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Submit ConfessionGender: Female10 June 2026 at 3:51 am
#C27338 I don't know where to start. I just need honest advice because I feel completely exhausted. I had a love marriage. My husband's family never accepted the marriage, although they happily accepted everything my parents gave during the wedding. After marriage, I never felt welcomed. I was expected to do all the household work, and when my daughter was born, I was even told that if I wanted to raise my child, I should do it myself because they wouldn't help. I lived separately for almost a year with my small baby and tried to manage a job and childcare alone, but I couldn't continue and had to quit my career. Later, things became somewhat normal, but emotionally I never healed. Now I have two children. My son is 9 months old and my daughter is old enough to remember our fights. I feel constant pressure from family expectations, childcare, housework, and old emotional wounds. Sometimes I become so overwhelmed that I lose control, shout, cry, and later feel terrible guilt. My daughter gets scared when she sees me like that, and that breaks my heart. The biggest problem is that I carry years of resentment towards both my in-laws and even my own parents because I never felt truly supported by anyone. I constantly feel alone. Now there is pressure to visit India after 2.5 years, but I would have to stay in the same house where I have painful memories and where I expect conflict again. Even thinking about it gives me anxiety. I don't want revenge anymore—I just want peace. I want to become emotionally stable for my children and somehow maintain at least one normal relationship for their sake. But I don't know how to let go of this burden that I have carried for more than a decade. Has anyone gone through something similar? How did you reduce this emotional pressure and stop carrying so much anger and pain? How can I protect my children from all this while also healing myself? Please be kind. I genuinely need advice, not judgment.
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Try mindfulness meditation every day for atleast 15 mins you can handle your emotions better, not all like raising kids. So we can't expect things from others including our parents only person we can hold responsible is your husband. It's his duty to protect you and help you.
Do not go, if you are not comfortable. The first responsibility you have is towards yourself. If people/ place constantly drain you make you unhappy you are not in any way obligated to maintain relationship with them ,that includes relatives from your side too. You are taking care of two kids in your own and that is very exhausting to say the least. Keep your priorities straight. Mental peace matters the most ,you kid deserve a happy mother. If you can not avoid been with them, do not engage with them if you visit their place, stay silent mind your business.
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“You do not need to force yourself to ‘forgive and forget’ right now. Start with protecting your peace. If visiting India means returning to a place that triggers old wounds, set boundaries around where you stay and how long you stay. Your children need a calmer version of you more than they need family expectations fulfilled. Also, stop expecting emotional support from people who repeatedly haven’t given it—it keeps reopening the hurt. Find support for yourself instead, even if it’s one trusted person or a counselor. Healing doesn’t happen by carrying everything alone. Be gentle with yourself—you are a tired mother carrying years of pain, not a bad one.”
What do you want now? You are away from them till now , but again you are going to meet that is it...what are you expecting? This is life, what happens in the next second no one knows..you want them to die right?
Khud ko samjhiye aur reserve rahiye Na jyada kissi say baatcheet na gilay shikway Thorey din ki baat hai nikal jaayeingey
if you are financially independent just move out of this hell typical desi thinking
If your in laws did not want the Child why would you go for second child 😂 ,? If you have so much complaints with them why would you bring a child in world .. Now you asking advice from world ..