#C27628 My husband always seems to put everyone else before me. We live abroad, and he has few friends because he struggles to make new ones. As parents, I make an effort to connect with other families so our children can have friends their own age. His friends only contact him when they need something—for example, to order something online using his membership or to ask him to pay for groceries or other expenses. Whenever I point out that they seem selfish or are taking advantage of him, he gets angry, shouts at me, and makes me feel like I'm the bad person. The same pattern exists with his family. I feel that they also take advantage of him, but if I say anything, he defends them and turns against me.What hurts me the most is the way he speaks to me. He uses deeply abusive and degrading words in arguments , calling me names like "lo**u aurat" and "ra**i" . After being with him for over a decade, standing by him through every hardship, raising our children, and supporting him emotionally, financially, and physically, I still feel like I have no value in his eyes. Over time, I've lost my emotional attachment to him. At this point, I'm simply focused on raising our children and giving them the best life I can. Life is hard
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He will only change in his old age, that's because to take care of him. So please care about u and ur kids best wishes 😊
Start a diary "red book", noting how many times and time and date of verbal abuse... Make a monthly log, and start conveying to him and his family and friends, the log (not necessarily details). Slowly he will become so conscious that he will start counting it himself before he starts, And ask yourself and your child to write god's names x 1001 times for each verbal abuse, make it fun for your child too....paste this godly penance page in walls and kitchens across the home & outside (don't tell anybody, he will understand more than anybody else), wil start shaking the moment he enters house (aur ghali dega 7 janam mein?) , Creativity has no end....ppl keep grudging doing nothing bcoz they themself hv no love left.
Mind your own business regarding his personal life. If helping makes him happy, just let he do it
Better to stop interfering in his matter. Slowly he will release.
I think your husband has trauma from his family and friends, he has become a people pleaser, kindly either have a conversation or learn to ignore, people like him have a past history of trauma for sure, he needs therapy and healing, doesn't know how to create boundaries and say No
Make a distance with him temporarily. Seriously calling ur wife ra**i? Is this masculinity? Don't know how toxic and narcissistic man always get an innocent girl.
If he abuses file a complaint in police .. why are you giving him the opportunity to abuse you again and again.. tomorrow he will beat you ? You will crying again ? So go and file a police complaint which ever country you live