#C27521 35 M, My doubt is all about prioritize my se#ual orientation, I am not straight which I am sure 100% When I was 14, I got s*#@ally abused by 17 old my school senior. Later my attraction started with guys, met many and had physical relationship with them, mostly those are One Night Stands (ONS) , No string Attached (NSA) Later when I turned 28, my family started seeing me aliance, I avoided years, later by emotional blackmail from my mom, I got married 2 years back. Me & my wife had physical relationship for 3 months, later due to ego clash, misunderstanding we separated. Again I started hookup with guys. I got divorced with no kids. My mom now insisting me to go for 2nd marriage, get her grand children. I even want to have children. But myself, Bisexual, choosing another girl look riskier to run a life. I aware gay relationship not sustainable & widely acceptable in india and moreover I am not ready to come out as Bi itself. For example, if I see 100 people in road or public places, assume there is 50 men and 50 women. I will watch out all 50 men but see only 5 to 10 beautiful women. So please help me to find out. 1. Should I go for 2nd marriage, get children to run sustainable life like everyone? 2. You are more into man, get a male life partner, adobt or surrogate kid by moving abroad, live peaceful life. 3. Don't marry or get any partner, be happy with ONS & NSA (Kept tested every 3 to 6 months)
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"sexual orientation is like a spectrum". From your post, I understand that you are bisexual, with a stronger preference for men. In my opinion, you shouldn't complicate your life by remarrying. Don't feel pressured by your parents' expectations. Their priorities and life circumstances are different from yours. I would advise you to be cautious about disclosing your sexual orientation, especially in India, where social acceptance is limited in all communities. Unfortunately, your close relatives and friends may distance themselves or judge you unfairly.So, Never disclose ur identity to anyone. Stay calm and take your time. It is perfectly acceptable to remain single if that is what brings you peace and authenticity. I understand that you like children and may currently feel a strong desire for parenthood. However, before deciding to remarry, think carefully about the long-term reality. Marriage means sharing your life every day with a woman. If you are not emotionally or sexually connected to your spouse, that could become a source of ongoing unhappiness for both of you. In the long run, being without children may be easier to cope with than being trapped in a marriage that lacks genuine emotional and physical compatibility.
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Accept it and enjoy your life, tell your family who you really are...
If you are more attracted to men, don’t marry a woman just because of society’s expectations. It could hurt both of you. Focus on understanding yourself, dive yourself into spiritually, and look for a meaningful relationship instead of seeking temporary satisfaction with multiple partners.
Try to understand your sexuality first. Tell your family the truth. If you are more inclined toward men, don’t marry. Neither of you will be happy.
LGBT relationships are very well accepted in India. Esp. as long as you're not dependent on anyone and 1st accept yourself. You will then need to focus on finding a partner who is accepting of their own orientation too. You and your family will certainly need counseling. Mark my words, you may call yourself 'Bi', but from what you shared, you seem at least a 4.5 on the Kinsey. Your 1st marriage may seem like it broke over ego, I assure u it wasn't. Egos get subdued when basic compatibility exists. It flares up when compatibility doesn't exist. Marry anyone u want, the danger of u falling into a case of Marital Fraud and worse case of divorce will be very very high. I'd suggest 'Man Up' and come out to ur parents. It may be tough at first, but if you're well settled otherwise and seeing what u went through in your 1st marriage they may be more understanding. Plz feel free to DM, would be happy to refer you to LGBT friendly counselor if required. There are also Pro Bono peer counselors for you to start with - Like Safe Access, Humsafar Trust (NGO HQ Mumbai), and the LGBT centre in Delhi (Naz Foundation). [Since your location is not shared, u may share it in your next post, we'd be happy to help as Allies].
Dharam bhrasht is what this is called , go and shudikaran yourself . What I mean i mean is you have got parasites inside you of other men which has caused your hormones to go more on production and your feminine energy is high , this is caused by parasites within you , take anti parasitic medications and supplements to fix this problem and you will be able to generate male hormones more . This biological problem and you need to help only if you see that way , but if not you will remain with those parasites and those emotions thinking that is your identity which is not actually. All the best
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Find a guy . I think u are someone who wants to settle down so I think if u try to find out some good partner I think it will be extremely helpfull for you
Pls don’t spoil someone, tell to your parents
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Go for 2nd option which is more viable for your and everyone’s happiness even if they do not accept immediately or accept it late.
no need to ruin the life of another woman. you please be happy with that 50 men
2, 3 would risk you to diseases.
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Guess u should consider a specialised doc
Get a male partner abroad but no child pls
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DON'T EVER REVEAL U R BISEXUAL. It's going to impact ur parents more than u can imagine. Just shut up n do 2nd marriage. Get a child. Keep ur wife happy. Keep the affair secret n guard it like ur life depends on it. Don't ever listen to anyone here suggesting u to be honest n open. U n ur parents r the one who r going to undergo the trauma coming up next.
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Please don't spoil an innocent woman's life. And a question, are majority of gays/bisexuals like this only? Hooking up, casual sex, one night stands with no loyalty, commitment or emotional connection.....
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Nonsense first move away from your mother...she did take care of you properly..she did not notice what was happening around her.