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Everything was understandable until the 'simple married girl' 😑 Bhai koris na! Do you even know why she was divorced in the first place? And if you had 2 past relationships and then fed up then u are not single by choice but by chance. And she also, it can happen she wants to get rid of her ex husband. I won't say divorce is a bad thing but this heavenly connection which u are feeling with her can also be due to the backgrounds u two are coming from. So don't rush, use ur brain and then decide so that later u don't come up with - now I understand why she was divorced and become single again by choice 😑

wait first for divorce , secondly know why is she divorcing ? how do you know it would not happen to you ? divorces always have 2 way story ... You donot know actual story ... so best would be go to her court date to understand what happened ... Then you will understand what is cause ? .

The fact that she didn’t do well in first marriage doesn’t mean this will repeat. It can also be the other way round - maybe she will learn from all things that went wrong and be a better person and handle the relationship with you more maturely. Please do not listen to others.. you also went through break ups but that was with girlfriends.. hers is a breakup with husband. If there are any doubts.. you can live in with her for a year or so till the divorce finalises. That will give you a good insight into the future. Also, I am aghast at reading the men’s POV in the comments.. why do sexist against a divorced women ? I am sure a lot of people in the comments section are also not entirely happy in their marriages.. this girl on the other hand had the guts to take a stand for her life and rebuild it ! Grow up guys

Choice er shradho hoye gelo.

Bhai, beshirbhag Odia hoite sabdhan🙏🙏🙏 Nijer life er experience theke bollam. Baki tomar luck 😊

Started with happily single. Ended with looking to marry a girl who is getting divorced. I dont think the confessor's family is really too forceful with respect to marriage. None of the confessor brothers are married. Confessor is 35 middle child so the elder one must be atleast a year or few years older. Now lets come to the girl. Why has she taken up so much time to file the divorce? Was she looking for another partner whom she could marry before actually seeking divorce? Please be very clear can you take the responsibility of a married man? Spending few hours together with no commitments and actually deciding to get married are 2 different things.

If she hasn't divorced in 5 years and living alone, she probably wont She could be living in different cities only for work and might return to the marriage... Whatever the reasons and she actually gets divorced, don't judge her..let her be Still, Be careful...back off, this is best

Being divorced person doesn't mean he or she not good partner because of bad decision so yes you want to married her that not your parents problem you have to live with her.

Unless you want to get married, no one else would need to be convinced other than you. If you have the clarity then go ahead or let her go by being honest with her.

So your parents are ok with all 3 sons staying single. But they might not be ok if 1 son decides to marry a divorcee? Check if you are from a dysfunctional family. You and her both need to heal before you two step into committed relationship.

I really admire your mindset. Divorce doesn't diminish a person's worth and unfortunately many people fail to understand that. Kudos to you for that! 👏 Regarding your parents, explain to them how happy she makes you and all the reasons why you chose her. It may take time, but they'll eventually come around. One small piece of advice, if you haven't already, make sure you truly get to know her. Long distance communication doesn't always reveal important aspects of a person's behaviour. So have more in-person interactions. I really hope things work out well for you. You seem like a genuinely good person. Good luck!

Isme kya guidance? You want to hear a " no " response? Nobody can predict long term consequences, not even astrologers... It's good & bad (bcoz she was a failure nonetheless) both, but how you pull it off, wil matter more... Atleast don't expect only bed of roses, is a advice if you needed it sincerely.

I don't think at this point your parents will be opposed to any girl you are marrying. You are 35 and not interested in marriage until now. Do you know how much your parents are dreaming of your wedding? First let the divorce get finalized for that girl. Then introduce her to your parents and let them know about her past. Just tell them that this is the girl you want to get married to, do not ask for their permission, just blessings.

Don't trust 100 percent whatever a woman says. Judge her actions.... She is divorced for a reason. Remember. There's 2 sides to every story. No 3. History can repeat.

What did you see in her which her husband didn't see in her? Now are you ready for marriage or should you get some signals from sky to get married?

Very much relatable, just age is less and relationship count is more 😛

Get the divorce done and date for sometime before getting married and involving parents.

Well, I'd say first let the divorce happen, parallel get additional details about her, if possible hire an investigator and find out (not discouraging but seeing recent events, suggesting) and once everything clicks - convince the world

Don’t do it. It sounds like you were just avoiding an arranged marriage and were not single by choice. It’s a disaster you are headed towards.

Understand the root cause of divorce, may be you know only one side of story. I think your parents will be against, if she is able to convince them by her own, just be there for her. Let her do the magic. This is my opinion.

5yrs away from husband, why it took so much time to divorce especially with no kid? … living a single life before getting actually divorced! as a married man, would you allow this? you should spend more time with her and don’t ignore the red flags.

Brother you should start with a score of 0-0 and not 1-0.

Who’s gonna tell him… feel sorry for bro

Go ahead...

No plz!!! My is 30 and he made the same mistake..he supported her daughter's education...I never knew anything..he will discuss everything only with his sister.. yesterday when he visited her house it was locked and they left Bangalore....now you decide you want a peaceful life or complicated life?!

