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Submit ConfessionGender: Female16 June 2026 at 11:35 pm
#C27499 I feel exhausted and drained. If I'll disclose this to my new partner will it backfire? Hi everyone, throwaway for obvious reasons. I'm 35F, single now, and still trying to heal from a 10-year relationship that ended in early 2025 in the absolute worst way. I've shared bits before but left out important context because it's hard to admit. Posting fully anonymously now because I can't stop ruminating and need perspectives from other women. We were together 10 years. From 2021 onward, I clearly and repeatedly told him I did NOT want marriage with him or anyone. He said he still hoped for it someday but decided to stay in the relationship anyway. For most of those years, things were genuinely good: we travelled, had fun, laughed together, intimacy was always consensual and mutual. No big red flags. I stayed because I cared about him, it felt comfortable, and I was afraid of being alone. Then in early 2025, my anxiety hit hard. I started questioning everything: "What am I doing here? I don't want marriage, this isn't fair to him or me, I was wasting time." So I initiated the breakup. He wasn't ready begged for closure, kept pushing, got angry. Fights blew up over WhatsApp with abuse and threats ("you'll regret this," "I'll make sure you suffer," etc.). I became genuinely scared. He also owed me a significant amount of money (promised to return it) and refused after things escalated. In fear and panic, I filed a case under IPC 376 on false promise of marriage. I know I had said no to marriage years earlier, but in that moment of chaos, I convinced myself his early talks about marriage (even after my refusals) and our long-term physical relationship might qualify as deception. The case proceeded briefly, then we settled/compromised he gave me the money we took more for what he actualIy owed me and my mother was supportive with this. I don't have a dad and we compromised I withdrew, everything closed legally. Now the guilt is crushing me. I keep replaying it: I stayed knowing his hopes, continued the relationship physically, then used a serious legal provision (meant to protect against real deceit) when I wanted out and felt threatened/needed leverage for the money/harassment to stop. It feels like I twisted a consensual long-term dynamic in a way that wasn't honest. I'm struggling with self-doubt, shame, and fear this will affect how I trust or open up in the future. Has anyone here gone through a really messy, fear-driven breakup where actions in the heat of the moment left you with heavy guilt/regret? How did you process it, forgive yourself, or come to terms with what happened? Any advice on rebuilding trust (in others and myself) after something like this? Stories of moving forward to healthier relationships would mean a lot. I'm not looking for easy reassurance just honest experiences and thoughts from women who've navigated similar emotional aftermath. Thanks for reading this wall of text if you did. Open to any insights.
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Once a ₹and is always a ₹and
By reading itself felt difficult and sad for the guy, imagining what he would have gone thru trusting you.
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Can cybersecurity track this person and log a fresh complaint for false FIR?
I would not shame you as it seems like you are already suffering from it. If you were upfront about not wanting the marriage, you did nothing wrong. He should have let you go when you wanted out. When he forced you to stay in a relationship, he became controlling and abusive. Yes, the false case was very wrong on your part and would have been avoided. But it already happened, there is nothing you can do to reverse it. Now if you really need to forgive yourself. If you have taken extra money from him ( more than what he owed you), return it back.or donate it to the needy. Forget about relationships in the near future and focus on your spiritual growth. Meditate, volunteer, join the gym, classes to learn new skills, go on vacation. Give at least 3 hrs per week of your time in volunteering for some cause without expecting anything in return. It is a wonderful way to purify conscience. Actively work towards forgiving yourself and do not repeat those mistakes again.
Please consider therapy . Fearful avoidance might be a thing here .
You did wrong, plain and simple. Live with it. You’re not a child to cloak twisted means as ‘in the heat of the moment’
The mother is same like the daughter. Supporting her child with the false case🙏. And talking about guilt?? It seems more like asking for sympathy on social media and justification of the act
Well, Krishna had said that not even a leaf falls off without his explicit will. So for whatever you had done, essentially you were just the instrument, God is still the real orchestrator. Now about Karma, this is far complex than simple “this equals that”. People suffer consequences of bad karmas they committed in past life (s), no suffering is unsanctioned be it fair or unfair. So just detach yourself and move on. Shit Happens !!
Tell your new partner you really don’t want marriage and you are very clear with that. And you will not get convinced so he should not hope for it. Only if he shares the same wavelength then to be with you. Thinking that afterwards you will change should not be expected out of you.
I honestly pray that u should get what you deserve...nothing to judge or hurt you. But sometimes u never understand what you did to someone until you get the same. Kindly don't play victim card after destroying someone emotionally, financially
Be clear with your new partner and see where it goes. Don’t start with a lie as it may backfire anytime I guess you should stay single the way you wished initially
If you are 35, he might be elder to you. Right....? Who will marry a guy after 35 that too a person who faced criminal charges....? You ruined his life too. Do you know that.....?
