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Submit ConfessionGender: Male23 June 2026 at 10:22 am
#C27585 35M (me) & 32F (she) I think I am grieving a relationship that never officially existed. A few months ago, I met someone through a matrimony platform. We started talking, meeting, going on long drives, watching movies, cooking together, exploring cafés and pubs, and spending hours discussing life. Slowly, she became someone I genuinely looked forward to seeing. There were even occasions when it became very late and she stayed overnight at my place. We watched movies, cooked together, and spent entire evenings talking. Yet every single time, I chose to sleep in a different room. Not because she asked me to. Not because there were rules. But because I wanted her to feel safe. I never wanted her to feel pressured, uncomfortable, or obligated in any way. I wanted her to know that the trust she placed in me would always be respected. Every time we stayed out late, I made sure she got home safely. Sometimes that meant dropping her home at 1 or 2 in the morning and then driving all the way back myself while exhausted. I never complained because when someone becomes important to you, their safety matters more than your convenience. Over time, I started imagining a future with her. Recently, I spent nearly ten hours drawing a portrait of her. I hadn’t seriously drawn in years. I sat there fixing tiny details, erasing, redrawing, and trying my best to make it special. The sketch wasn’t really about art. It was about affection. It was about admiration. It was about feelings I didn’t know how to express directly. At the bottom of the sketch, I wrote a small romantic line. To most people it would have looked like a simple quote, but for me it was much more. It was probably the closest I had come to indirectly telling her that I could see her as my future wife. When I finally sent it to her, she appreciated the drawing. She complimented it. She was kind. But the words that carried my heart seemed to pass by unnoticed. Maybe she didn’t interpret them the way I did. Maybe she didn’t realize what they meant. Or maybe she did. I honestly don’t know. And that’s what hurts. Not because I expected love in return. Not because I expected a proposal to be accepted. But because that little sentence carried weeks of feelings, hopes, and dreams I had quietly built. For the first time, I started replaying everything. The dates. The drives. The conversations. The effort. And one question keeps coming back: Was I slowly falling in love while she was simply enjoying my company? Was I building a future in my mind while she was only living in the present? The hardest part isn’t rejection. At least rejection is clear. The hardest part is uncertainty. Not knowing whether someone is slowly choosing you or simply allowing you to stay. Not knowing whether the memories that mean everything to you carry the same weight for them. Sometimes I look at that sketch and realize it was never really about her face. It was about hope. Hope that the feelings I was carrying were being carried on the other side too. And maybe that’s what hurts the most. Not that I lost her. But that I’m beginning to wonder whether I ever truly had her in the first place. Honest opinions welcome.
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I think you should ask her straight forwardly. If there is a chance of rejection or something it should be at the earliest. Time is precious it never waits. So be mindful of what are you doing
Looks like Mills & boon novel, overly exaggerated...
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You can ask 'her' directly.... AI is trained not to say no.....
You are simply afraid of getting into the commitment part bro. Take that leap off the ledge.
Just simply purpose her why are you making it complicated?? If she says yes fine if she chooses no that's the clarity you're demanding.
Howsoever u expressed touched the right strings..why play anonymous? Why not send her this one on one with no audience at all? If she acknowledges, u have wings If not - either front or back u coined urself in her mind for the rest of her conscious life , i swear.. Just let her know about ur efforts in proper understandable words..no gestures, no gifts not through ny tangible medium..just say regardless first or a last time..Come back with a follow up confession sweet soul💝💝💚💚💚💚
She wanted a ring but you gave her a portrait. She is sad too 😔
Pl ask clearly what she wants.