Brother thamba thamba, let her heal completely and you dont know the other side for divorce. So jo honeymoon is attachment, love bolkr math sochna🙌🏻

Bro please need your help

ভাই একদম করিস না, নিজের বিপদ নিজে ডেকে নিয়ে আসবি, এখন প্রেম এর মহে পড়ে আছিস বুঝবি না, observe করে দেখ alimony চাইছে কিনা, Jodi dekhis mutual divorce নিচ্ছে তাহলে কিছুটা বিশ্বাস করা যায়, আর যদি দেখিস alimony chaiche তাহলে ওইদিকে জাস না ভাই। লাইফ spoil হয়ে যাবে

*EXTREMELY LENGTHY REPLY ALERT, APOLOGIES FOR THE RANT* The entire situation is filled with red flags and contradictions. Here is my take on the whole mish-mash that you find yourself in - Being a divorcee myself, I wouldn’t consider being a divorcee as a red flag, but the duration of 5 years of the girl remaining married but separated and not initiating a divorce till now rings loud warning bells. The reason for separation and not filing for divorce for such a long time is a clear red flag and a recipe for disaster. - You say you are single by choice and not chance, but have 2 failed relationships, please introspect and take a hard look at why you are where you are, you are not single by choice, you just gave up on relationships. - You state that you are happily single and that societal pressure should not be a factor in you getting married, but suddenly you have the urge to get married to this person. Please think hard and come to a realisation if this is because of desperation, pressure of your siblings not getting married, pressure of your parents wanting you to get married, temporary urge for companionship or is it really a connection built on mutual trust, respect and practicality. - DO NOT TAKE AN EMOTIONAL DECISION. Think practically, because this is a decision that will shape your life. Find out the legal aspects of the separation that this girl is going through, were any criminal cases filed by the girl against her husband, has she filed cases for maintenance/ alimony or Domestic Violence to get compensation. How you find this out is upto you, if you trust her enough, ask her directly, if not engage the services of a good private detective and find out the actual facts - If she has filed cases for maintenance against her husband and is receiving a monthly maintenance currently, once you get married to her, that maintenance will stop if her husband finds out she has married again after the divorce. This is a very tricky situation, she might agree for marriage now, but once she gets the divorce, she might suggest a live-in relationship since she might want to still have the benefit of getting a monthly maintenance from her ex- husband. Many people (especially feminazis/pseudo feminists) will say that this a very patriarchal/ misogynistic way of thinking but that is a load of crap and doesn’t bother me. - Find out about her family background , her upbringing and what her family feels about the fact that she was separated for 5 years, wants to get a divorce now and immediately get married to you. This will give you the maximum clarity. All I want to say is do not rush into a decision driven only by the fact that you are single at 35 years of age and feel the pressure of getting married. Take a deep look at your situation, speak to your closest friends and consider taking counselling with an experienced mental health professional, there is nothing wrong with it. P.S. - It’s heartening to see some women in the comments section suggesting and advising to exercise caution and find out both sides of the story and not just blindly support the girl because the marriage did not work and that she is separated now. - I might get hate from a lot of feminazis and pseudo feminists for my comment and I could care less about it, I will not reply and engage with comments from feminazis and pseudo feminists.

Itna shaadi karne ka craze kyo hai bhai? You know na ki kya chal raha hai ajkal.

God bless you.

Pyaar kiya toh darna kya. Jao aag laga do Duniya ko.

Isska ky jawab de samzz nahi aa raha h 😇

Waiting for sad confession

May be this girl will be loyal to you and stay forever

Wow ... I mean WOW... You met someone through Instagram... And they told you some garbage story that you didn't validate and decided you want to marry this person... Think from logic, why divorce, what was wrong in the marriage, what is wrong with the husband, if the husband was wrong why did she marry him in the first place. All these questions need to be clarified. Don't take a stupid decision that you'll regret later. Don't be desperate, the reason majority men try to go for past free women is no one wants to get in a legal battle or worry about being cheated on or have that looming fear of being murdered. See the problem is not with someone who's divorced but it's a huge decision where if someone has done it with someone who wanted to spend their lives together once, you can be the next stupid naive victim. On contrary she could have genuinely been stuck in a toxic marriage, whatever be the case. Get your logical points clarified before ending up dead or in the divorce court where she's trained and your a dumb novice.

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There was no question in the post , nice story , feels like u both know each other, matured, lessons learnt from life, at this age parents won't bother much, you both r waiting for the legal divorce, good take, u both will get more time to know.... Where's the problem?????? Some one else facing same situation will not fit in your situation..... Everyone's thots, mentality, family situations, interpretation on such situation many more things will b different..... Everyone will advice u based on their level of experiences..... Follow your heart.... U both know the answers already. The more people involved the more confused you will b and may feed in negativity even if there wasn't at first place

Better talk to her inlaws and husband once

Ur parents should be happy that at least u r getting married to a female as they must have lost hope to see any of their kids getting married.