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Submit ConfessionGender: Female10 June 2026 at 4:08 pm
#C27349 I want to share my breakup story because I genuinely need advice and perspective. I am a 28-year-old woman who was in a relationship with a guy for about 2.5 years. We met while working at TCS, Kolkata. From the beginning, he seemed emotionally unavailable and didn't appear to understand what a healthy relationship required. After about 3–4 months, I decided to end things, but he became extremely emotional, cried, and promised he would change. I believed him and gave the relationship another chance. Over the next two years, we had constant arguments about his efforts. Never ever asked him for gifts. Only I wanted to be with him. There was toxic behavior from both sides during fights, including harsh words. We would fight, reconcile, and then repeat the same cycle. Looking back, there were many red flags: • He never called or texted me, and I became the only one making an effort to stay connected. • He rarely wanted to meet on weekends. • Once, when I asked him to meet me, he said, "I don't have a car, so I can't come." • He lied to me about his age. • He made plans with me for January 1st but ultimately prioritized his friends by cancelling on me. • Despite being together for years, he never told his parents about me. There were many other incidents that made me question his commitment and honesty. At one point, he met my parents and told them that we would get married by 2027. I was happy, but deep down I always felt uncertain because he was emotionally and physically absent most of the time. The only times he seemed caring and attentive were when we were physically intimate. Looking back, I feel he may have used the promise of marriage to keep me invested in the relationship while giving very little effort otherwise. Another thing that deeply disturbed me was that he would sometimes tell me alarming stories about political violence. He even claimed that a close relative of his had connections to people involved in such activities. I never had any way to verify whether these statements were true, but hearing them made me uncomfortable and anxious. Looking back, I do not know whether these stories were real, exaggerated, or simply a way to influence my emotions and perception of him. Last month, he suddenly ended the relationship. His explanation was that due to the political situation he had to "go underground." However, he continued going to work in Kolkata as usual. The explanation made little sense to me. He also claimed to have knowledge about who was responsible for certain violent incidents, which only added to my confusion. I have no way to verify any of these claims. After the breakup, I learned from one of his close friends that he may have been involved with other women during our relationship. The photos he posts now also make it appear that he is not single. This has made me question whether he was cheating throughout the relationship. I have evidence showing that we discussed marriage seriously, including messages where we agreed on marriage plans, videos, and proof that I spent time at his rented home. Because of this, I feel even more hurt and confused about what his true intentions were. What hurts the most is not just the breakup itself, but the emotional trauma, confusion, false hope, and feeling that I invested 2.5 years of my life in someone who was never fully committed. I am struggling with anger, betrayal, and disappointment. For those who have gone through something similar, what would you? Can I file a complaint but at the same time I don't have money. But I want to teach him a lesson.
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Don’t spend your peace, money, and precious time trying to teach him a lesson. The best revenge is a happy, successful life where he no longer has access to you. Heal, move on, and let karma do its job. One day, you’ll be grateful this relationship ended because it made space for the right one. Sending you strength and love!💝
Thumb rule: if a guy is not spending on you, he is not interested in you at all..!
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From what you've shared, the relationship was one-sided for a long time and the red flags were there early on. His behaviour may have been selfish and misleading, but a breakup or broken promises alone don't automatically make it a legal case. If there was cheating, threats, financial exploitation, or deliberate fraud, consult a lawyer. Otherwise, the best lesson for him is you moving on and not giving him any more of your time or energy.
