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Ofcourse it is a tactic as advised by his lawyer. Once you are in litigation, never agree with your opponent as it will go against you later.

Continue the legal battle, though you know him better and decide accordingly. I would suggest you to keep your emotions aside while making this important decision in life. Check within your self, is it love or is it trauma bonding?

Given your situation, you should opt for a divorce by mutual consent, because after what has happened, there is no reason for you to continue living together.-Kapil Malik Advocate

Believe your gut feeling. Also the fundamental nature of human beings never changes. So take steps wisely

Your emotions are genuine. But it's not practical this time. Again he wants to manipulate your decision. . As per your husband last statement he is simply shifting all those blames to his family. . And playing with your emotions by using your beliefs, which he installed in your mind, to protect him self only. your calculation about your husband are right. Always take practical decision in this situation. Without any regret and guild.

Please keep your feelings aside and think about your life. Your life may be in danger. Don't risk that. Play his game his way. Suggest staying separate and returning you 20 L. Keenly observe his reaction. Leopards never change their spots.

Love alone isn't enough. Judge him by his actions, not his words. Until he returns your money, takes responsibility, and shows real change over time, don't withdraw the legal case or rush back into the marriage. Don't fall for his words.

Men dont regret. It's just he changed his colour for few days advised by lawyer . No worth going back. I know it's tough for u as forgetting someone we loved is too hard but pls love ahead.

1. Go for mutual divorce and withdraw your bogus case. Yes, there are too many telltale signs it's a case of incompatibility. 2. You can't trust lawyers blindly either as they benefit from never-ending legal battles and maximum cases. 3. If you have given him money, get it back as a condition in the mutual divorce agreement. 4. There is an extremely low chance of him getting convicted if you go for a legal battle (check out the metro cities conviction rate in crimes against women and your case is a very weak one). All you will get is decades of tareekh pei taareekh (useless court dates) and then ultimately mutual divorce or divorce granted by court after 2 decades. Nothing else will change. PS: I know a thing or two about law, especially matrimonial disputes.

Ask him to live separately from his family members than only you return back.

Get your money back, first. Ask him to do that as good will. Rhen you decide if you want to live with him.

You are not in Love. You are in trauma bond with him. Do not get deviated. Just fight the case and respect yourself please. Life is too short to go through all these shitty people. I am again repeating... respect yourself enough to come out of such incidents.

1. Recover the amount given at first 2. Once the amount gets returned, Continue the legal fight until you notice genuine changes and behaviour 3. If he genuinely gets changed , withdraw the cases after watching him for a long time ... If he's a habitual offender , put him behind bars ...

Not return to him is the best thing you can do. If you return now thn you are gone wo tumko nhi chorega mar dega

Don't go back. Take the divorce and live quietly. I would even say don't even bother about alimony etc. let abusive people go away. Move on with life 🙏

Give mutual consent divorce on your terms...if he is habitual in creating issues after reconciling, he will not change...

Take precious steps towards Ur hubby... Don't go for immediate decisions to reunite with him unless he assures U in writing with the Widnes of legal Dept not to rpeary the same in future.

I think he is genuinely repentful. Give him another chance bcoz u genuinely love him. He will never dare to do anything wrong to you because he has already seen the results & learnt tough lessons. So nothing to worry! Try to make it smooth now, let him feel that you really love & care for him. Most probably he now wants to lead a normal peaceful life with you. Don't pressurize him for money if you too want a normal peaceful life & want to live happily everafter, rather don't ever taunt or don't make him feel ashamed of being few days in police custody. Try to build a happy relationship, also try to understand his real problems related to you & his other family members. Be loving & considerate to them also. To see everyone happy at home is a great blessing itself. Remember life is NOT all about I, ME & MYSELF..... be it love or hatred what you give will finally come back to you! Wish you both a happy & peaceful life forever!

Continue the legal case. Don't reconcile unless his actions—not his words—prove real change. He has a history of abuse, kept your money, filed for divorce, ignored the police, and only apologized after being arrested. If he were genuinely remorseful, he would return your money, accept responsibility, and agree to live separately from the toxic environment. Love is understandable, but trust should be earned through consistent actions, not promises.

Love is blind as they say ! Wake up! Don't trade your self respect for anything in this world. Particularly for the sake of a fake man's love. Pursue the case resolutely till the end and get justice for yourself. Be kind to yourself, love yourself.

