#C27637 I am a 31-year-old woman, and I have reached a point where I resent my husband. I feel like I have lost my confidence, my career, my sense of identity, and even my belief in my own beauty because of this marriage. I got married in an arranged marriage soon after graduating from college. I had no previous dating experience. I worked for only about two years before moving to another country with my husband. Due to visa restrictions, I was unable to continue working. Soon after, I had two children, and since then I have been a full-time stay-at-home mother. My days are filled with taking care of two young children, cooking, cleaning, managing the household, and even looking after a rental property. Despite everything I do, my husband often makes me feel as though I contribute nothing. I am also trying to find a work-from-home job so I can earn something and regain some financial independence. His behavior is unpredictable. Some days he is kind and supportive, but on other days he insults and belittles me. He says things like I don't do anything, no one likes me, I'm illiterate, lazy, and worthless. At times, he uses extremely abusive and degrading language, calling me names such as l**i aurat and r**di. I am a 31-year-old woman, and I have reached a point where I resent my husband. I feel like I have lost my confidence, my career, my sense of identity, and even my belief in my own beauty because of this marriage. I got married in an arranged marriage soon after graduating from college. I had no previous dating experience. I worked for only about two years before moving to another country with my husband. Due to visa restrictions, I was unable to continue working. Soon after, I had two children, and since then I have been a full-time stay-at-home mother. My days are filled with taking care of two young children, cooking, cleaning, managing the household, and even looking after a rental property. Despite everything I do, my husband often makes me feel as though I contribute nothing. I am also trying to find a work-from-home job so I can earn something and regain some financial independence. His behavior is unpredictable. Some days he is kind and supportive, but on other days he insults and belittles me. He says things like I don't do anything, no one likes me, I'm illiterate, lazy, and worthless. At times, he uses extremely abusive and degrading language, calling me names such as "l**i aurat" and "r**di." Most of the time, I stay quiet to avoid arguments, but sometimes I reach my limit and respond. I have no real support from my parents. Their only advice is to stay quiet and adjust. My husband often taunts me over things that are not even true, which makes me question myself and leaves me emotionally exhausted. Living with him has become extremely difficult, but I feel trapped because I have nowhere else to go. Most of the time, I stay quiet to avoid arguments, but sometimes I reach my limit and respond. I have no real support from my parents. Their only advice is to stay quiet and adjust. My husband often taunts me over things that are not even true, which makes me question myself and leaves me emotionally exhausted. Living with him has become extremely difficult, but I feel trapped because I have nowhere else to go.
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You’re already contributing a lot , but in our society, contribution is only measured in money… sad but true…it’s not your fault tho, some people are just shitty,,, get a job and save yourself from this toxicity, it has nothing to serve you… at the end, no one saves you but yourself. Stay strong , best wishes ❤️
Don't tolerate his atrocities, answer him in his own language, do something that makes him afraid of you, this is the only solution.
His words don't define your worth
Feel so sorry for you. This is the story of most arranged marriages stay at home mom's. You havemlost your confidence and identity. The best thing would be to start working outside, even if it's part time. You can arrange around your children's school timing. Get hold of your life. You are still young. Do something now instead of regretting for the rest of your life.
Even after being so good having to listen to all those insults is deeply painful U also deserve a good life emotional bonding care love n happiness Never ever lose ur self-respect When hes gd with u explain him how much it hurts when he abuse u If possible get a job It will divert ur mind n u will also be able to do something for urself n fr ur children
You have kids. Don't get depressed. Talk to him. If you have restrictions to work how would you work? He knows everything, but to show his male ego, he will say like that. If you have time do things which makes you happy like hobbies, but talk with your husband about his behaviour and how it hurts you.
This is too much, calling ur spouse r**ndi and all. What made u choose him and move to another country after marriage? Hardly anyone can help you. Had you been here maybe someone could have helped. No one knows what goes on in the country u are. It's arranged marriage, understandable that luck plays a major factor. But I would advise don't depend on luck and circumstances, create ur own way out if u want to come out of it.
When people think you have nowhere to go they start taking you for granted and treat you like crap. I suggest you go for higher qualification then continue your career otherwise life will become hell with the man you just described
Then start working. Simple. Hope you don't repeat things at home, like in the OP.
I would not wish what my mom has gone through on any lady. She has gone through your exact same word to word...(Apart from Dubai context)
it's time to talk to your husband bluntly. and take your kids to your parents home for several months vacation and see how he survives. i assume you are caught in the H4 visa trap. H4 visa folks can work too. best regards.
Lmao arranged marriage. Such medieval practices. You get what you deserve🤣
All I can is leave now cause I have seen my mom is similar situation at my house and she has lost 55 years of her life due to this.
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Give poison to him