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Submit ConfessionGender: Male11 June 2026 at 6:58 pm
#C27406 M25 , Banglore I am writing here because I genuinely need some advice. I have been emotionally attached to a girl since our school days. She was my crush back then, and even after all these years, I still have feelings for her. After 10th standard, we joined different colleges, so we were no longer in regular contact. During 11th standard, I proposed to her, but she said she wanted to focus on her career and was not ready for a relationship. She friend-zoned me. However, about a year later, I found out that she had started dating one of her college friends. Even then, I could not move on from her. Two years later, she broke up with him and contacted me again. She told me she missed me and wanted to meet me regularly. Hearing that made me emotional, and we started talking every day. Those were some of the happiest days for me. But after just three months, she fell in love with another college friend. Once again, I was hurt because I wanted to be more than just a friend to her. Over the years, we occasionally met and spent time together. Around three and a half years later, she broke up with that boyfriend as well. She told me he was toxic, manipulative, unsupportive, and had only used her. I felt bad for her and supported her through everything because I genuinely loved her. During these eight years, I was also in relationships with two other girls, but those relationships ended for different reasons. Meanwhile, I worked hard on myself, built my career, and reached a good position professionally. On the other hand, she has been preparing for govt exams and is still trying hard to secure a job but still not getting. Now, she says she wants to marry me. She tells me that we have known each other since school, our vibe matches well, and I should reject all other proposals and marry only her. My family has shown me 4–5 girls for marriage, but she insists that I should choose her. However, about a month ago, I heared from some friends that she had gone on multiple 2-3 day trips, including overnight stays, with different male friends. She had completely hidden this from me and lied about it. When I confronted her, she initially denied everything. Only after I told her that honesty was important if she truly wanted to marry me did she finally admit it. When I asked why she had hidden it, she said, "Tumko bura lagta aur tum bahot gussa hote." That incident broke my trust. What confuses me even more is that whenever she was in a relationship, she chose someone else over me. But whenever those relationships ended, she came back to me for emotional support. Now that I am well-settled in my career and earning well, she wants to marry me. Some of my friends believe she is manipulative and Narcissistic and that she is choosing me because of my stability and financial situation rather than genuine love. They keep telling me that I deserve someone who values me from the beginning and that I can find a much better life partner. The problem is that I have liked her since school and have become emotionally attached to her over the years. A part of me still wants to marry her. But another part of me feels deeply hurt by her dishonesty and by the repeated pattern of her coming back into my life only after her relationships fail. I am confused between my emotions and my logic. Am I overthinking this situation, or are these genuine red flags that should not be ignored? Should I trust her and consider marriage, or should I move on and look for someone who chooses me first rather than as a backup option?. Please Give me Geniune advice.
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She will fall in love again over u even after u marry her..... Bro Marry by ur family's Choice
I don't want tell you bro, but she also like me😐 And you are "kandha"
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You are just her safer zone to settle. She has no feelings for you....not even emotionally connected to you. Instead of making future tangled, better you leave her. Love the one who loves you....
Bhai "Kandha" mat ban.
Onek taka khorcha! Er 2 to..Tar o 2 to..majhe 8 bochor.. Bawah!
You are STILL asking if her behaviour is red flag? School level crush is one thing, grown ups behaving like lovelorn teenagers is another matter altogether. Marriage is not what is shown in silly films. It needs VERY solid partnership, alignment on long-term (personal, professional) goals and trust. She is offering you neither!
Will you be happy by marrying a dishonest person? Follow your logic.
You are always an option for her.you aren't the main guy she wanted. Now think about it.
You know what is ahead and still confused? She is a red forest bro.
Omg ! If you are still confused it is quite obvious you are infatuated. Try to get over it to save yourself. Be kind and considerate to yourself.
Don't be an emotional tampon. Move on bro.
Justttttttttttttttttttt RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN AWAY FROMMMMM HEEEEERRRR.
Bhai bhaag jaa … dil ki mat sun aur dimag se soch , nhi to life ko hell hone se koi nhi bacha sakta .
Bhai usse shaadi mat Kar. Teri life ko nark bana degi wo
god saved u so better run away
Her past is not an issue, you also had 2 relationships. But going on trips with male friends and hiding that from you, cuz you may feel sad or get disappointed, that's something fishy. Please don't go ahead as she has already broken your trust.
Have your fun man as long as it lasts
Simple hai bro.. ye tera ego hee toh hai tu isliye nahi chhod rha kyunki tujhe lagta hai ki itne saalon mai efforts and emotional diye tu usse attached hai na ki uss ladki se. Tu agar sacha pyaar karta toh tu uske har jhhuth ko dhoke ko bhoolkar apna leta. Logically toh usse moveon hona sahi hai but tera jo ego hai wo tujhe khaa jayega ki use paa na ska... Toh karle shaadi de fir uske baad jab tak tu jhel skta ya ego satisfied nhi ho jata ki bas ab dil se aawaz aaye tab chhod dena alimony dekar barbaad hokar.. ya fir logical decision lekar time do khid ko naye rishte mai sab theek ho hee jayega time ke saath. I know you will choose logical decision. Emotional wala toh maut hee hai par satisfactory maut barbaadi.
Bro leave her bcuz she's just choosing you just for your good career and she'll do that same pattern again and she'll ruin you
Don't marry this girl
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Don't marry her
Run!
Definitely not marrying case either she will ditch demand alimony cause trouble. Pattern clearly says u are her last option never first When nobody there she comes to u she is immature needs validation always. Definitely not worth for marriage kind
Everytime you get that feeling of marrying her ,masturbate ,it changes things
She is using you. The day she cracks a government job or gets a better (read : richer/more financially stable) man.. she will leave you and ruin your entire life. Better safe than sorry... Reject her saying that you want to stay as friends.
If u really want live a good life If you really love ur self and ur family If you dont wanna give a alimony to her after divorce Stay away from her. C knew about your weaknes Marry another girl. Block her from Every where
You are just tissue paper for her. Use and throw. She is just using you for her life insurance. There is no love. Just escape goat, are you blind to sew this. If you want to ruin your life then marry her.
Bhai tu chutiya hai.. you are just escape goat not her love or anything for her.