Looks like a plot from a hindi web series

Continuing the legal battle is the good option..

Time for reconciliation is gone. Pursue the legal case. And yes, it’s a tactic.

Pls dont go back,you might be on papers the next day

Don't get rushed.. Tell him you need time, till then things will follow in there course. Take two three years to decide and observe.

As a litigator embroiled in toxic legal fight. It is very difficult to forgive and be vulnerable with each other once there is police case and what not. If both of you can do that. Well and good for both of you. Otherwise it is better that you agree to the mutual agreement and divorce. You should ask for the withheld amount and get that back. And also get a divorce. Try to start a new life.

Take more time Don't cancel the cases Tell him to wait for 1 year, and monitor him through some private deductive agencies If he truely loves you, he will wait

If if you go back the trust nd love you had will never be between you both so better tell him that seperation is the only way out.

Men in their 30s today are already well advised - stay out of marriage. Some women too. You will not have to deal with any of this, whether you turn out right or wrong. The population will reduce - what could be better.

100 percent tactics , be careful and he may play with your life once he is out

Keep fighting the case. Divorce. Never meet him alone. Always meet in a public place. Love will fade with time. Pls don't go back ever.

Pyar vyar ko dafa kr de bhn apne dil se or poora intezam kra apne ghtia pati ki ache se aisi taisi krne ka jitna tuje rulaya h usse 10 guna jyda rulane ki tyari kr usko..taaki yd rkhe dobara kisi ldki ki life khrb krne se phle.

Punish him with long distance relationship and give him time to get sorted with his family.. tell him if his family is the main culprit then.. he will have to choose either of the side, urs or his family and get it in legal writing. If he chooses family then don't giv divorce untill he returns ur eligible belongings. Coz I don't think he is serious as u r for him

Dear pls DM me my situation is same

Pandradhu ellathaiyum panitu andha po...Emotional black mail pandran, neengalum inum love pandrenu soldringa, oru sila naainga indha maari panala mukkavaasi naainga apadidhan pandranga, avanoda aaambala thanatha inoru aambala mela kaata maatanga avanga wife mela dhan kaatuvanga, same situation dhan enga akkakum nadandhuchi so, epadi aluvura ponna namba koodadho adhey maari, prachanaila maatikitu aluvura aambalaiyum namba koodadhu main ha wife ha adichitu aluvuran means avan dhan 9,nala padichi irukeeenga velaiku ponga, inum vayasu iruku seathu vachikonga, ungaluku epo inoru partner venumnu thonudho apo inoru life kulla ponga, oru ponnu police station pora alavuku avan pandran means, inum enna enna panuvan, accept panikuren ponu enna panuven thaniyanu yosikalam but idhu 2026 so neenga lachum andha trend ha maathunga, as a guy ya nan onu solatuma andha po... Worth ila yosinga

You don’t love him, your emotions are tied to him making you confused and trust me it’s a tactic to again trap you and gain control over you so the case could be withdrawn and again you will find yourself in same and may be worst place possible. Do not go back under any circumstances… any sensible person will tell you this. Consult your legal rights and protect what you can. Do not confuse your confused feelings for love… your heart is aching for what once was… but it’s gone now… so be realistic and move on. You know in your hearts of heart that he does not love you or respect you. Listen to your gut for once and do not make judgemental error of going back.

This is a love and hate situation. You were treated unfairly we do not know the reason why he acted against you we hear only your side of the story. If you still have feelings for him you can test his temperament by just going on dates with him how do you trust that his intention of reconciliation is to avoid paying you back? He may be using it as an opportunity considering you still care for him in other words exploiting your weakness. Given the circumstances such men don't change. It will subside for few months until he has some evidence from you then visa versa used the same ploy to gain alimony and divorce you. I say to you, drop it forget the rosy picture don't get fooled . All this crap his talking about that influenced him to act against you to naming and shaming you was a plan. Read my lips "Mutual Divorce" what he means is separate without settlement. The other option to reconcile, then exploit you financially more and then divorce you. He knows your weakness well his using it to his advantage. Just proceed with divorce and demand compensation and other dues to you. Wish you all the best. Men should respect women. A wife is not a slut, prostitute or a glorious servant she's your partner and equity must be balanced. Imraz Aniff

Don't go back or u'll end up loosing ur life

Please don’t go back unless you want to risk your life.