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You are not writing here all this coz of Any Guilt, Remorse or Regret. You are writing all this for the vaccum that's now exists in your life, for the void, space you created yourself through your such horrific acts. I feel sympathy and relief for my breathren brother, who got lessons as well as relief from a toxic person like you. How can you add moreover your father, can support you to put such dirty allegations against the one whom you used to be close?? Is your this confession is truly real or just a fear inside you planning such unlawful trap for the guy as courts in india are not so blind. Wish almighty one day blesses you with wisdom and good intentions. Get well soon
What stands out to me is not your guilt but the fact that you seem to understand exactly what you did and are still framing yourself as the main victim of this story. You spent years telling him you didn’t want marriage. The relationship continued consensually. Then when the breakup became ugly and there was a dispute involving money and harassment, you chose to file an extremely serious allegation that, by your own admission, you knew was not an honest reflection of what happened. That isn’t a mistake made out of confusion. That is a choice. The person I feel sorry for here is the man whose life could have been destroyed by an allegation you now admit was used as leverage. If your account is accurate, he had every reason to pursue legal action against you rather than the other way around. What also concerns me is that your mother apparently supported this course of action instead of telling you to resolve the money dispute through proper legal channels. Good parents teach accountability, honesty, and consequences. Supporting the misuse of a serious criminal allegation is not something to be proud of. Laws protecting women exist because real victims need protection. When someone knowingly misuses those protections for personal advantage, it damages trust in the system and makes things harder for genuine victims. The guilt you’re feeling may not be something you need to get rid of. It may be the part of your conscience that still recognises the seriousness of what you did.
She is seeking advice only from women. Why gender bias, mam? Why did you give your money to him? How much money did you give and how much money did you get back? As a guy, I feel you have helped the person move on. If you were a morally good person providing emotional support, he will keep thinking about you. But after this drama he will move on and feel happy for not getting married to you. Great escape for that guy. I would suggest you to do nothing further. You have set your slave free collecting a fee for his freedom. Let him be free and enjoy his freedom, he need not waste his time, money and energy on a parasite that eats the brain and soul. Learn to live alone.
Please don't ruin other lives
This the problem if your father alive he vl never support this bullshit so now you suffering for acting cruely with a person you once loved.
Intimacy word ke aage ni pdha mene Wahi khel khatam tha
File a case against this girl for misusing law and for the mental harrassment the boy has go through
Dear, you need healing. No one should judge you. There is no right or wrong sides in this situation. No one should moral police you. What is actually need is a neutral approach in the form of a qualified therapist. Please invest in the best therapy and reclaim yourself. You have a lot of healing to do which this group will not give you. Please consult a good therapist and become the best version of yourself. I wish you deep healing and recovery 🙏 ❤️
The same Story Happened with me years back. I'll pray that you'll get what you deserve. Good Luck 👍🏻
The only way to handle guilt is to right the wrong. Abusing a legal provision for your fear is not correct, legally, ethically and morally. That's why you are torn apart even though the external situation has come to normal, internally you're suffering. Return the extra money you owe him, apologize without being defensive and genuinely wish him well. You will find peace
If he didn't give you the money he owed, it's his fault in this particular scenario. Also, if you were denying the marriage for all these years, nothing is wrong at your part. It's sad the guy was in love and believed that you'll eventually marry him, but all love stories do not have a happy ending and one should prepare for the same too.
Very Sad. Are you feeling insecure now? What happened to concept of Independent woman? I am also curious to know hope you will answer.
Do write things up, learn to forgive yourself
Wo stree h, kuch bhi kr skti h
Using law for such measures is so indecent of you. If the same would have been done by the guy to you in that case your mother would support him like she did for you ? Point till break up was fine but what you did after that was falsification of the actual facts and filing a false report against someone who is innocent. While giving him the money did you enter into any legal proceedings????? No right, he reacted and said that because he was afraid you will leave him however in return of his love you scarred him for life…… good job and then you people go ahead and say there are no good men left in this world but people like you are the reason why men are being hurt and damaged to their core.
You should be on street....
Shubam Sabherwal please respect her as well 😜
You reap what you sowed
Madam tum 10 saal me kisi ko nhi samaz sahi ,u don't hv father too..u got a good person too hold ..tum ladkiyo pata nhi kya chaiye hota..As Ur mom was ready ..why u did only pleasure .. Now no guilt u hv to suffer only bcoz u dreamt big with having nothing in hands..
There's a problem in your head.
there is a god and karma u burn alive in guilt everyday
Anyone can come across things in early ages. But u r 35 and recovering now won't be easy. Be ready. U have more to face. Btw, u r money minded. U can't understand love with a person in future also. So stay alone
May you burn in hell. May you live a life full of regret, self loathing and disgust. May you never find peace. You ruined someones life just and just for your selfish reasons. May ypur mother too burn in hell. May god set an example put of you and your mother that never ruin someones life for your selfish reasons
Guess what ??? You belong to Kolkata ??? Second .. you belongs to hell . 🤌
Karma will come
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People have gone ahead without false cases of r**e and most of the cases of r**e are false and the reals ones don't get justice in our system or pushed away with influence..I hope the real women get justice and losers like you suffer.
