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Submit ConfessionGender: Male10 June 2026 at 10:20 pm
#C27362 Hello, Admin please post it I am a 31-year-old male currently working in a government job. I was in a live in relationship that lasted for around two years. In 2019, she ended the relationship, and it completely shattered me. Although I am married now, I feel like a part of me is still stuck in that chapter of my life. I was deeply physically and emotionally involved in the relationship. My marriage is an arranged marriage, and I have genuinely tried my best to invest myself emotionally in my wife. I bring her flowers, chocolates, and take care of her well. From the outside, everything may seem fine, but deep inside, I don't feel the same emotions or intensity that I felt in my previous relationship. Back then, I was deeply in love. When the relationship ended, I went through depression. To recover, I joined a gym, lost around 20 kg, and worked hard on myself. Today, I am doing much better physically and mentally, but emotionally, I still feel stuck. It has been more than seven years since that breakup, yet I don't feel that same spark, excitement, or emotional connection with my wife. When she says "I love you," I don't experience the same feelings that I once did. I have been trying to make things work and, in many ways, I feel like I have been forcing or faking emotions because I genuinely want this marriage to succeed. I have been married for more than three years now, but emotions and chemistry are not things I can control. I have tried my best, but I am getting exhausted pretending everything is okay. Sometimes I even think about divorcing my wife because I don't want her to spend her life with someone who isn't able to love her the way she deserves. If that ever happened, I would be willing to give her everything I have my savings, my property because none of this is her fault. At the same time, I don't want to give up without trying everything possible. I don't want to hurt her by telling her all of this, but I also don't know how to keep carrying these feelings. People often say that time heals and that we eventually move on, but after seven years, I still feel emotionally stuck in the past. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you overcome it? I genuinely need advice and guidance. Thankyou for reading
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You definitely need counselling and therapy ... and under the guidance of the therapist /counsellor if you open up to your wife you may perhaps find more acceptance from her and from yourself... you never know what your wife's story is or you haven't shared... no one is perfect... what you have shared here is 100% raw human emotion and many experience the same. So start with accepting that to work towards a solution... I wish you and your wife all the best.
Past does not matter, right? Well News Flash, it does in fact matter. Everyone's past matters. Even companies before conducting recruitment conducts background verification to know if your past conduct was not bad. History sheeters are always under the radar of police and investigating agencies. You can't simply get away by saying past is past and it does not matter. Your past has all the potential in the world to disrupt your present and future. Past reveals tendencies, habits, values, moral conduct, integrity, consistency between values and actions etc. Your present is built upon your past. The trauma, the emotions, the energies, the baggage everything from your past is there within you, your body, your mind. It is almost inevitable for anyone with past relationships to be not affected by your experience. It is almost impossible to not compare because every experience becomes a reference point for brain. Now matter how much modern generation will try to hide behind fancy things like therapy, counselling etc., somethings are forever changed. Your past altered you in ways such that the new person will never get to see your un-tainted version. They will only see the facade that you put on. People with past should be very honest about it to their partners and give them space and fair opportunity to reject or still proceed knowing the possible consequences or willing to help heal that trauma. Instead of labelling those who are unwilling to marry someone with past as insecure, immature people should instead start focusing on being honest and respectful towards preferences.
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Bro you are 31, why do you feel you will have the same feeling and all. Also you do love your life(wife) coz you try to make her happy and that's all. Chill pill bro. You only lack some good hobby, try doing that. All the best
Please seek help from counselling and therapy. I don’t think you should throw away a good marriage for something that was in the past because it is not a reality now. I’m sure with the help of therapy you will be able to overcome this.
Then you shouldn’t have got married in first instance. Have now married get moving and being to love your wife and life will be a pleasant ride
Time to come out of imaginary world.. even if you had married her.. you would have been alone.
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You destroyed your wife's life, this is the reality of all the leftovers, be it a boy or a girl they compare and destroy their partners life