorce because I don't want to continue like this. However, divorce is not an easy decision, and I don't even know how I could explain the real reason to my family or to her. I feel trapped. All of this has pushed me into depression and emotional trauma.I still haven't been able to forget my ex. I feel completely lost and don't know what to do next. pls suggest me how to proceed further thank you
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Leave her, you deserve someone pretty and she deserves someone who loves her.
If u invited ur wife to ur life That's ur responsibility to her. People's true colour is seen only When u stay with them. What everyone needs is a responsible partner Only then love has a value to it.
Time heals everything..you should take time .... What if marrying ur ex will not work too later..... So respect what God has chosen for you .... You only need time it would be better if in the past you could take a stand but now u should think about what is in the present...rest ur choice
Make your wife as x and x as your wife ....
Have 2 wifes
U have intentionally complicated you situation by meeting your ex after marriage. In India, love and marriages are mutually exclusive, understand that if you have married your love then also after 5 years you will feel the same.
When a big thing happened in life we have to accept it and move on...you are married and had a wonderful wife, it happened and you have to accept it. You want to live in past and in dreams, come out of it and enjoy your life.
What if she does the same and what solution do you give her and take it as solution for yourself
Relationship before marriage=Affair Relationship after marriage= Cheating. Hope you know that. Leave your wife. She doesn't deserve the way you are treating her. You can't keep them both.
Better you ask Your Wife Whether she have Ex. Past Current ready to Mingle 😂😅🤣
Milly Chandra 🫠dori hobe? Jhulbo ..
You don't like your wife but will be intimate with her ?! Huh 🤣🤣
Let's suppose your sister's husband has done the same and also he wants to divorce your sister, what would be your reaction? Do you expect divorce for your sister? No so your wife is your wife, if you can't imagine ruining your sister's life you should also think not to ruin your wife's life.
तुम अपनी ex से मिल रहे हो चल रहा हैं, जिस दिन तुम्हारी पत्नी अपने Ex से मिल आएगी फिर तुम नीले ड्रम में मिलोगे 🤣🤣
counselling is the best ...
Convert yourself and marry your ex. Don’t divorce your wife. Stay with both. Both of them will be happy
Ask your wife. Definitely she will have a Ex. Now comes the solution. Ask her Ex to marry your Ex. Step 2. Send your wife to your Exes Ex who is the husband of your EX now. Step 3 .bring your ex to your house. All live together in the same room if single BHK or 2 rooms. All problems solved. Now if your wife has more than One Ex.. 🤔🤔🤔. You need to have a time table
Trust me, if you had married your ex (mistress, right now) you also would had felt love lessness in that marriage too. Reason, we men often take things for granted, as your case shows. Your current mistress is not easily available, that makes you feel connected. Just reverse the time role of your wife and mistress, you will feel love for your wife too. Rest is up to you, that you want to live peacefully or give alimony 😌
Past matters 🤬 Rnda
Honestly Speaking god Knows why your ex is even entertaining you.You did not even take a stand for her & married her..Ghar walo ka itna pressure tha toh bolna tha mujhe shaadi hi nahi karni kisi aur se..May be after a While woh maan bhi jate.Apni wife ki life spoil karke kya mil raha hai she is nowhere responsible for your Trauma.Blame yourself or your family..Either Stick to your ex & leave your wife or leave your ex & Stick to your wife..You can't Sail in both the boats together.For God Sake don't plan kids for now.
Dnt marry on the rebound it’s the worst thing u can ever do…..
Ye sabne ex ex kya laga rakkha hai ? Mistress ha wo ab iski , extra marital affair kar rakkha hai isne , ex nahi hai wo
This is exactly what happens when parents are adamant and the son or daughter doesn't have the courage to stand up to them. Now three lives are suffering. I don't want to shame you. I genuinely feel sorry for you. You must be going through a terrible time. If you think divorce is inevitable, do it sooner rather than later. You're only 30. The longer you wait, the harder it will become. Think about your wife too. Delaying it will only make it harder for her to move on and remarry. There isn't an easy solution. Either accept your marriage and cut your ex off completely Or get a divorce, stand up to your family, marry your ex, and move on. If you try to hold on to both, you'll only make things worse and ruin the lives of two women.
You are the reason " why women kill " on a lighter note..
You are betraying ur wife n remove ur ex from all ur thinkings. U r in dilemma n Bec of that somebody is suffering
Past does matter
It's ok bro. Just keep two - gharwali and baharwali. Have an affair with ur ex keep ur wife at home. If ur wife comes too close to u just abuse and beat her. It's her mistake that she married you. And remember guys, past doesn't matter 🙂
This is called being spineless. You can’t love someone being spineless. Also you put everyone lives at risk by being this way.
It’s disgusting to have an extra marital affair , may you and your girlfriend never find happiness
She deserves a better life partner than a crappy person like you
"Truly wanted to marry her but couldn't due to emotional manipulation from my family" Mamma's good boy. Now kill yourself. For destroying the life and happiness of your innocent wife. Even your ex is no less guilty. Another day, why the past matters for both genders.
U r very selfish I feel . U have spoilt 2 people's life. If u were in love u should not have married this person. U r playing with the feelings of ur wife who has not done any mistake . Ur wife will be better off without u
Listen motherboard this isn't correct if u are trying to balance then stop meeting your ex. And moreover u are an emotional fool.
Oops...I think ur ex is least bothered....move on child!
Such an @ssh*ole. I am out of words. 😡😡
Stupidity
And convert everyone you wife and ex everything will be normal 😌👐🏻
OMG it's so simple, both your wife and your ex doesn't deserve a spineless man like you. Best is to tell your wife the truth and divorce her. Atleast she will marry someone who truly loves her and protects her.
Believe me, life would be so much better if we don't get to meet cowards like you
Give your wife a divorce and go back to your ex, spineless moron, couldn't stand up to your family, now can't come clean to wife. Ruining so many lives at once!