Tell your feelings clearly. Ask clear question. And tell her to answer clearly. Is it really so difficult 🙄
This is friendzone and you are emotionally connected and she is not very simple.friendship prevails over feelings..it is normal to have romantic feelings towards someone but it should reciprocate
Matrimony sight se woh aayi thi, aur raat ko 2-2 baje koi kisi ke yaha kyon rahega, woh bhi baar baar? Yah toh chithi likh do confession ke saath, yah ring lao, pucho usee, phir propose kar do... Pucho kyunki tum rejection se itna Jo darte ho.... Aur ek tarika hei, block kar do har tarike se, phir chingari bhadke ki, toh pata lag hi jayega
She is doing Kujili masthu 😉 Soon she will say ' Veetla mapla pathutanga - Payan photo paru - US la erkan.... 😉
Simple theory of female, if u give grass to donkey then he will eat and not walk with her, but if u tie grass 2 feet away then he will walk with hope ( uncertainity) Hope u will understand from this example. Best rule for men, if u didnot see any effort from female then u must stop ur efforts too
Inn Mahashay ko Sarvashresth Lekhak ka puroshkar milna chahiye
Bro thinks he is emran hashmi from tum mile
There is one piece of jewellery in our house that goes to only eldest daughter in law. I saw my grand mother fighting with her co sisters and sils, to get that as she is the elder daughter in law. She served her "saas" for years,to get that. Finally after decades of struggle she got it and handed to my mom his first sons wife. My mother protected it with much care, and after decades she gave to my bros wife. I was shocked to see that the new bride treated it as one more piece of jewellery and kept in almairah. Seeing all this from many years i got my lesson. What is important to us may not be so important to others, doesnt relate anything with love or respect. It just mean that they are not part of the journey in acquiring it (with us), so they dont experience or feel the same like us. Accept it and be happy. 😊 I dont think this is a chat gpt post and even if it is, chatgpt cant give this answer i bet😄
Being in one sided love is very difficult. So much thought and the pressure is very heavy. Just ask her directly and even if she said no you have to be prepared for that.
Building a castle in the air
Expectation hurts. Ask her directly. Maybe for her you are just a good friend whose company she enjoys.
It lacks clarity on her part. There is always a difference in how someone looks at a relationship. Its mostly a low confidence guy falling for ambitious girls and getting rejected. Rejection isn’t brutal, brutal is accepting that you were rejected after being so nice and caring and all. You played your part and she did hers. Now choose if you want to take a step further and ask her clearly for whatever you want, or want to burn like you already burning or step back and invest your energy on someone who is on the same page of life as you.
If there is nothing creating something and feeling that there is something, you are the one
Go tell her all this! Opening your heart to strangers is easy, but not to the one you love so much, its downright stupid! What are you afraid of?? Just tell her......agar maan gai to badiya, nahi maani to atleast you wont regret anything! Dont keep these feelings bottled up or else it will become an obsession and it will be too late then!
My bf bought me a watch for rs 4000. But for his female friend, he spent more than 4 lakhs when I was still in his life. Hid this secret from me and now I got to know. Yesterday she got married and he was drunk fully. I told him that I m not valued in his life, I need a breakup. He asked me to the watch ' s money. I spent him more than that, but I never asked in return. I just transferred his money and ended chapter... Someday we'll find someone who will cherish us. Don't worry brother. Let it go...
Ok ,so you people had casual sex and she didn’t want a serious relationship, she wanted the friends with benefits relationship but you fell in for her and she left . It’s simple, stop cooking stories 😂
Was this much bullshit necessary lol .. Just tell her directly get an answer... If u still enjoy spending time with her go ahead with it if she's ok, even if it means being only friend or relationship whatever.
beautifully written short story ...
Skipping this confession
Check your testosterone level..
Share bed finish
Sir, you are beating around the bush. When u have a shop owner of cake you are asking for a piece of cake. Have a cake first and then Ask clearly what u want and what she wants. Problem will be solved.
ChatGPT Zindabad, again another BS story
goon/moveon
Cuck
What’s the purpose of meeting thru matrimonial sites ? Bull shit coward
Well neglect her for 30 days , do things she asked you not to do, her intentions would be clear, seeing your simp nature i doubt you can do that