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Submit ConfessionGender: Male12 June 2026 at 10:09 am
#C27419 M31 My family is looking for alliance for my marriage. They found a match, the girl is 23. Our families meet, but I was not there as I stay in another city. My family members said they like the girl as well as the girl, we would be a good match. They shared me some pictures and her ph number of the girl and indeed she was beautiful but seems a familiar face. Before we started talking, I tried to do some background checking through friends and other means. We found that she is the younger sister of my ex. I met her once, she used to studied then. I had brief relationship with her sister (2years). She broke up because as per her opinion I was good and all but lack of ambition. And within months she got into another relationship within months of our breakup with a guy who has a govt. job. And we never spoke again. I said no to this alliance. My family is now upset with my decision as I did not gave a proper reason for this. This Wednesday evening I got a call from this girl (ex's sister). She told me that she has a crush since I was her sister's bf. She tried to convince me that she is nothing like her sister and she knows all about me and her sister has no problem with this alliance. She told me she stocks me on social media and LinkedIn ( all my social profile are locked for public except LinkedIn, I don't know how she did). I am not sure what should I do.
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I dont know about the present concern of yours but i am being bothered by the age difference.....23 and 31.....
Stay away mate, it won't be pleasant. One of these days her husband will find out. (Most probably she wouldn't have disclosed) Nevertheless it will be never ending uncomfortable conversations.
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Your hesitation is understandable. This is not just a new alliance; it comes with history, emotions, and family connections. Don't decide based on her sister's actions. Judge her as an individual. However, her long-term crush, monitoring your profiles, and the family history are factors worth considering carefully. If you're unsure, talk to her openly for a few weeks. If the past still bothers you or trust feels difficult, declining is reasonable. Marriage needs genuine comfort, not pressure.
But George marries Celine in premam movie bro...
If you don't want family drama in future dn you shouldn't marry anyone from your ex's family... Even though every thing seems ok right now, never underestimate jealousy between siblings... So explain to your family properly and find someone else to marry... Avoid those sisters and stay as far away as possible... Also eyeing and stalking your own sister's bf, whether ex or present already shows her character... Your ex can be said to be greedy but her sister is just sick on her head... So be careful and hope this helps...
Bro is suffering from success
31 and 23 There is a lot of difference in age
Please follow the below points - 1) Logically don't go for this alliance, regardless of the fact she can have a crush on you, the lady is a kid and is naive so she's not thinking correctly, this will cause future tensions among the sisters and then inevitably between you guys as well. 2) Don't worry about the age gap, there's 101 couples out there who have 10 or 15 yrs age gap, and nowhere do they look like bap beti or in any weird way. As a man if you workout regularly, eat clean then even if you're 40+ you'll look like you are in your late 20s or early 30s and maintain your manly vigor. 3) Don't get disheartened there are numerous normal decent past free women out there even in mid to late 20s, that you can consider as options for a suitable marriage alliance. Hope you find your right life partner and be happy 👍🏻🙂
Gf of two years and you didnt know that she was her sister? Aajkl gf ke family ke baare me baat krna out of date ho gya hai? Ab sirf physical need hi puri kri jaati hai kya relationship me?
This girl is adorably obsessed by with you.atleast talk to her, you family and parents also feel you both may be a good match.dont gv the punishment to the girl of the mistake her sis did. If things are clear between you two, her sis shdnt be a problem in future as well.
tell ur parents the reality or marry her ... karma is really some thing .
Tell your family and see their reactions affer telling them ie the difference in their stance might be interesting , if any Definitely she has a point....but you hardly have any positives to start with her, given the background and that it was a failed past endeavor ...this may look like a continuum, and so if this fails this wil be extra hard on you. She might just pass off saying my sister was right, lol
Buddy.Go for it. Your ex will burn and her sister will be happy that she got what her sister couldn’t. It’s all psychology
Not an issue. Marry her
Bro.. u should first work on your vocabulary and grammar and then work on this alliance ✌🏼
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Many blessings are lost not by fate, but by the arrogance with which we refuse them.
