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Submit ConfessionGender: Female11 June 2026 at 2:51 am
#C27372 Hi F 34 I married since 9 years and have 2 children boy and girl, purely arranged marriage through matrimonial site both of us are working at that time he is not having any past relationship with anyone before and I have a relationship lasted for 6 months with zero physical intimacy and I am pure virgin at the time of marriage. Let me explain first 5 years simply. Since we both don’t have physical relationship we both are slow to consumate marriage. Both of our environments are very different with basic values are similar in 2 families we have horrible issues in understanding, he disrespected my family many times and I could not digest and hence gradually lost interest in him and when we are discussing about separation Covid fell on us and we both are at home and hence came my pregnancy after 6 months of Covid he is actually good at caring and providing, but every time he comes near to me I remember that harse husband who hurted me and my family badly hence I avaoided physical intimacy after my son is born he asked multiple times some times I gave up sometimes I stopped sometimes I resisted but never told him I am not interested. Later my daughter was born and again we took good gap and we moved to USA. He changed a lot stopped hurting my parents me and leading a reasonably good life with almost no fights. We both discuss things and perform accordingly. He is a great father and to society he is a great husband too. Still even after 10 years of marriage I could not let him touch me heart fully sometimes he gets hurt and hurts me too as he is not able to stop himself from have physical with me. Yesterday I told him I am not interested and please don’t force me to do this. He understood and stepped back. This looks small but this is my biggest problem now. Every time I gets ready little, he falls on me and sometimes I wonder should I get ready or not to face any consequences. I remember how he hurted me and my parents repeatedly. I am simple girl who doesn’t get attracted to materialistic things and stays deveotional respects elders understands everyone’s wants and behave accordingly. I only want to be good mother and help my children grow in right direction. I teach them lot of morals.
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After 10 years also same drama...you don't remember the good, but you remember the bad...try to be positive. With that hate you gave two children to him so from now with love give him life long happiness. What will you get if you carry hatred? If he doesn't change you may behave bad, but he changed even though you are like this means, what do you expect from him?
Never hurt self respect of man once he takes decision no power on the earth can stand before man's ego. So, be respectful and loving to ur husband and value his caring and attraction towards you before it's too late.
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Either have a stand or forget everything that's happened in the past and move on. If he really gets triggered and stops being a good husband and father, then it's the end. I guess you have to move on from certain things or end it so that people can move on with their lives.
Ma'am, let me be very direct with you—this is a completely one-sided story, and the only person you are fooling with this narrative is yourself.** Either you have been deliberately turning a blind eye to your own wrongdoings all these years, or you have genuinely never realized the extent of your mistakes—and frankly, both possibilities are equally damaging. You are very, very wrong here if you think you are the innocent party in this equation. Let's not pretend that your husband woke up one day and decided to act out of nowhere. Behind every action he took, there must be at least a thousand reasons that you gave him—reasons that compelled him, pushed him, and forced him to reach that breaking point. But of course, it is always easier to point fingers at someone else and blame them entirely, just to justify your own shortcomings and avoid looking in the mirror. That is convenient, but it is not the truth. Now, if I had been in his shoes, let me tell you exactly how I would have handled things from start to finish. First, I would have been patient—extremely patient. I would have waited, requested, and tried my level best to persuade you for years—maybe four or even five long years—to help you understand one fundamental truth: physical intimacy is not a luxury or an option in a healthy marriage; it is as basic and essential as food, water, and air. Ignoring that need is not a small oversight—it is a slow poison. By continuously neglecting that aspect of the relationship, you are essentially allowing the marriage to wither away and die a slow, painful, and agonizing death. After those years of explanations and pleading, if nothing changed, I would have given you a clear and fair warning. I would have sat you down and told you point-blank that I will start going outside this marriage to fulfill that physical need, because I refuse to live like a monk while being married. And if even after that warning, you still showed no improvement, no effort, and no willingness to understand—then I would have followed through without any guilt. And do not be mistaken, ma'am—it is far easier than you think for a man to find sex outside. There is no shortage of options, so do not ever assume that your husband is stuck or helpless. Once I reached that stage, I would have completely eliminated that need from you altogether. I would have stopped seeing you as a partner in that sense and removed you entirely from the equation of my intimate life. I would have made peace with the fact that you are no longer part of that side of my world. Then, I would have simply focused on living my life alongside our child—being a present parent, fulfilling my duties, and maintaining the household for the sake of the kid. I would have spoken to you only when absolutely required, keeping conversations minimal, transactional, and strictly about logistics or the child's well-being. And yes, it would have taken time—maybe months or even years—to completely detach emotionally and physically. But eventually, I would have made you free from all expectations of me as a husband. You could then fully devote yourself to being a good mother, a good daughter, or whatever role you preferred, because clearly, being a wife was never your priority. So before you play the victim, take a long, hard look at the mirror and ask yourself—who really pushed whom to this point?
He will find it elsewhere.
U told later that today he respect ur parents? Art is letting go, u must learn this art. But according to ur post, u r a person who always create an issue for small things ? I agree it's wrong to disrespect ur parents but what u r doing today? U do same thing. After sometime when he will engage wid another woman then u will post again this issue but in different way, so it's better to learn art of letting go, nd start romance from ur side
When have energy enjoy, budda hone ka baada chaegato bi khada nahi hoga
Every human being evolves with time. He has got postive changes while you r behaving like a stupid. How can u be so selfish? You are trying to ruin your life & his life too! You fail to understand the values of a happy family.