Leave him … he is playing a game Don’t fall for it ..

Please file for a divorce ..but not mutual until he returns ur money.

Dont stop, dont trust him

Snake doesn’t stop being a snake.🐍 . Good person doesn’t become abusive just because family says sth.🙄🙄You don’t love him, you are attached to him. Smart person comes out of this cycle sooner than later, fools keep believing and giving multiple chances to the abuser.

I was in similar situation trusting him I had withdrawn the case as I loved him bt later after 1 year he started doing same.. according to me self respect is more important.. my husband too blamed me and family for the everything

He isnt going to jail . Consider this before you assume ohh he will be jailed . But years and years of judicial torture you both have to face . Session court then district court then high court . Yes you can get maintance from him . That also is unlinkly since you said you too are earning . So either take a break and approach him again . Or go for mutual divorce . That 20 lakh recovery will also take years.

Continue legal battle

Leave him..he will never change

Continue the legal battle pls ..He will not change

He will call you to stay acting all nice, then be good with you till you withdraw the cases, then will either show you the worst behaviour of his or will finish you. Though this is a one sided version, given the points you have mentioned he is not a good guy. Love should empower us, not finish us, so save yourself.

Don’t go back. They might be planning something harmful

Continue with the legal battle.

If whatever you mentioned is absolutely true (the only people that know the entire truth are you and your husband) , if you still move back to him, I would be really surprised at how naive and vulnerable you could have been given your successful career and past. Even if he is changed (I don't believe any man would suddenly change like that, men know men and we are sure how seldom they change), you cannot change his family. So are you really sure that you even want to remotely give a chance to a family that did occult practices on your husband and influenced him against you? I would just leave that to you.

Once you deny he might file for restitution of conjugal rights. If you don’t go back to him with in 1 yr then court can grant you divorce. Try to avoid that.

Lohgarh trekking pe le jao usko

Physical assault and you are reconsidering? Next time you may not even be alive. You don’t love him. It is trauma bonding. Run for your life

He won't change . Better to go your own ways

It is a tactic and risk to your life also, may be, considering what is happening nowadays, so without any hesitation continue the legal battle.

You initiated legal process by initiating a police complaint and he got arrested..Simple,there's no meaningful option other than a divorce.Mutual is better ,contest if that's not happening.No way for reconciliation after what has happened already

Reconciliation?on what Grounds ,an Educated Lady if asks for suggestions then pity on the poor housewives..!! Fighting Legal battle or not is absolutely your personal opinion as you also have to liquidate money for that , our expert lawyers are sitting for opportunities like this , but going back or Reconciliation doesn't make any sense .you are 28 , educated , well settled move ahead in Life without turning back to your Dark Past.

Tell him to take some breaks for a year

"I still love him deeply" - Seriously? You love a person who beats you and throws you out of house? Not just once but repeatedly? Tell him to take loan from bank/family/friends. And return your money with interest. After that go for mutual divorce. And yeah take therapy. You badly need one.

Take a mutual divorce and start afresh. The relationship is important, these legal battles are of no use. If theres no kid involved, dont mess up your life for nothing. You are in the heat today, court dates will take that heat out and tire you both out. Finish this, money you can earn again. It didnt work out, its fine. And with what you guys have done to each other now, it wont work out as well.

Likely playing you

Run ... It's all drama. Save ur life

Tldr ?

Your affection for your husband feels more like Stockholm syndrome. Generally good people behave like you are. They constantly have two voices inside their brain locked in a debate. Emotional side wins over the realistic practical side if capacity for reality check is dimmed. Your husband is manipulating you into getting rid of the legal shield you have built around yourself. The moment your guard will lower, he will change colours like a chameleon. Best if you, even if with a heavy heart, opt for your physical and emotional safety. File for an order of protection also so he doesn’t have the option to come anywhere near you. People who are emotionally and physically abusive donot change overnight. Make sure you research and figure out fastest and reliable way to divorce. Lawyers like to stretch things as you are their bread and butter. Try to keep conflict out as much as possible. The sooner you wrap things up legally, sooner you can invest in nurturing your self. Keep ego out and donot sweat the small stuff when in court. Stay focused on the end goal.

