#C27633 Hi everyone, I am a 29-year-old guy turning 30 next month, and I’m writing this because I’ve hit a point of absolute burnout with the arranged marriage process. For the last two years, I’ve been looking for a partner within my community (one of the prominent castes in AP/Telangana), but the response has been completely zero. I want to be upfront about where I stand in life. I don't work a conventional 9-to-5 corporate job; instead, I run my own independent professional practice. It is well-established, and I bring in a very good income. With my earnings and some support from my parents, I have built a solid foundation: I own a 2BHK apartment in Bangalore, a car, a Royal Enfield Himalayan, an electric vehicle, and some agricultural land. Yet, I constantly face bizarre financial expectations. Many families reject me because I don't have "rental income properties," or they dismiss independent practice as "unstable" compared to a corporate IT job. Some even bluntly ask, "You don't have enough assets, why do you want to marry now?" It is incredibly frustrating to have your hard work and independent career completely devalued like this. On the personal front, I am 5'11" and weigh around 103 kg. I am a bit chubby, but I carry it well given my height. Recently, I faced a very hurtful rejection from a girl who was noticeably heavier than me, but she rejected me stating that my appearance wasn’t good enough. That specific rejection really shook my confidence and prompted me to write this. Between people nitpicking my horoscope, demanding passive rental income, and being hyper-critical of my looks, I am completely drained. I have a solid career, my own office, good earnings, and real assets—yet the matrimonial market makes me feel like I have nothing. I genuinely want to understand: What are families and girls looking for nowadays? Is a self-employed professional with a stable practice no longer valued? How do I navigate this brutal system without losing my peace of mind? Would love some honest advice or perspective from anyone who has been through this. Thanks.
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On a plus side, you are in Bangalore, so your options are many. There are numerous Meet Up groups are here based on different individual interests, try joining them and meet people. Unless you are fixated about following traditional matrimonial process and finding and marrying a girl from your own community, Bangalore will give you ample choices of actually knowing a girl and then getting married. Good luck 😊
Sell Himalayan and buy GT650.
Marry in north east, genetic superioritu
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Take a break dont let these stupid reasons of rejection let over you enjoy your life , keep finding a partner but do not under estimate yourself
Throw a larger dragnet and expand beyond your community.
Bro listen to me clearly. All these rejections will go away. Just bring your weight down to 80kgs.
Next time when someone rejects for odd reason, give them back royally. If they are below to your status, give them double!!! When they can't own proper things, they shouldn't expect from you as well. Don't hesitate bro
I have a friend in Bengalore who wants to get rid of a Telegu girl 💀 if ur stupid caste barrier is not an issue. You surely have much more assests than that guy. And ofc even u know 103 kg for a 5'11 guy is too much. Bring it to around 80 and u are good to go
Work on the feedbacks sincerely before marriage. Even if you marry, there will be issues.
Did u n ur parents go to relatives house function or ceremonies??? If ur parents had tried to go to relatives function, they could ve seen a lot of girls for u or atleast spread the word. Instead of looking in matrimonial sites, look within family. Atleast, the probability to get a reliable partner, thru your relatives references is far higher than matrimonial sites.
Exactly, join gym reduce your weight
Focus on your health...reduce your weight...right soulmate will come on right time.....start looking girls other than your community...looks like your community people are expecting out of box...
Lol we all are facing some or othef problems in life.
Get a gay partner. Have tons of sex. Happy Happy.
Message me I am looking for a proposal for my sister in law. She is from Nizamabad and she is a physiotherapist
Bro they are calculating how much alimony and maintainance you can give... Why waste money in arranged marriage.. aren't you seeing the surroundings news? Enjoy your own money have some passion.. why bring unnecessary trouble?
I am Single and Age 32 🔥
I'm Malaysian and following Siya's case. Don't impress people with your money. And I see a lot of Indians are chasing status and money. Flash your money and get gold-diggers. Flash your body and get horny women. Flash your good character and you will get a good wife.
Mate I am working in UK but still I am not getting a girl because of overweight... first try to reduce your weight as per your height...then automatically you will get a girl..I am also in that process...now I am following the diet and already I reduced 16 kg and still I have to reduce 9 kgs all the best
Get a govt job bro
You need to lose weight. Stop looking.
103 kgs 😂 you not chubby you are obese 😂 .. you getting married not possible .. no woman would like to marry a obese man who would have major health issues in next few years . you want to get married reduce your weight
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What is your "independent practice" exactly? I think they are making prudent decision by rejecting you. And you are fat as fuck.
Stay happy as a bachelor.look how women killing husbands.at least u r safe sound and alive