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Submit ConfessionGender: Male16 June 2026 at 1:02 am
#C27477 M-34 | Long post, may be a sad trigger. I genuinely want your opinion on how to move forward. I don’t usually post personal things online, but tonight feels heavy and I need some outside perspective. I’m 34 (turning 35 soon), and honestly, I feel stuck in life. I’m still unmarried. We haven’t even seriously started looking for me because my mother believes my younger sister should get married first. My sister is 33, and we’ve been trying to find a match for her for the last 3 years, but nothing has worked out so far. On top of that, I lost my job. Every morning I wake up hoping for a call, an interview, some positive response. Every evening ends with disappointment. The silence is becoming harder to handle than the rejection itself. My sister recently switched jobs. Today was her first day, and she came home crying. She said the team was extremely negative and the manager humiliated her on day one. Now I’m scared she might lose her job too, and I can already see how much it’s affecting her. We have a home loan, and the EMI doesn’t stop because life gets difficult. Every month the responsibility is there. My mother is getting older. She has constant knee and leg pain, yet she spends the whole day managing household work. Watching her struggle hurts more than I can explain. Sometimes I look at her and wonder how much longer she can keep doing all this. Then there’s the loneliness. Almost all my friends are married now. They have spouses, children, family vacations, school admissions, birthday parties, and a life that seems to be moving forward. Meanwhile, I often feel like I’m standing in the same place while everyone else has moved ahead. One of my biggest fears is this: What happens when my mother is no longer here? I know it sounds dark, but I genuinely think about it. Sometimes I feel like I’ll end up completely alone—without love, without emotional support, maybe even without financial stability. My father passed away suddenly during COVID. That loss never really left me. People say time heals, but some grief simply becomes part of who you are. The day he died, it felt like I went to sleep as a 29-year-old and woke up as a 45-year-old. After that, nobody really put a hand on my shoulder and said, “It’s okay, I’ll take care of things.” Instead, I heard: “You’re the man of the house now.” “You’re strong.” “You’re mature.” “You have to take care of your mother and sister.” Maybe people meant well, but sometimes being called “strong” just means nobody asks if you’re okay. What confuses me is that I’ve tried to live a decent life. I don’t drink. I don’t smoke. I don’t do drugs. I have faith in God. I try to stay honest and responsible. Yet some days I look at my life and wonder: Why does it feel like every year brings another burden? I’m not writing this for sympathy. I genuinely want to know: If you were in my position, how would you move forward? What would you focus on first? And how do you stop feeling like life is slipping away while you’re busy surviving it?
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Don't let your stress affect your health. Priority should be health and financial stability. Dont worry about marriage, if it happens it happens. Staying single is going to be a social norm soon, more and more people are opting not to get married. In current scenario marriage is pure transaction your are not loosing on anything big...I understand human heart craves company but it is what it is. Cheer up, work on securing job soon, focus on health not just you your mom and sis too
Ask for referrals from ur frnd. May be they can help u. Pls don't get married. Marriage is not the solution. Instead pay ur home loan and find suitable guy for ur sis. Take care of ur mom and sis. God bless u ❤️
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Low-hanging fruits 1. Become healthier: Eat clean (avoid Indian-type junk food, including homemade junk food) and exercise. This will boost your morale immediately. 2. Upskill vigorously: The effort itself will make you feel better. 3. Apply for jobs more aggressively: Possibly, seek referrals from your sister (even if she doesn't like her employer) After you get a job 1. Pursue marriage, regardless of your sister's marital status. One sibling does not need to get the other's way
You know when you’ve reached the absolute bottom, the only way is up. You are not alone, you have yourself. Get up, go out, move, reach out to people, learn a skill, do something. Don’t wait for someone to reach out to you. It won’t happen. And stop infecting the family with your loneliness and sadness, you pull them out of it
Welcome to being a male child....all ur story is something I see on regularly in society....get up and get going....don't let life bogg u down....be a lion hearted son ....work hard make ur Dad proud Bless u brother with successful life
Take any job..Do Francising or try to start startups..thete are so many ways to keep busy Dont compare urself with anyone..Each has seperate paths. If possible go to Mantralaya once..changes ll follow..