Whoever he was or is... if you want to do good for yourself, don't wait for him. In any way.Because some people don't understand right or wrong, they just experience their own trauma and grief. Cry to your heart's content. Sleep to your heart's content. Go for a walk somewhere, muster up the courage, and you'll feel good.Don't let your parents break down either. It will take time, and the impact will gradually diminish.Work on yourself, improve your health. Eye sockets don't go away after a certain age.When you are healed and can rebuild your faith, then come back to life.time will definitely heal...i know nothing will change but you will observe more n mature enough...thats help you further life..we all are same but situation are different.i request to you kindly try to busy n improve health mantally n physically.learn earning skills...n focus what makes you happy lots of best wishes..all the very best
First, I'm sorry you're going through this. From what you've described, the biggest issue isn't that the relationship ended, it's that for 2.5 years you were carrying most of the emotional load while hoping things would eventually improve. Looking at the facts you've shared, there were several warning signs, lack of communication, minimal effort to meet, dishonesty about his age, repeatedly prioritizing others over the relationship, not informing his family about you despite years together, and only showing consistent interest when intimacy was involved. Whether he intentionally misled you or was simply unwilling to commit, his actions did not match the promises he made. Regarding the political stories and the reason he gave for ending the relationship, it's understandable that you're confused. Since you have no way to verify those claims, it's probably best not to build conclusions around them. Focus instead on the things you know for certain, how he treated you and how the relationship made you feel. As for 'teaching him a lesson,' be very careful. Anger after betrayal is normal, but acting out of revenge often prolongs the pain rather than healing it. If you're considering legal action, consult a lawyer first and understand whether there is actually a legal basis. In many places, a failed relationship or a broken promise of marriage alone is not automatically a criminal offense. However, if there was deliberate deception, financial exploitation, coercion, or other misconduct, a lawyer can explain your options. Right now, the strongest lesson for him may simply be losing access to someone who genuinely cared. The strongest lesson for you is recognizing that love should not require one person to do all the work. Try asking yourself this, if a friend described the exact same relationship to you, would you advise her to fight for him, or would you tell her she deserved better? The answer to that question is often very revealing. Take time to heal, lean on trusted friends and family, and if the anger and trauma feel overwhelming, consider speaking with a counselor. Your goal should be recovery and closure, not revenge. Revenge keeps you connected to him, healing sets you free.
Block him. Heal. Move on. Time will teach him lessons. You don’t have to waste energy on that! ❤️
Teach him lesson? There is lot to learn yourself, first do that. Everybody thinks of harming , some even think of causing it to God, this only brings more misery....you were immatured, atleast now get better. If even experience cannot teach you, then you are going to be a disaster for yourself in future evermore , learn and never repeat and never make same mistakes ....it was clear he was affer physical needs alone, you were just one of those in his list....anyway 2,5yrs if it made you wiser, is not all waste.....and don't forget somewhere you have needs and wants and desires too, which the other had too, so it's not that the other only got benefitted like you seem to believe .....Move on ..and quadruple your happiness and in future keep strings in your hand...
I totally get what ur feeling. Law is just waste of money and time. We all want justice But the more we hold on to the grudge The more we cause trauma to ourselves For some one else's mistake. Don't punish urself for being sincere. Just make sure no man hurts u ever again. Every mistake is forgivable for the first time And u should do that to urself.
Sometimes people uses this as tactics to get other person in bed. Don't think too much, be grateful you're free now. U can heal and start a healthy life again.
I don't understand why people get physical so quickly in relationships. They get physical after just one or two dates. Is this true love or lust? Why are they so available? These days, it's become a fashion and a show-off to say, "Look, I have a boyfriend or girlfriend."
maybe u expected too much and this happened...u r saying u need his time from him but how much is the question....if u expect 24hrs or majority of 24hrs then that became toxic for him and he chose to move away...if u were expecting only few mins daily on call maybe morning afternoon and night for few mins then it is still understood but if u expect hours together everyday that became toxic for him to be with u...maybe u were controlling him and he is out of ur control...anyway it is broken now so see what all u shud change for ur next relationship...definitely u will get a better guy so wait for it
Okay... So firstly, I'm happy I voted.... Secondly, you're a m0ron and future Feminatzi... The below is the lifecycle of these Feminatzi entities - 1) Ignore the decent men, considering them uncle or boring or too simple or scary. 2) Fall for the toxic men who treat you like sh!t ... Or initially give them attention then ghost them, while they run behind them. 3) After that desperation and love (b@@l r love) is used by the partner as a tactic to use and abuse them (cussing her and her parents, taking her to Digha or Mandarmoni or OYO in New Town or Bringing her to his house etc) 4) Then the future Feminatzi becomes boring and a source for extortion for the man(either using janu, sonu, babu, sona dialogue followed by assurance of returning the money or using pictures during their hotel escaped as means of leverage). 5) After that these Jokers are left. Used and Abused cycle is completed here. At this juncture of time the female subject has 3 choices, after going through the cycle of boo hoo hoo crying - 1) Wanna be Boss Lady and male hating feminist, considering all men as dogs. 2) Still a jokers trying to find Love getting attracted to more toxic men, during night outs, weekend parties, drinking games etc. 3) Does the necessary cleaning over social media and suddenly become pure as a flower, hiding the entire back story and opening a matrimonial profile. So please don't fall in this lifecycle. What happened, accept it and just be a normal person. Be open to love but be cautious, don't play Russian roulette with your heart, body and mind. 🙂
Remember karma is a bitch. For all the pain u went through because of him , he will learn his lesson. All u need to focus on now is to move on. Time will heal. Live a good life in front of him.