As you seeked advice only from women of likeminds, you should have asked it from infamous ones like the blue drum girl, or Sonam Raghuvanshi or Nikita and the newly inducted Siya 😌
Poor guy.. why did he not talk to a proper lawyer
Sad to see for this all the great feminists Gloria Steniem, Raja Ram Mohan Roy, etc fought. Shame on you
no need to feel any guilt. move on. the entire life is ahead of you. best wishes.
Firstly return all the money to that guy.......and ask for forgiveness......only if you are genuinely regretting your actions...... obviously you could have ended things maturely but you messed up everything.......and now also you are worried about yourself......I feel there is lot more things happened which you don't want to disclose......you should consult a psychiatrist
When you wanted to leave, he threatened you inspite of 10 years togetherness. So, you did the right thing to end it and also get your money back. Just stop thinking about it and move on.
Men: run
Why is that IPC still there? Only the person to whom you did this injustice can only forgive you, no one else..
U will leave earth soon.. Tc for ur coming days, wrost is coming..
Can u ping me
Scenario 1: Assume you had a legal way to get money back you wouldn’t have filed false case? Scenario 2: You would have still filed a false case? In this case judiciary should have found out the truth. In both cases, it is such a horrible system. How are we hoping to sleep peacefully with such a judicial system?
Not many women can give you answer to this, as they are facing same recycling if not guilt issues ie they are much in same boat with/without these unpalatable experiences... You did 100% right, that's the practical way, what's the guilt therefore?! Didn't he refuse to payup?! Didn't he abuse or threaten you in WApp!? Didn't he strangle your independent thought and action, didn't that made him actually selfish?! Was he ever grateful ever, for manipulating you into advancing him financial support (which isnt normal). So the remedy is what's called , ""visit the past and re-write it your own way, just as you like"",...., or simply take a book and impress that upon your past fooling your mind this is what happened....yes its not immoral bcoz u did nothing wrong and you need to get rid of your guilt-prone mind. And future has to be created, don't forget most imp part...
Ure selfish and not for marriage anyway. Ur guilt is ur karma
Omg u did wrong with him.... U ruined his life... These days all females are............
You're the biggest piece of crap society has ever produced... you didn't have courage to get of the relationship, feeling lonely this and that.... relationships are supposed to mutually understandable... and you dragged something you clearly didn't want to last... and even after doing so much damage..... you've the nerve to post if in groups and find other women who did such..things.... to feel empathetic to yourself?? to feel You're not only one who did such craps... WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE.
Degenerates like u should not be in any relationship with anyone, u don't even belong to steets because u will file false r@∆e cases against the person whom u took money from for providing ur service.
I wish you always stay like this, single and depressed
You have blown up your relationship because you are scared of marriage probably due to some trauma. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Self aware terrible human being. I wish I could say learn from this, grow and apologize but you went too far.
And that's why my friends stay single... This bitches ain't loyal
Karma n u both are b****h
Just another grown ass woman running away from accountability for the shit she did. You'll pay 10 folds for what you did. Just stay away from other men. You are an evil person.
You are feeling guilt bcz you didnt find any partner to fulfill your needs zhad you find a better partner or like him you would have never felt it , bcz ppl like you having evil mother never realize what kind of pain you caused to other, I'm feeling sorry for him and your future husband if you ever get married you will never change you are narcissist , He might have done something good in life that's why he got rid of you, he will heal and never be the same man again, he will have always trust issues , his future wife will also pay price for what you did to him.
There are many r@ndis like you. They will dm you
You're evil. I hope life brings you down in worse ways than this.
Wonderful mom n wonderful daughter 😏😏😏 such a disgusting creatures... atleast don't breed let your family legacy ends with you 😡😡😡
Go bury yourself alive under the Earth. Because of woman like you, men generalise all women as selfish and gold diggers.
Such a shameful lady you are
I hope you and your family go bankrupt, start begging on the streets and die painfully ….
The fuse between you & your so called boy friend is blown. You have emerged as two timing bitch & he super sucker. Your relationship has no future & you are not marriage material
You are the reason why men fear women
Classic fatherless behaviour. Must be a bus tart child from a who're lady! Like mother like daughter! For the streets!
Damm you are one Horrible WOMAN... Twisted as well
You are an absolute p00p, when you filed a false grape case on him.
shame on you that you accused a innocent man ...
U should must not marry you will destroy the boys life not only u but ur mother also worst is coming for you and your mom . Take care karma is coming very badly to you
Really shameful that you misused a provision of law that is meant to protect vulnerable women, and it is because of people like yourself that real women who need protection go under the radar. And I am sure that you did all this to recover money whereas you had other provisions in law to do the same. Shame on you! And you are here seeking validation to your deceitful and disgusting actions! Awesome 🙌 I wish karma really hits you hard
Filed a fake complaint against someone you loved seriously that makes you an asshole!!!! And you deserve some mental turmoil atleast imagine what he went through. Keep ruminating and if you can please apologise genuinely to him and compensate for wasting his time.
Shame on you and your kind! You destroyed a man publicly and now, you are guilty anonymously!!! If you had a shred of decency in you, the least you would do is return his money immediately and apologize to him right away.