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Submit ConfessionGender: Female22 June 2026 at 7:41 pm
#C27578 Admin plz post this.I am 27 years old girl from Srilanka.i am reading a lot of confessions in this page and see the cmts.So i want to post this and want genuine advice from the readers.I have finished my university a year ago and got a job now.(you mgt think i am finishing my university at the age of 26 but here in Srilanka we get into university at the age of 20/21)I have never had a bf yet.My family is asking me to marry a boy they found as a match for my horoscope. But for me i wanted to fall in love and experience that. I am afraid to getting married to stranger.But my friends are saying that it’s hard and the time also not enough to find a person then both fall in love( atleast need 1/2 years understand each other)They are telling me i will get older, then sometime i could not find anyone as for my expectations.I am also now worried about my age.I still haven’t met anyone that i like.what should i do? should i have hope and waiting for the person or get into arrange marriage? Sometimes i think being like this is good. no responsibilities no worries. but nowadays most of my friends are getting married, having children and moving abroad. I have some family issues too. my parents are separated and my father is a psychiatric patient. i am worried that might also affect sometimes. i should take care of my father as well. What should i do?please give me some advice
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Please focus in your career, make some money, buy a house. Nothing is important as financial freedom. Men are not important now. Nothing will matter more than your savings when love will fly out of the window in arranged or love marriage. So be smart and work hard on yourself
I think you should meet the boy which your family is searching for you then talk to him for atleast one or two times then decide whether you want to say yes or no..... Bcoz if you are thinking you will fall in love first then you will marry that guy but in initial stages line 3 to 6 months guys are loyal for you but after that we don't know who they are so falling in love is scary and so is arrange marriage but in arrage marriage your family will look everything in boys family everything!!! So choose wisely if you have time to fall in love then wait for 2 yrs approx then marry your love otherwise choose other apne dil se sonchoo kya theek rahega aapke leye ❤️
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You work, so look around there. At your age, this mostly happens in IT or corporate offices. Look around where you live — you may find someone. But not really in 1–2 years; even after 2 months your boyfriend will start knowing almost everything about you. When I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend for 2 years, if I told her I was going somewhere because I had some urgent work, she would already know what kind of work it was. Once we were talking on a call from 6 a.m. to 12 p.m., almost 6 hours. Then I told her, 'I'll call you back after 5 minutes,' and she immediately said, 'Are you going to the washroom?' 🤭
Yes now ds is not time for love ..be wise n settle ..
Put your father in mental institution (government/private) as per your affordability. What mental health issue he has? Check if it's hereditary. Depending on that you may or may not want to reproduce. How old were you when your mother took divorce? If you have stayed with psycho father and exhausted mother for few years then you might have cPTSD. Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. So you will also need counseling. --- I don't know how dating scene in Shri Lanka is. But in India, it's not good if you intend to marry the guy you are dating. Most are just silly misogynists boys in grown up body.
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Nothing wrong in arranged marriage. You can go out for a few times and see if you like each other. If it works go ahead. If not step back, look for another alliance. Who knows you may fall in love with someone your mother suggests.