He won't change. You will be left again , he may plan some elimination move on you. It may be to eliminate you from this planet. Going back is High risk. People don't change under tensed circumstances, they mask to avoid danger.

Things are beyond repair now. Get your money back and some in addition. Then live happily after.

Take some more time and make a decision

Never trust on a crying woman

Do you really think you two have a life together after what had happened and reading what you said..🤔🤔 You are in a better situation and you seem to be ahead of him

There are real physical abuses and then there are false allegations because the law is one sided, against men in India. If this is a genuine case, why would you want to reconcile? What was the reason for physical abuses? Is he culturally backrupt so that he and his family believe dowry is a part of life? Or is it both of you are trying to build a shared property as your own family? If dowry is involved, you are an idiot trying to go back. Next time, you might be coming back inside a coffin. So, dont listen to toxic feminists or outsiders. Also don't listen to your parents if they are the type that asks women to adjust because its all part of Indian matrimony. Think logically and take a wise decision. It is your life. Be a self respecting, decent and valuable person. Do the right thing.

Go back if he returns your money immediately and stays separately if really his family is the problem and not himself. Continue the case otherwise

Continue with Legal battle

Dont trust him.

Hey, the duration of oneness is done once the battle enters the courts. Now you are simple Plaintiff and he is defendant. Just take mutual divorce and move on. If you go back, you will be simply considered an inferior object and the torture will continue. I never heard a person changed and leaving happily after disputes.

Tell more detail about OCCULT ROUTE that your husband family used. You may have to take occult route too….

No going back please.

Girl dont fall for this trap!! Your stern action against him has triggered his fragile male ego. Narcissists never change, he was already given many chances but he failed them all. He fears alimony thats all, he wants u to be trauma bonded with him. Given, u r independent refuse alimony and with dignity come out of this marriage. Toxic people never change, i myself suffered from such a man.. reconciliation will keep u insecure always.

Continue the legal battle sister. Not genuine behaviour at all; all calculated attempt to escape it and get you back as a maid. DO NOT RETURN.

Get all your money and then get a divorce. You cannot lead a peaceful life with him again.

No.dont believe him

This is too much too handle in marriage. Is he genuinely loved you, he would have not repeated done same things. Looks again tactic to withdraw case. Better get divorce and leave happily.

He just wanted to get ridd off from cases and will not return money. Be careful if he asks again

Jo itne dino me nhi badla suddenly changed its means something is fishy... Please do go there... Bcz of his career and all he doing drama

How can these people earn 1.5 lakh per month. Who pays them so much money what job do they do and are they good at their job

Do not go back, ask him to pay atleast 50000 per month or else take loan and pay emi and pay you full money back, go for mutual divorce, do not return back do not withdraw the cases until money comes back, happy times ship has sailed, now he just want to save himself from cases, u will repent more if you go back, never do that, move on but take your money also and some alimony also if possible.

Continue the legal battle

Nope. Don't return!!

DO NOT GO BACK Men like these don't change, he may do something harmful to you if you return

He doesn't love you. Be practical, he wants you to withdraw your case nothing else after that he will divorce you it seems. You know better than us what kind of human he is. So see all his behaviour he did. Again he will repeat it. If you are in a good job, no child, can see for separation.

Your side say BIg Nooooooooo. Just final mutual divorce. Still ur in Confucius, take ur parents guidence.

Don't go back. Nowadays, there are many crimes happening. You can't trust him and his family after all these things.

Do not trust him and his family.

Far too much happened jail and all. Going to extent of criminal case and putting him in Jail. Bridges are burnt .it will only inceesee toxic loop from here on. I would advice u too be careful there are times taking tough decision important not emotional one

This chapter is over and if you both get together it is not good for both of you. Make sure he gives back all ur money and things and leave him. Find a new life this is over long back so don't hang on to it.

Difficult part is stilll you r loving him is very dangerous. How can you love hiim, if he has treated you so bad. If u accep him now, later noone will save ur life. Divorce him , come out of toxic relationship and marry someone good person. Dont do mistake of staying agaiin with him. Dont be called as mad person.

If you have career why you have opted for marriage and settled in someone else's house ?? should have opted for live-in and stayed outside ..

Continue your fight no need to trust a manupilator

Another example women misusing the law 🤡