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Submit ConfessionGender: Female13 June 2026 at 12:16 am
#C27433 39F, Because of my husband's job, we used to live away after our marriage. My husband is an only son, and my parents-in-law are retired and used to live in another city. I used to constantly fight with my husband out of fear that we might have to live with his parents one day. I lived with this fear for 13 years; I would get highly irritated and fight a lot. And today, my fear has come true. We had to shift with them. My husband left his job, and it has been two years now. We are financially entirely dependent on my in-laws. He himself is scared of his parents. My mother-in-law taunts me about everything, considers herself superior, and treats us like servants. I work a small job, and my husband has now become extremely lazy.". Moreover, my husband has no desire or willingness to do any work. How do I make him understand that things are running smoothly only as long as his parents are around? What will happen after they are gone? Instead of understanding, he scolds me for this and says that I think negatively. My ability to think and process things has been completely destroyed. His mother has such a severe impact on my mind that I cannot even think about myself anymore. I carry spoiled/bad food in my tiffin and still go to work even when I am extremely unwell, only because all I can think about is how to get away from his parents. We have a son, and because of that woman, I end up ignoring him too. I just want to go far away from his mother."
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What you will do after your Daughter-in-law. Since you have a son that’s why I am asking you this? Be genuine. Do you allow them to stay separate or will you stay with them?
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Living arrangements must be discussed and agreed upon BEFORE marriage. If you never wanted to live in a joint family with inlaw's, you should have informed this condition clearly to all prospective grooms.
You need to work on your mindset. In your sharing above it’s visible at multiple points. It is due to your negative mindset that you have landed into this situation. Now, if you want to come out of it then change it 180 degrees. How would you do it? It’s not going to happen overnight. It takes years to come out of negativity. But when you start the journey you can see immediate effects. It’s encouraging. You need help of friends/wellwishers/counsellor who can show you the other side of the coin.
After your son's marriage.....his wife gonna say exactly this about you....
Spoiling your and your son's health and future....
What's keeping you in this marriage? Ask yourself .
Ask him Try to understand the situation calmly he will understand and it will take some more time but he will understand although Where r u from?
When you are earning take care of yourself..be thankful full to your in-laws....
Ek hi zindagi hai... Divorce lo aur aagay badho... Waise bhi nikamme pati ka kya karogi.. Aaj baap ka kha raha.. Kal. Tumhara khaega... Aise depression m rahi toh BP sugar ho jaega... Aur wo toh ilaj karane k layak bhi nahi
I've always wondered why there were laughing emojis on such posts? But after reading this post, I understood. That woman spoiled 13 years of her life just because she had to live with her in-laws one day. And when the time came to live with them, her husband quit his job - but why? I know that in India living with in-laws can be very difficult, but spoiling 13 years when they weren't even around and quitting a job to live with them - such an act definitely deserves a laughing emoji.😁
You yourself is 39yrs. Husband must be 40 or same age. Still he is scared of his parents????
what stopping you ?
Get a job in another city if possible take your son with you, let your husband join if he wants to !
Yar why did you go into such marriage without discussing these things . You should have mentioned before marriage itself that you don't want to stay with in-laws. He can take care of his parents by staying as neighbours or with the help of care takers. Now atleast take divorce and moveon . Don't waste mainly your life and their life.
U might have Married any orphan instead a family boy. Staying away from in laws is not real Life
Will you be happy if your only son's wife treat you the same way?
You both are selfish, You fought for 14 years in anticipation, rather than building something constructive, be it home or relationship with in-laws. He left job in prime and gave you life you hated. You were not in marriage, you were in fight. Now build your carrier, get independent and enjoy. Else adjust and wait for your in-laws to accept you.
Just to meet ur own thinkings on 2 points, which are truly on wrong side.... No one in society can appreciate ur stand on those 2 points 1) intentionally and knowingly carring stale food by your self is bad. What ur going to gain by loosing health. 2) Neglecting your own son, is also to be considered as ... Bad... Other things u take advises from elders in the familhhhhb
Wait till your kids leave you in your home alone after marriage and see how that's gonna be. Should taste your own medicine !
How much money husband has saved? If it is enough convince your husband to stay away from his parents
Take a divorce your husband will understand and would your in laws .
Why did you get even married? or you should have searched for a ghar jamaai instead.... to overcome your so called fears...