#C27353 I belong to North East Tripura. My love story started in 2013 through Facebook. He was my first love, while I was not his first. For the first two years, our relationship was very good and smooth. Then, in 2015, he suddenly stopped calling me regularly. Sometimes he would call after two or three days, and sometimes even after a week. I started feeling that something was wrong. Whenever I tried to fix the relationship, it would only end in arguments. I couldn't understand what the real problem was. One morning, I received a call from a girl. She asked me, "Who are you to him?" I asked her who she was. She replied, "I am his girlfriend, and right now we are in the same room. If you want, you can even hear his voice." At that moment, I went completely blank. I couldn't even speak. I didn't know what to do or how to react. I felt like my world had collapsed. My best friend, Aparna, was a very funny person. I went to college with her, laughed at her jokes, and tried to stay happy, but I still couldn't forget him. Every night, I cried alone and prayed that he would come back. After one year, he actually came back. He apologized, cried, and kept trying to convince me for about a week. Eventually, I forgave him, and I became happy again. However, even though I forgave him, I always had doubts in my heart because he had already cheated on me once. Then, the same thing happened again. He cheated on me with another girl. Every time he came back, I forgave him. Even today, I don't know why I kept forgiving him. This happened seven times. After that, I stopped accepting him and decided to focus on my career. By then, the pain of the breakup had almost disappeared because I had already gone through the same betrayal so many times. For two years, we had no contact. During that time, I got a job and focused on my life. Then, unexpectedly, he came back again, and things moved so quickly that we ended up getting married before I even realized it. Three months after our marriage, he received two job offers, and now he is working in a government job. My in-laws consider me lucky, and many people say the same because he got those opportunities soon after our marriage. After that, we started living happily, but eventually we entered a long-distance marriage because our postings were in different places. Then his old habit returned—he started cheating again. Even after marriage, I caught him cheating three more times. Sometimes I wonder if I am an educated person or just a fool. How can I love and forgive the same person so many times? I even fell into depression, and during that entire year, he didn't even come to see me once. Now I don't know what to do. Please suggest what I should do.
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Since it has been ten times now, you have accepted that he’ll come back from anywhere he goes. Its distorted but normalised, hence don’t unnecessarily question or guilt-trip yourself and focus on the sunny side. Keep your peace a priority. If ever you feel you don’t deserve this, walk out only if you are determined to never look back. Stay empowered.
i wonder what counter thing u got on hand to forgive his cheats? did u got slipped with someone somewhere once or twice?
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You know what to do . You just need the courage. Please prioritise yourself.
But are your cheating proofs fool-proof!? Not even the greatest detective in planet has been able to catch 10 times a thief, same thief, lol And you have no real proof, as you contradict yourself when you say caught him 7 times and then he came to marry you. It's all in your mind these suspicions, first collect irrefutable proof of physical cheating and evidence which others can belive too, chk with others once if your proofs are valid, then leave him if true..... Sometimes men also need women for other than physical, some ppl are flirty, or care for women advice, and here you have counted ten cheatings in yr mind and still married him and still living a happy life in yr words (neighbours envy), FYI - a Ten time cheater doesn't need you. He would be so full of disrespect and lack of emotion, that he would be unliveable...
Proves the point: women in love would do anything. Self respect naam ki chiz bachi he ?
Ladkiya pyaar mei itna pagal self respect hi kho diya ...yeh sacrifices koi nhi dekhta
Just foegive him one more time, and in future repeat this too. Girls these days are so confused that they will destroy a good man's life in seconds by slaping him many false cases of dowry and DV but keep going to a person who repeatedly cheats her in entire lifetime 😌