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Couples counseling and therapy 👍🏻if you wanna save your marriage else get divorced as simple as that . Why waste your youth keeping grudges about past.

You and he should both attend counseling. You both have a love and hate relationship. As a wife you have no right to refuse your husband of intimacy thats the basic foundation of bonding and trusting each other. We hear only one side of the story but it take to hands to clap Tango. You both will need to redeem yourselves and now start focusing on the future of your kids. Once married your husband becomes your partner they say "Until death do us apart" you seem to swallow certain parts of your narration but let me be straight you may be having a secrecy admirer. Let's face facts this is usual when one gets drawn to a new direction hatred and disgust is automatically developed to your spouce. You emphasis of being a good mother then for heaven sake put these petty domestic issues and make a difference to the family. In law arguments exist in most arranged or propose marriage purely due to the climate of new lifestyle. Take some moments and dwell in prayer question your all mighty and he will find a solution to all your problems. This is not a place to seek marital reconciliation this place can make it worse and you will end in a much more confused state. Place your family before your own self . God Bless

Well there isn’t any problem maam many things happen in marriage ,intact we all r facing but if the issue is not that big we try to stay n if u think u can’t get physical coz of the said reason then please ur husband about it directly as u only said u r hurting him … above all u r not staying with ur parents anymore but u r staying with ur kids n hubby

I now have a strong feeling that you allowed him indirectly to have relation with other lady outside. What he did to you and your parents is absolutely incorrect and wrong, but this is one side of the conversation. There could be a reason why he behaves like this. Nevertheless, you should speak to him in the right environment with right time with right words. If there is a human, there is a past, there are marks left that is irrevocable, non erasable, but should I carry forward with them in present and future to ruin or should I keep that aside and live life is a choice you are to take.

It is deeply understandable that you are carrying this emotional weight, as the pain of past disrespect toward you and your family cannot simply vanish just because your current circumstances have improved. Your husband’s positive changes, your love for your children, and your desire to maintain a peaceful household do not invalidate the trauma and emotional walls that built up during those difficult first five years. Healing from deep emotional wounds takes time, and forcing physical intimacy when your heart and mind still remember the hurt will only cause further internal conflict. The fact that you finally spoke your truth and he respected your boundaries is a significant and brave step forward. To navigate this complex bridge between the painful past and a more stable present, you might consider professional couples counseling or individual therapy; this can provide a safe space to process that lingering resentment, address the fear that comes with just getting dressed up, and explore whether genuine emotional reconciliation and intimacy can ever be rebuilt on your own terms.

Your reason is valid but since he changed you might consider therapy. You need professional help. Maybe he can be more romantic, take you out on dates.

He hurt you in the past, and it left a deep scar. You need emotional intimacy before physical intimacy. Your resistance comes from deep pain. He’s changed now. But feeling deprived may make him feel unwanted, which can backfire. Talk, understand each other, and sort it out. Seek counseling if needed.

What did you mean by "Every time I gets ready little, he falls on me and sometimes I wonder should I get ready or not..." What is "get ready"?

He is changed.. Then u too change

Morals or physical or our own prism of things Alone are not life... It should be on give and take policy... U ur self said before covid and post covid... Be flexible and enjoy life .. nothing is permanent in this short spell of life on Earth.

Sorry to say but dear you are giving him enough reasons to have extra marital affair ....you said he is a changed man now ,now give him a chance to be the best husband and father....don't stop him in getting closer to you otherwise it ll force him to look somewhere else

You might be demisexual. Google more about it.

If a person changing in a good direction Being more responsible then also he is wrong Or a girl with a stubborn nature is wrong ? U would also b stubborn in other situations also.. Marriage needs flexibility...not rigidness This is the reason these days we hear divorce cases a lot.... sometimes u have to be flexible sometimes he....but u already told he is changing for good.. Where is your effort to change ?

Go to therapy and couple counselling to help you to help the relationship

At a recent family function, another friend jokingly asked my happily-married cousin if he would choose the same wife in his next life. He bluntly answered, "No." Shocked, I pulled him aside privately. His reasoning was heartbreaking. He feels she only married him for his money, intimacy is practically non-existent, and the kids completely side with their mother. He simply concluded, "In my next life, I don’t want this wife or these kids."

Now you are 34 means means you would have married at 25.Now a days atleast 60% of current generation are not in a luxury to get married at that age and 25-40 is prime age of a human being to have happy se*ual life and you punished yourself and him without spending your time happily. i am sure during the verbal fight you also would have scolded his parents. his parents thought him the art of moving on but your parents not.

Sometime i feel this page is always posting some random cooked up stories not the real ones..

You are being selfish, nothing else. And probably a low libido in disguise of some nonsensical issues. My empathy with that poor guy.