Omg, that was a confession, truly reflecting the name/purpose of the group, as much as it was a genuine one as lot of confessions here are just like scratch in the back/a ant crawling in the morn and evening they start writing. Back to your serious situation as you look like in the cusp of loosing your composure, which pls don't. The easiest and most practical thing will be to get married quickly, on your own, thru some mutual friends , referal or site (don't wait). One could say you're not making enough efforts. That will change everything , and anyway what can get worser than this?! It's a risk but one takes risks to move forward, there is no other way, all dreams don't go futile, what's worse is stagnancy. New person, new ideas, can help your household, even to get a job, even finances, and if you luckily get a little wealthier spouse, it has other untold benefits, take the gamble. Once both you sisters leave, decide beforehand which of you wil take care of your mother, or perhaps both can bring in her to your place 6mo each, sell that house to act as your mother's savings (& maybe help offset partial mariage expenses too).
Get a job first. Whichever area it may be. Or may be try starting a small business. Then rest will be taken care of when money will start coming.
Declutter your mind from the emotions and anxiety of the unknown first, focus on preparing for interviews and getting the job
I too lost my dad to cancer this year. I just try to think what would he have done in any circumstance that I find myself struggling with. Just remembering him and his ways makes me feel alright for some time.
I can understand you! The first thing to focus on is your job_ upskill yourself and find a job and take care of ur health and ur mom's health, yoga will help to relieve stress and overall well-being Second is ur sisters marriage - it's peak time for her to build a family Everything will fall in place lots of blessings to you brother!
Google "free grief counseling". And talk with helpline number. You can sell flat and shift in a rented, smaller one.
Please wait brother. Until then try. The Dawn will surely come after the blackest night.
Definitely good tomorrow is waiting for you..hope is the only thing which makes life move on
Get your sister married ASAP. Don't worry about her job, worry about yours. It's more difficult waiting for interview call. Just join somewhere so that EMI is taken care off and get your sister married off because her marriage will also take a mental toll on you. Worrying about your mother's life is a waste of time and energy regarding what if she is not there. Whoever has taken birth, has to go one day.
It's okay, life will start to feel lighter soon. Keep trying to land a job, that's step one. Try to come out of your loneliness because marriage isn't a real solution for it, trust me. Try to build a full life. Take up something creative or meaningful as a hobby, and do things that make you feel good about yourself. It'll really help. I genuinely hope things start looking up for you soon.
Sis .. stay positive, do your best! Try not to think too much and stop comparing! One day at the time…Good things will surely come!
Be kind to.yourself my friend..
DM me ...i have a job prayer which has helped my husband secure a good job nd salary. Intention needs to be very clear nd you need to have faith for sure.
Until get ur job do other jobs without hesitation even if it's small like rapido.... Find groom for ur sister....many peoples r not married even in 40s....have faith take care of ur mom's health....
Find a good match for urself n get married... don't wait for ur family...
Brother please send me your CV, i can help you to find a job as I am into hiring, 🙌
Start some kind of small business.... Or Spending time with business ppl by joining any well running shop may give you at least 700 to 800 rupees daily.... If you are in Chennai let me know...
Short story in few words 🤭 At 34, life feels heavy. After losing my father during COVID, I suddenly became “the man of the house,” carrying responsibilities for my mother and sister. My sister’s marriage hasn’t worked out yet, my own marriage is on hold, and I’ve recently lost my job. We have a home loan, my mother struggles with constant pain, and I worry about finances every day. Watching friends move ahead with families and stable lives makes the loneliness feel stronger. I try to live honestly and responsibly, yet I often wonder why life keeps adding burdens and how to keep moving forward.
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