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#C27556 F26 I was in a relationship for three and a half years with someone I met online. From the very beginning, it was a long-distance relationship. I was living in Canada, and he was living in the United States. We also came from different castes, but that never mattered to us. In the beginning, we were very close. We spent hours talking, shared everything with each other, and built a strong connection. We supported one another through challenges, celebrated achievements together, and became an important part of each other’s lives despite the distance. After one year of being together, we met for the first time when he came to Canada. That meeting strengthened our bond even more. After that, we made efforts to meet every five to six months and spend time together whenever possible. I informed my parents about our relationship after our first meeting. My parents encouraged him to tell his family as well, but he wanted to focus on building his career first. We respected that decision and gave him the time he felt he needed. He was always honest that marriage was a big decision for him and that he wasn’t ready to make that commitment early in the relationship. We understood that. However, after around two years together, he told me that he could see a future with me. It gave me hope because it felt like we were moving towards the same goal. At the same time, he made it clear that his parents’ approval would be important because we belonged to different castes. We knew there could be challenges, but we believed our relationship was strong enough to face them. Two months ago, after three and a half years together, he finally informed his family about our relationship. Unfortunately, they rejected it immediately. They refused to meet me or get to know me personally. Despite not knowing me or my family, they formed negative opinions and decided that I was not the right match for their son. My parents even tried reaching out to them in the hope of having an open conversation and clearing any misunderstandings. However, their decision remained unchanged. What has hurt me the most is what happened afterward. During these two months, he changed completely. Instead of standing by the relationship we had built over three and a half years, he gradually gave up and eventually ended things. I never expected him to choose me over his family. I only hoped that he would stand firm, communicate with them, and give them time to understand. Family concerns and cultural differences are not resolved overnight. I believed that if he truly wanted this relationship, he would continue trying rather than ending it so quickly. Like every relationship, we had our ups and downs, but we shared a deep bond and supported each other through some of the most important years of our lives. We faced distance, career struggles, and uncertainty together. It honestly hurts to think about how I invested three and a half years in this relationship, while he took almost a year just to give clarity and commitment. And when I am asking him now to give his parents some time to understand and think about us, he is not willing to wait or try anymore. That is something I really struggle to accept, because it makes me feel like all the patience and effort from my side meant less. Today, I am not questioning his family’s decision as much as I am questioning why someone who once spoke about a future together stopped fighting for it. Sometimes relationships don’t end because there is no love left they end because one person loses the strength or willingness to keep trying.