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#C27588 Hi, I am a NRI who works in UAE. I want to talk about my marriage life. I was married 10 years back to a decent soft person. She was working in UAE in that time and I was in India. We where in long distance relationsip for the first year with me trying to get a job here. It took almost a year for me get a job here. During this time we had a tumolous relationship with she doubting me for having relationship with my juniors in office. Somehow we made it to first year after which i got a job here. We a difficult relationship with me not finding her much attractive, and intimacy between us being very poor. She did not have any expereince before marriage and so I was not satisfied. With a high tempo,i kept trying to chat girls online. Mostly just chit and chat, but sometimes adult chat. Anyhow we had our first son and after that things quietened for some time. UAE has lot of Massage parlours, and i used to be a frequent visitor. I understood this to be better than chatting with girls online , since this was more secretive and gives real pleasure. Recently my wife caught me with a visit to a parlour and we had a emotional breakup. Though she did not take it far, she is now denying me having intimacy with her. She is telling she dont want to have intimacy with me whatsoever. Sometimes i feel bad when she does not allow me to touch her or become close to her. But she has now given me full permission to go to any massage parlour whenver i want. I know in my mind. i find it very less attraction to my wife. But still i find i peace i living with her, after all this years. I dont want to leave her, but i know I am not satisified with just her. In a limbo what to do ,I tried making up with wife but she remians adamant. I am 40 now so options are also less. Please suggest what i can do.