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Submit ConfessionGender: Prefer not to say13 June 2026 at 10:27 pm
#C27446 Confession: Need Honest Advice I met someone through a matrimonial platform. We started talking regularly, developed feelings for each other, and eventually got married despite concerns from both families. Before marriage, there were discussions about where we would live and buying a flat. I made promises because I genuinely wanted the relationship to work and believed we could build a future together. After marriage, things became difficult. We had frequent arguments about family involvement, living arrangements, expectations, and daily issues. Looking back, I know both of us made mistakes. One thing I deeply regret is that during a heated argument I slapped my wife. I take full responsibility for that and know it should never have happened. I apologized many times afterward and have carried guilt about it ever since. At the same time, the problems were not one-sided. There were many occasions where I was verbally abused, insulted, and hit. My parents and family were also insulted during arguments. On one occasion, I was beaten with a slipper in front of her parents. Despite all of this, I stayed because I believed the marriage could still be saved. Over time, I tried many things to improve the relationship. I visited repeatedly, apologized, suggested counseling, proposed living independently to reduce family interference, and spent a lot of effort trying to rebuild trust. However, the same conflicts continued. Now there has been no contact for some time. I still think about her every day. Part of me feels guilty for my mistakes and wonders if things could have been different. Another part of me feels exhausted from the constant conflict, disrespect, and emotional pain. I am not posting this to blame anyone or gain sympathy. I genuinely want honest opinions. My questions are: Can a marriage recover when there has been repeated conflict, insults, and physical violence from both sides? How do I move forward from the guilt of my own mistakes? At what point do you accept that love alone is not enough? If you were in my situation, what would you do? Please be respectful. I am looking for honest advice, not attacks on either person.
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Love transcends everything but respect. Learn how to respect and have zero tolerance for disrespect. You can leave the past behind and move forward if both agree to disagree respectfully.
Forgive yourself and move on. You are just a human being. Also learn to control your anger, everybody gets angry but it doesn't mean to beat others 👍
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Divorce. Get therapy for anger management. Learn to stay single.
It's only possible to recover and resume, if there is a few years gap given..... Just decide mutually to join hands and resume living together ie., try again, say affer a gap of 3 years.... Quite possible to have a gap, better than permanent estrangement.. Growth is needed, which is possible only when you both are not obsessed with thoughts about each other....right now the thoughts are only negative which do not , cannot breed peace, so allow it to subside, Time heals and heals like none else..
Life doesn't depend on mere arguments .Heated arguments can happen in partners..and family abuses..A woman abuses family only when she feels neglected..abused..insulted because it's true inlaws and sad that inlaws abuses too and very badly ..Latest Mrs Giribala Singh Twisha s mother in law who did call her illeterate burden schizophrenic and character less..and men doesnt sees that or don't want to see since they r his parents and she feels alone in the new family..Her support system is Noone else except her man.You are her husband..You mean everything to her in this new home..She came holding hands of you...She doesn't expect from anyone other than her man..If someone any man or woman shows anger that person genuinely cares about the relationship..otherwise like other women now she cud have hang out with other person..Her character is pure and so r yours since u said you think about her.. Not all fightings are.meant to fight out in court dragging cases for years..Apologise both of you..both shud leave ego behind..Apologise...and start a fresh..when love is there why to go for divorce and drag cases for years..Marriage means commitment and adjustment..leave both the inlaws of both sides interference..u both need to spend the entire life with each other..n Marriage is never picture perfect love story.Same or different prob will happen if u stay with some other partner..everyone has flaws..Noone is perfect
Any marriage can be saved if both are in it only to serve the other person and put your partner’s needs first. If you both equally want this to work and set some shared rules and boundaries on how to resolve conflict peacefully, there’s no reason why a marriage wouldn’t flourish. On the flip side, don’t commit to someone based on your love for them but see how they make you feel. If you both are unable to bring out the best in each other then it’s better to part ways. We all have one life and it shouldn’t be wasted chasing someone. Spend time on self reflection. Work on being the best version of yourself and you will get your answer.
Consult the best possible lawyer BEFORE you find out the hard way, the impact of your 'slap'. You have absolutely no idea what you are heading for.
Not matched astrologically. You can try harder but you won't be peaceful. Let it go.
Single reh bhai. Pagal ho jaega aisi ke saath to.
Learn to live with it,
Divorce bro … Physical abuse from both sides clearly shows the marriage collapsed drastically
It’s impossible to recover, esp when there is domestic violence and no respect towards each other…Divorce and find a new partner
Move on.
Just forget and leave she will never be peaceful
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When she hits you with slippers and you stay silent is where things turn ugly because of pu**y like you are a disgrace to your family and now begging like a beggar 🖕🖕🖕