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Submit ConfessionGender: Female14 June 2026 at 4:34 pm
#C27457 I'm 33F and my husband is 32. Both of us are well educated with decent jobs. We've been married for 5 years. Ours was a love marriage. Few months back when I was 2 months postpartum with our baby, I discovered that my husband has been cheating on me with multiple women. This was going on throughout our marriage and even before diring our dating and courtship time. He has been lying to me from day 1 with a straight face. He also lied about his past (told he had 1 serious girlfriend, though now I've discovered there have been many earlier too and still). He has been on multiple dating, matrimony apps during our marriage, he has also created a profile with relationship status as "awaiting divorce". There is no boundary he hasn't crossed including se*ting, meeting for dates, being physical etc. He has also had relationships with women in 40s/50s. He seems to be an attention/validation/se* addict of some type. All the while he pretended to be a loving husband and father. The day I discovered it, it was too much for me to handle. I confided in his mom who was living with us and she didn't care about me, just said don't take any harsh decision. She didn't even say anything to him, instead started crying and making it all about herself (my family will be gone etc.) Since that day I'm in deep trauma, I have taken help from my side of the family and they're supportive of whatever decision I take. Both me and my husband are also taking individual and couple's therapy. My husband is showing remorse and saying he will fix himself. But I can't trust him. Even if he does that, what about the past 5-6 years when I was committed to him and put my heart and soul into our marriage and also adjusting with his mom and family? No one from his family even bothered to ask me how I am doing in this crisis situation with a newborn. Why did he rob me of the most beautiful chapter of my life (marriage and motherhood) with this unforgiveable betrayal? Can I ever be sane again? I don't tryst anything or anyone now, not even myself. How do I end this pain?
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Don't give divorce right now. Try to change him, let your baby make him fall in love with him/her. In the mean time drain out all his resources. Then once your husband is truly changed and loves your baby with all his heart. Rip the bandaid. Wasooli with interest.
Just give yourself some space, enjoy some time with yourself , for that go on picnic have some quality time with yourself. Decisions can be made later🙌😊
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A cheater can't become a responsible person. Apne charm ko dikha ke kewal ye emotions ke sath khelenge. Aur sidhe saadhe log easily victim ban jaate hai. Jo baat karenge commitment karenge par fullfill nahi karenge, aur excuses se apni saari galtiyo ko dhank kr, tumko guilt me, trust issues me, confusions me duba kar rakh dete hai. Ek best counsellor and therapist dhundo, silently apne aap ko built karo. Then final kisi act ka socho.
time heals every thing ... so give ur self some time ... needed go for counselling . grief counselling ..
As you mentioned you have a decent job and your own family is also supportive, I would suggest that you divorce him and start a new happy life with your child and own family as soon as possible because there is very little chance that your husband will actually change, also sue him with appropriate charges and child care in court, hire a good lawyer. If you did not have financial capability and family support, I would suggest you to cut all emotional ties with him and to be with him just for the stability.
Once a cheater always a cheater If you have done this will he adjust.. never ever Take divorce and cry once in for all..and live for u and ur child 👍
Give him little time.. good things takes time.
Every marriage there are ups and downs and even in best of marriages things like this happen. Decide for urself if u want to continue or leave.I thinking leaving will be best because i dont think he will be again dedicated to u ,because guys like this cant shelf there addiction to porn and sex. Just divorce and move on. Next marriage do a full check up before deciding to go in. All the best
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Likely you are also one of him dating target Unfortunately you end up in getting married.. Leave him asap, he won't change
There is nothing called as second chance in this world. Girl don’t give him second chance. He will not change. Good you have supporting family. Build yourself and run away from that man.
He will not change and if he changes …you will still not be able to trust him..you are well educated you don’t need anyone ..just live your life however you like with or without him ..stand strong
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once a cheater always a cheater
It's a difficult situation but same person loving & responsible became a monster today? Even when had been on his misadventures as you claim, you hv found him loving, caring, if not admirable ... Now a criminal suddenly, so what made him such a nice person to you included; ... Bcoz he had too much to share and ended by sharing with others..... I wonder if that makes him eligible to be hanged (divorced lock stock barrel)?! Morality is such a complex subject.....only mystics know all about it......some ppl are differently made, same goes about anger, many are angry beings and but such great loving ppl....so should we hang them for getting so intensely angry and often?! Just wondering the moral dilemmas.....life is complex.....ppl are different , some ppl are made differently which present day society can't accept but in the eternal existential scale they can be judged differently.....so whether he can be excused in present feminine epoch? Who else can decide it except you.....here it's seriously personal domain, nobody can really take decision for you...but don't let society take decision
File divorce, take alimony and enjoy life.
I think you should go ahead with divorce, try healing yourself and dont let your child see and believe this is how we have to adjust. During the divorce period, if he actually changes and not facades it, you may rethink. There is always remarriage option. But dont bend. Dont tolerate. Dont disrespect yourself. Give yourself more love. If your head and heart cant let go, which I couldn't have in your place, I would walk out without any fuss. You have tried enough. Suffered enough.
Just see of he changed n start to live
U have 2 options First is divorce.why? Because he is not going to change and trust me, he never will. He knows that he is good at it and when it's available, why not. The second option is live with him but you move out from his family. You and your husband and kid live together. Just the three of you. Move closer to where your side of family lives. You are secure and he knows the next time he gets caught you will kick him
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Here all comments are negative, don't leave him,he loves you more than anyone that is why he married you.. What you observe maybe true but with time he will change
How did u come to find out the truth?
Divorce. Therapy. Healing. End of the discussion.
If he is being a good husband, let him be a natural man. Don't try to make him your personal toy
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Sum up some courage and leave….we all know he will never change no matter what he says !!
He won't change so easily. Divorce him. Cut the bullshit. If it was one woman you could have considered him back. But this is pure degenerate.
Listen to me, leave him as soon as possible. Stop serving that kind of husband. He doesn't deserve your service. As a woman, I’d only put up with or give a cheating man another chance if he’s super rich — rich enough for me to live like a princess. Like, I barely lift a finger: someone else washes my hands before and after eating, I have helpers around, I get to travel to different countries, he gives me my own car, and above all, he never hits me. But if he’s just some poor guy who can only afford rice and potatoes for meals, hurts me on top of that, makes me do all the housework, even take care of his parents, and still cheats? Ugh, that’s the kind of man you just want to kick to the curb. The best thing to do is either have him locked up or leave him and just ask for support money instead.
He is beyond repair, please leave that monster and give a good life to your baby.