You did the right thing by rejecting. Right now her talks are sweet. But after marriage, whole life she will keep asking you and you will keep explaining to her that wife is better than her elder sister.
Don't mess up your life by marrying your ex's sister. Your parents may be upset now but gradually they'll overcome.
Avoid if you do not want uncomfortable drama for the rest of your life. And what type of girl has crush on sister's BF? Sooner or later this will get disclosed in your extended family and it will look like you are the characterless guy who dated the older sister and married the younger. Just tell your parents you are not very please post talking to the girl and she is not of your type.
Bro, men and women will churn big stories that they are unlike others and very unique. You will also dream and think life gonna be exciting, fun and big. But At the end of the day, everyone is basic. Basic man. Basic woman. They will all, exhibit some irritating characteristic which will break you and ruin you. Avoid this woman. Getting someone from ex's camp, is unsafe.
If you have a doubt then don't go for it. Take time and then decide.
Good God...
You seem to be on the highway to humiliation for the second time. 🙂 Remember, her obsession may be fueled by emotions, but deep down, her thought patterns and personality traits could be more similar to her sister's (your ex) than you realize. So, make your decision only after truly understanding who she is. Beauty alone won't sustain a relationship or run your family. P.S. I hope you're a much more secure person now, with clear goals, ambitions, and a strong sense of self ✨
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Its a malayalam movie premam last story 😂
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Which Tamil movie is this?
by doing this marriage. you can take revenge on your X 😅
Run away. Too complex
She is too small
U should have talked to the girl before saying no…
Disaster waiting to happen.
Ghr pe banaya peejaa chatt pe dibochey jeejaa
Unless and until you want to be part of a daily soap opera .. dont get married to her
Run🏃🏃
First join English language classes,then think of marriage.
Go for her
Ore kallula rendu manga means one stone two mangoes.... Ennoru laddu thinna asaiya...
Brief relationship = 2 years ? And you never met her parents / siblings..? I call BS 💩 on this
🤣red flag dont say yes otherwise coming days will be painful who knows you go for potty and she comes stalking
STAY AWAY !
Stalks*
Stock or stalk?
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There is always rule never date or marry people from same family it's weird nd creates chaos
I am seeing a possibility of 3some in future
Do not go ahead....It will be so awkward ....U will have to meet the older sister once u become a part of the family imagine she will regret the decision of leaving u the more she sees u she will be tempted to cheat on her husband wd u n who knows u might go back to her...So much chaos n so many lives spoilt....Big No
Too much drama for the future
I have came across few people with similar story. but they seems to be happy without any issue. Its strange for me.
Build up story
Run
Koi tume search kare isse behtar kya hoga n yes tum Salman nhi ho Bhai Jo ho use theek laga hoga tabhi she called ..she likes u..it's sure
Yes she may hv crush ..u can go ahead
marry her. why are you biased?
What will you do if tomorrow,after marriage, she and her sister accuse you of molesting or making advances at her sister? She can get a nice alimony and divorce only based on this background. She is too young for you..only 23.... Why can you not look for girls nearer to your age? That age gap itself will kill your marriage in later years... today's girls are not like the older generation. This age gap between you is literally a decade plus. Be wise, not foolish.
Cancel it .... Else get ready for future headache
Do not accept this alliance. It will lead you to nowhere.
Bhai, tu bhaag ja. Teri ex aur usski behen tujhe pareshaan karegi kyunki ex baat karegi aur behen laregi tujhse. Toxicity teri jeevan mein bhara rahega aur tu pagal ho jayega. Bhaag ja!!!
She’s too young and immature.
Anyway she's too young for you. Better find someone your age. And whats stock 😂
You may end up burning yourself due to affair with old flame (your ex) and your future wife (your exs sister) may screw your ass by nasty divorce with huge alimony, why are you even asking can't you see for yourself, just RUN