#C27639 30 M 12 lpa working in gurugram So its more then a confession a serious concerning issue, So I'm bengali male living in gurguram from last 3 years working in a MNC , So what's actually the problem of bengali girls why they have became like this .. There is a girl in my office whom I know from last 3 years I liked her so much I respect her basically I wanted to marry her, but now the things that are problematic.. She don't care about me don't even talk to me properly, she calls herself a staunch feminist with a progressive modern mindset which I appreciate deep.. But on the other hand she hangs out with the local guys from the city who are deeply mysoginistic and regressive who speaks poorly constatntly passes blunt anti feminists remarks against the a specific gender I myself heard it on so many occasions... And still this bengali girl whom I likes spends her most of the time with them, travelling along with them going outside even going to their flats.. I warned her multiple times to not to engage with such guys as they are opposite of bengali culture but everytime she scolded and abused me and called me regressive and coward, on one hand she talks about how she dreams about feminine men with values on other hands she spents nights out with the men who are exact opposite of feminine traits.. Once I saw a big muscle guy lifted her up in public and she was laughing out loud and enjoying and teasing him to do more.. I remember when once I tried to gently hold her hand in office she took her hand away and gave me deadly look and said don't cross the line behave like a real men.. Remember the controversy of "370 rupee biryani guy" Few weeks back.. So this girl actually went to that shitty show with a local guy and even laughed to that shitty vulgar comment and enjoyed, but when came back she was posting the reels how this was embarrasimg as a women and sad state of society for women and concerning.. But she herself laughing that time and even posted the story of that vulgar show on her social media.. And this is not just one case some of my known guys from bengal living around in the city working also tell the same stories about bengali girls getting casual with local guys just by seeing there physical features instead of seeing their mind and morals.. It actually surprises me how bengali girls on one hand talks about respect , equality and progressiveness and then on other side they casually hooks up with the guys who are from deeply regressive and patriarchal society from haryana... Even the guys who are from other states and even from Southern states who are living and working around does not have a good image about bengali girls they themselves says that bengali girls are radical feminists with bad sociel habits.. And they"ll never want to marry them and the locals just want to hook up with them. . I request to all me bengali girls please came on track and don't go outside your liberal modern respected bengali culture or else bengali men will have no other option left then to became 'Musculine" Like other nornthern states..
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The last line is very misleading. Bong men have to become 'musculine' , what does that even mean ?? What's stopping you to be whatever you feel like ?! In fact bong men are no pure spotless souls either. IMO whatever you've pointed out is an individual stand and tbh all of us are selectively stunning in different ways. I do not see why we have to drag everything to regional orientation / interests!
I had one such girl in during my college. Only bengali girl in our batch. She was from Biotech. Actually, I got to know about her from my classmates and friends as you know the "image" of bengali girls have outside. During a college event, we got introduced to each other and I tried to warn her about the culture, mindset and all which was prevalent there. Note - I was not taking any chance on her, just didn't want her to fall prey to those guys. Result? She seemed disappointed and was talking like 'my life my choice'. Same attitude, oversmart behavior. But anyways, absolutely agreed with her. Never ever bothered her again. My friends used to pin me "dekh vo Pahadi usko pata le gaya, tu yahi betha hai". Heard she had multiple affairs, breakups, 5 bfs etc. etc. How much true? I don't know. Never cared. In the last year, heard she had a mental breakdown and matter was escalated till the Departmental head. On the last exam I saw her crying in front of a Prof. surrounded by her friends. Moral - Tor ki jae bhai? Let people live their life. Their life, their decisions, their consequences. Don't bother them else you will unnecessarily become a villain in their life. If u want to become a villain for her, ur choice. Mujhe koy shauk nhi kisi ki life ka villain banne ka
You're bengali so, you know that colloquial bengali saying right "Dheki sorge geleo dhan bhange" translation for Pan India audience "The manual Rice Husker will only keep De-Husking Rice even if it goes to heaven" meaning is even if you're in Gurgaon and that has no co-relation to Kolkata, you'll still do this side quest of judging people for useless, fruitless and unproductive reason. Advice is, please focus on yourself and your self-developement. No one has told you to become a messiah or start showing the path to Toxic Loving Pseudo Feminist Jokers, if it's their choice to get treated like a sludge barrel then let them be. As a man any woman who brings peace and constructive value in your life and is accepting of you, whatever and whoever you are should be approached as a potential wife. Not focusing on who is Bengali, who is Brahmin or who is from what caste and other nonsensical topics. If she accepts you and her parents are okay, then move forward with the same. And please don't advice or try to change society, cause it's a useless effort, smile and say that's amazing and always ALWAYS maintain professional decorum at work. You go to office for a job not to monitor people's ware abouts or seek out a GF or Wife. If a chance encounter occurs let it happen organically not focusing on caste, creed, religion. 🙂
You can’t control her choices, and you don’t have to accept disrespect. Let it go and put your energy into living your own life.
There you go you said it yourself those men are good looking and muscular and probably good in bed .. that's why she's wagging behind them
she's just not into you. accept it. why talk shit bout her?
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Only one thing I can say that don't waste your time and life on her as what I understood from your confession is that she has a different hypocrite mindset than you. In long run you won't be at peace with her no matter how much you like her.
Will come back later in the day to read insightful comments :)
Many Young Women are more attracted towards chaos, the disrespect and those "without consent" ungentlemanly fellows. They'll say philosophical stuff like "women are attracted towards intelligence/we are sapiosexuals" but will select a BF who puts his finger under every word he reads. At the heart of the 370 issue, is a story of a boy. A boy who doesn't know the basics of respecting a woman or dating. Be it 370₹ or 100000₹, women deserve respect. On the other hand, is someone who publicly accepted Necrophilia. Seksual Assault on a dead person. It's SA on a dead body. A more than "unnatural act" Severely needs a psych eval. But the boy didn't kill or chop or grape. Instead he got terminated from work. But A confirmed Necrophile, is set to become a doctor tomorrow! Let that sink in. But the social media focus is on the 370₹. People have lost their marbles.
Some people seriously trying their best to spoil our culture. I saw many people who is from bengal working outside the state, disrespecting our culture as well.
She wants it. She is asking for it. If you can give it to her then it's well and good, otherwise mind your own business.
Well..she wants to cuck u…be very afraid
Your bengali woman friend is a red flag who's using those poor dehatis for s£x and would never marry any of them. She is not concerned about those poor men who would not get good matches in future if people get to know they have been used and thrown. Stay clear of the duck girl or you might not get good matches in future .