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It was not ur fault, u did ur best , accept the truth, dont stay alone , always be with someone who can understand and support u emotionally. Whoever has came to earth everyone has to go one day , nothing is permanent, even ur pain or happiness, life should go on.

Bhai, Firstly *hugs*....I can absolutely understand how you must be feeling. Let me tell you that you are not alone. This is what grief feels like and happens with almost everyone, obviously in varying intensities. But, this is the Brain's mechanism to restart its work after a great shock such as yours is received. This is how our psyches and our brains heal themselves after the loss of a loved one. Next, the loss. Brother, yes it is painful as hell but that's how life is. Consider life as a great journey, wherein you would meet new people and lose older people constantly. That the world is temporary , is what this great loss would make you realize. In this world, everything is temporary, and since everything is temporary including ourselves, there is a need to renounce attachment and utilise this life fully and in an ideal manner, to attain greater wisdom. Only that is permanent. Next, the light that is your Maa. People from NDE all over the globe have stated that there is existance after death. If that is correct, then don't worry, you would meet Maa once again...what is important is that you need to live a full life as per her wills and wishes, so that wherever she is, she stays happy, till you two meet again. The need of the hour is to show her that you are going to live your life as per her ideals. That you are going to achieve what you want to achieve. That you are going to fight this battle of life with your chin up...and WIN...Bloody hell WIN!! Lastly, you know why people call people as 'body' from the very next second of their deaths? Because people are not only 'bodies'...Physical entities. They are a bunch of ideas, wisdom,emotions, memories etc. In that sense, how can you lose your mother? You can't. She is existing as an idea inside your brain. She is a bunch of emotions, memories, wisdom etc that is so so so very personal to you, and as such, there is no way you can lose her. She is still there. Right beside you, as a set of memories. People fade, memories don't. Think about this. Your Maa's existance that you had when you were five years old was long gone anyways, but that 'Maa when I was five years old' now resides in your brain. How can that existance of her die, hmm? Is that not real? It absolutely is! So cherish her wisdom, her love, her warmth that she had showered on you till now. Don't lament now that she is physically absent, coz like everything , even that physical absence is temporary. As I said, people meet again...but what is important is how you fare within this time in between the separation and re-meeting. Atmdeepo Bhava, brother. Be your own light. Don't let this precious time slip away. It is a time of self realisation, and wisdom. It is time to promise Maa that you will achieve whatever she dreamt for you. It is time to re-start your efforts towards life. Life is calling you. Get up on your knees and start your run. Once again. "Nobody is gonna hit as hard as life, but it ain't how hard you can hit. It's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. It's how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done.” - Rocky Balboa

Sorry for your loss, my brother. I can feel your pain. But you have to stay strong and stand up for yourself. Make her proud of you. Try changing your sleep routine, eating schedule, and surroundings. Listen to some calming music while going to bed. I hope these small steps will help. If things don't improve, consider seeking therapy. Also, try joining a sport or any physical activity that you love. It can really help you heal and regain your strength.

My sweet girl, Healing from grief takes years . Be kind to yourself. You did your best. Destiny has it's way always. She'll be your mom always and will walk beside you. Remember the happy moments you spent together. That may help.

Do something to vent your emotions and divert your attention and console your subconscious. Make a big portrait of her, worship it every day, and write down your feelings about your mother in a diary. Focus on the positive aspect how she had hope in her eyes till the end and you spent time with her vs. the ruined, hopeless, horrifying last days if you had told her the truth. PS: Remember feeling pain for a lost parent means you're incredibly lucky. There are people whose life is made such hell by their parents that they celebrate their parents' death to feel some consolation even though it doesn't improve their lives.

Brother This guilt will eat you if you don’t let these thoughts go away. You have to trust yourself that you tried your best and rest it was gods will. Remember the happy moments you spent with her. Try and do some selfless deeds, devote a small time of your life to humanity and this will change your life drastically.

I'm so sorry for your loss. No one can imagine the pain of losing their mother. Please consider getting professional help to work through the grief and guilt you're carrying. It really wasn't your fault, it was simply her time. Hold on to the good memories, and honor her by living a happy, meaningful life. Ask yourself, What would she want for me? How would she want me to live? Then do your best to make that a reality. I truly hope you find peace and healing. ❤️

This is one of the saddest confessions I have ever read. Please seek therapy brother. It will help in easing your pain.

We can understand ur problem, but it's a part of life, sometime we r helpless that we unable to do anything to our dear ones, it's good thing that she don't know about her illness reason, after few years u will thanks to God that she didnot suffer like other cancer patient, ur story is similar to my mom s story, she also don't know until she died and I always thank to God that she had little time for suffering her disease(cancer)

You need a exorcist, tantriks, good one's; bcoz her etheric body is still around you or your place; she isn't gone (go to Gaya and do tarpan , start from any river/waterbody close to your place)

U need therapy

Pls go through Therapy

Get a tarpan done for her, it will pacify her and help you

Sorry for your loss, you should seriously consider therapy. This isn’t going to go away naturally.

Don't feel dear... life will change... just go somewhere

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