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#C27409 M32 - Big Story Alert 🚨 It was a love marriage. We were in love for 4 years. Before that, in 2019, I underwent throat tumor surgery. Thankfully I recovered well, and she knew everything about my health condition from the beginning. In fact, she was the one who proposed to me first. I waited for years to settle financially before marriage. During her hostel days, our relationship was smooth without major fights. Later, after her father passed away, her mother was left alone in their native along with her younger sister. So they shifted to Chennai and stayed together in a rented house. That’s when I slowly started noticing changes in her behavior. Small things would become huge fights. No matter whose mistake it was, I would always say sorry just to end the argument peacefully. When marriage talks started, every single expense — wedding, reception, house advance — was handled by me. We never asked for money or jewels from her side. Her wish was that after marriage I should live together with her mother and sister too. Though many people opposed it, I accepted because I understood their situation after losing their father. I even took a leased house near my home by spending around 7 lakhs completely from my savings. Still, complaints started from day one — about the house, facilities, small issues… everything. After marriage, her anger became more aggressive. Once, during a fight, she even threw away the தாலி. I was shocked. I genuinely thought maybe stress or health issues were affecting her mentally. She had severe Vitamin D deficiency too, and I softly suggested treatment and bought tablets for her, but she never took them. One thing hurt me deeply. Even for tiny things like restroom complaints, she would insult me openly in front of her mother and sister. Every fight happened publicly. Though her mother and sister acted supportive in front of me, I always felt something was off behind my back. Later, the house owner asked us to vacate, so again I struggled for more than a month searching for another house. Finally I arranged nearly 10 lakhs for another lease house — again completely on my own, despite financial pressure. Even there, small issues like temporary water problems became reasons for constant torture and complaints. Because of my throat surgery, I physically cannot argue or shout much, but still the pressure on me never stopped. For more than 3 months, I controlled my emotions only because of love. She wouldn’t even wear the தாலி at home, and nobody from her family questioned it. Finally, I informed my family. Things became serious. They returned the thali and the jewels I gifted. Even then, I gave them one week time respectfully. But one night, they vacated the house silently without informing me and blocked me everywhere. After that, I went into deep depression. Slowly I started realizing maybe she never truly loved me. Maybe she only wanted financial security, property, and a safe place for her family. Still today, one question hurts me: “If all this was not real, why did she come into my life at all?” I dreamed of a peaceful future, true love, a caring wife, and a happy baby… but everything collapsed. Even after everything, my heart still longs for genuine love someday. Moral: Before marriage, don’t just fall in love with words. Understand the mindset, family background, and intentions deeply.