Comments for Post #C27425

#C27425 I am the same person who gave confession #C27134. I’ve seen mixed responses and I’m genuinely thankful to those whose comments actually made sense. I understand that looking for a partner on a dating app can be a gamble, but aren’t these same people also on matrimonial apps with the same expectations? If they are treating matrimonial apps like dating platforms, then there’s always a chance of finding someone, dating them, and eventually getting married. To the people commenting to DM or call, I’m still single and honestly okay with being called unmarried because it’s my personal choice. I’m looking for high values, not high standards as people assume. I’m not looking for a handsome, rich guy. After reading these responses, I’m even more convinced that I’m doing the right thing in my life. Expecting something normal is now being considered a high expectation, and that itself shows how much standards have dropped. There is absolutely nothing wrong with bringing financial stability to the table. Everything has become expensive, and a double income is a good thing. It reduces the burden on both people in a relationship. The problem is that only real men are comfortable with strong women. Others seem uncomfortable with women who have opinions. They expect equality in finances, which is completely fine, but are those same people willing to put equal effort into making a relationship work? Why do some men still think household chores are a woman’s responsibility? I’m not even bringing up childbirth and everything that comes with it because God has already made us strong enough to handle that. But can men accept that many still lack a progressive mindset? Someone asked if I’m overweight. No, I’m not. In fact, I’d confidently rate myself a solid 7.5/10. I’m not saying I’m exceptionally good-looking or expecting a partner who looks like a model. But why are looks always a preference when it comes to women? Why not values? Men are often called providers and protectors, but is everyone actually doing that today? Can any woman get married, give birth, and simply sit back and enjoy life without contributing to household work? Women have always worked hard. Men can retire once they meet their financial goals or reach retirement age in a government job. What about women? Their responsibilities never really end. So if equality is expected in finances, decisions, and responsibilities, why is that a problem? And yes, I did ask serious questions. I clarified expectations around sharing responsibilities, life goals, personal ambitions, emotional availability, and everything required to build trust, loyalty, and compatibility. But somehow, many so-called men only want to date first and then decide. There’s nothing wrong with dating, but are these people genuinely ready for marriage? Do they even intend to get married before creating profiles on matrimonial apps? Some people suggested that staying single makes more sense, and honestly, I agree. If marriage isn’t going to bring out the best in both partners, it’s better to stay alone. Marriage is definitely not a mandatory milestone in life. And to the people saying 30 is already late, please understand that being settled in life means being independent and responsible. That should be considered a quality. Getting married doesn’t mean you are settled. Marriage comes with even more responsibilities, and a person should be capable of handling them in every aspect. This misogynistic mindset in society may never completely change. But the day people become comfortable with women who have opinions, they’ll realize how much value women add to their lives. Whether it’s your mother, sister, wife, girlfriend, or friend, try appreciating them. You’ll see the positive impact they have on your life.