#C27430 I am 28 years old and live in a small town. I passed my CBSE Class 12 exams with 92% (PCM) , but I did not pursue engineering, which remains one of my biggest regrets. Later, I started preparing for UPSC and gave two attempts, but unfortunately, I was unsuccessful. Around that time, I started talking to a woman who lived in Bangalore. She was working, financially well-settled, and came from a much better background than mine (Father was in ISRO) .I come from a very poor family. At that time, I was working as an accountant in a small home town and earning around ₹15,000 per month. After failing UPSC twice, I moved to Kolkata for work and started earning around ₹25,000 per month. As time passed, I stopped talking much with the woman from Bangalore because I felt that she was far ahead of me in life. Deep down, I believed that I could never match her lifestyle, and even if things progressed, her family would probably not accept me. While living in Kolkata, I joined Bumble and met another woman who worked in the corporate sector and earned around ₹1 lakh per month. We talked for a long time and developed a good connection. The one thing that always helped me connect with people was that I am honest, sincere, and reasonably good-looking. However, due to family circumstances, I had to leave Kolkata and return to my small town, where I started working again for around ₹20,000 per month. Eventually, that relationship also ended because I felt that she would never be comfortable living in a small town . Now, everyone is talking about my marriage. I am open to getting married, but I often feel that someone from a simpler background, or someone who earns less, may be able to adjust better to my lifestyle. I believe that a person from a wealthier family or a more privileged background may expect a different lifestyle, more personal space, and opportunities that I may not be able to provide. I do have a family house in my town, even though I do not have significant movable assets or great wealth. Sometimes I wonder whether I made the right decisions, but this has been my journey so far.
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You are undervaluing yourself. The issue isn’t income or background alone; it’s assuming you’re unworthy of someone doing better financially. Compatibility depends on values, respect, goals, and willingness to build a life together. Marry someone who understands your journey and ambitions, not someone chosen mainly because you think they’ll “adjust” more.
See 20k is not sufficient in today's world. So, suggest you to prepare for ssc CGL or state PCS because you still have some time.
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You have made right decision. To be honest if I was in place of those woman I would have never given chance considering that u earn such only 20k in this era🙄
This has happened to me too, and it still happens. I am preparing for the UPSC and study in a library. I live a simple lifestyle, but sometimes some wealthy girls seem interested in me or try to flirt. Some of them are very beautiful, while I consider myself just an ordinary guy who prefers to stay focused on studies. I often feel that they come from a much more privileged background than I do. For example, some girls preparing for NEET can easily afford private medical colleges even if they do not get a government seat, where the fees can be around ₹2 crore excluding hostel and living expenses. Because of this, I feel there is a huge difference between our worlds, so I assume nothing would happen and choose to ignore it. They probably think I have a lot of attitude. 🤭🥴🤣
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After 12 how does one prepare for IAS.. with out graduation how can one appear in IAS . seriously you some fake 😂