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1. Either charge him for deemed r@pe. Your parents will need to testify to the promise of marriage. Be prepared for retaliation and for things to get ugly. Not much may come from the case either except years wasted. 2. OR Thank your stars you dodged a bullet and only wasted 2.5 yrs and move on. I’d advise the 2nd one. Reason? Even though the grounds for filing a DR are solid in this case, you’re still young and the person is not worth pursuing the charge or wasting the time. We only advise DR cases where the damage received by the victim is too great to ignore. I understand this may be tough to get over right now, but trust me… from the profile of the person and nature of the relationship u mentioned above this seems like more of a trauma bond than true love and one day you’ll thank him for not marrying u. Cz trust me, THAT would be the real nightmare. Such men only stay on track (that too barely) when the girl comes from a much more heavy handed family that can keep the guy in check.
U ignored the red flags!!! Most of the guys get close to a gal for intimacy and they are committment phobic... U learnt ur lesson.... Move on gal! Good luck
Start worrying about yourself instead of revenging him. In love, one who gives love is the biggest looser at the end. Time heals you, keep you engaged and live happily as u didn't end up in toxic married life. Still u wanna revenge him ? Just get details of his partner, before his marriage drop some of those pic to her. Either his marriage Will be cancelled or he will be mentally disturbed by his wife till they stay together. One thing, never accept such looseRs in ur life again.
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Move on.. He was a cheater from day 1..
You need therapy. Take intensive therapy and get out of this shit. Karma will give him his lesson, you move forward with healing and dignity
Okay find his relatives and that gf send the ss to them
Oh my mamaata benarji because of u he left her lover
You're still safe! Stay single stay happy stay alone! No expectation no hurt! Enjoy the life without dependency
Never invest in one - sided relationships never. I recently broke one.
Tum to starting se hin chutiyapa kar Rahi ho First 2-3 mahine me hin tum ko sab clear ho gaya tha na to 2.5year qun barbad ki Abhi evidence he bolne se kya hoga Pesa to nahi hai na Jis k pass pessa hota he , political influence Hota hai wahi jitta hai... Tumhare liye acha hai santi se raho Kuch din single raho, khush raho Khud ko samvalo...
Lol deserved it. You wre just a side chick. A fk doll for him whenever he got bored of his main chick 😂😂. Boy played you well 😂
Goru na kine dudh dowate diyechen toh eta toh hobar e chilo. Marriage e market value pore gelo apnar, oti kodakar meye holeo virginity tar character value onek bariye dai etai bastob. Chukanir daam jibon diye dite hoye. Take karma bolun ki kaffarah Onno karur mukh marben 20s e toh bibahoto jobon o briddha boyesh eeo tar daam dite hoye. HAAN APNI KORE THAKLE APNAKEO DITE HOBE! Bachha noshto hoye jaowa, ghore boro bipod howa eei kormo gulor e fol. Nanan shomporke joriye emotional & physical baggages niye karur golai jhulte chailei hoye na, taar daam besh bhalo dite hoye J meyera nijer bap er kotha na bhebe karur kothai pote giye panty shoriye fele tar emotional o physical chahidar Das hoye jaye. Tara chaileo pore bhalo cheler sathe kono bibahito shomporko dhore rakhte pare na. Dhop mere golai jhulte chai aar tar fole divorce rates barte thake. Boyfriend achei mane cheleder mukh mara meye. Kormer fol shey o tar shontan shude ushol hoye pabe
You were stupid and blind. Leave him . Karma will teach him. No need revenge