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#C27355 I am 33 M .Got Married in 2022. I am introvert doesnt express much. It was arranged marriage and decided to marry without any dowry and didnt even discuss the expenses or anything. Wedding banquet booking was done by us which we showed to girlside to ask if they are ok with it . They said yes. We had expected they would be paying half of expenses which they didnt . But we didnt saything . My father had gone to his friend which resides in same area as my wife . He during talks told my father that marriage was good and we had received good dowry . My father refused said we didnt take any. He said but here everyone was told girl side and invested 40lakh in the marriage . We were shocked . My father called girl side . Please give us the expenses list which were done in the marriage . But they turned the story and said we were asking expenses list because we want dowry . Little tensions were there in relation but was manageble . One day my mother was cooking food and my wife was sitting in room reading the books . My mother called wife said pray the god and serve the food. She didnt listen. My mother repeated this 2-3 times. She didnt listen . My mother got angry went to her and told to give her phone as she will call her mom . My wife scratched my mother face , my mother cried . I went to the room . Somehow manged my anger and didnt hit my wife . Simply told wife go to 1st floor we will be living seperate . Me and my wife on 1st floor . My parents on ground floor . Wife demended fridge same day . I told wait or ask your father as i was annoyed myself . She called her father . Her father came with 8 people at 8pm night without announcing abused my father , mother , threathened us , told my mother and father to go oldage home and leave home to my wife. Caught hold my father by neck . We called police .They told police we are demanding dowry , have beaten the girl . Police told us to live peacefully didnt do anything as it seems to them as family matter . Her father went to all neighbours knocked their gates . Told everyone that he has given lots of dowry , and we trouble the girl , we dont give her food , we beat her . Now at this time relation was almost over , there was no trust left. We had installed cctv camera on 1st as well as ground floor . Incidents had somehow troubled my head . My head always thinking about incidents which were making me angry inside . Although i am very peacefull guy . Still didnt tell anything to wife kept inside me . But yes i would during the fight i would abuse her parents for wrong doing. The fight which always she starts I am into family business and being in baniya family . We would invest everything possible back to business dont draw salaries . I come from upper middle class family with no money issues at all . Now by this time i started acting as we are broke and lots of loan on us. Girl had some behaviour issue she had insecurities in her and wanted control . She would abuse me , my mother .I simply started ignoring her thinking she might feel bad and ask apology and become better person. But after few days i would melt and start giving her love again . Her behaviour pattern returns every 15-30days .Again she would disrespect and same loop goes again and again .One boundary i had set that i would never go to her family . If she wants to go go and return back. I had lost interest in s*x with her . She had gained around 17kg of weight.This went for 2 years . Now she wanted more agression out of us .So she would go downstairs and abuse my mother . It was 2nd April thought came my mind this silence treatment she isnt considering as punishment at all . So i shouted back at her abused her. Full loud . Took my things and came downstairs. She called her parents . Her father sent her brother and took her . Next day her father called me , abused me , my family , threthened to k*ll and kidnap us . We filed complaint against her father . They filed DV , Dowry case against us . Althought we have all CCTV recordings with us. Main thing this relation has given my anxiety , And fear . Fear of not getting as good partner again . Divorce is a tabo here .