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#C27336 Hi admin pls post this 🙏 30 M , I got married two years ago through an arranged marriage, still haven’t planned for kids . Tbh, it felt more like a forced marriage from my side. However, after the wedding, I accepted the relationship and gave my 100% effort to make my wife happy. The main problm has been my wife's behavior. She was brought up in a very sheltered and unusual environment. She doesn't seem to understand how relationships work in the real world and rarely listens to anyone's advice. She has poor relationships with both her own family members and mine even she hates her grandmother . In contrast, I have always maintained close and healthy relationships with my relatives and family. She has very few friends and rarely talks to them. Over time, because of her behavior, some of my relatives have started distancing themselves from me. More concerning is that she strongly dislikes my parents, my brother, and even my brother's 8-month-old daughter. She directly won’t express those grudge and hatred but we can understand by her actions. Despite of all this she loves me very much we can call it as mad love. I’m suffocating in that mad love. She becomes insecure whenever I talk to female colleagues, relatives, or even family friends. At one point, she accused me of having an affair with my aunt's daughter. I was shocked because my cousin is a year older than me and is already married. I tolerated these issues for a long time, hoping things would improve. However, everything changed when I heard recordings of phone conversations between my wife and her mother. Those recordings completely shattered me. In those conversations, they showed absolutely no respect for me or my parents.They body shamed me and my family, spoke negatively about us, and even discussed how they could separate me from my parents. What hurt me the most was hearing them talk about waiting for my parents to die. and herd lot of things which I can’t express here. One day, I played all the recordings in front of my parents and my wife and her parents . All were shocked. What shocked me even more was that neither my wife nor her parents showed genuine guilt in them . They simply said that those words were spoken in the heat of the moment and that it was a small issue. A major argument followed, and I dropped my wife at her parents' home. It has now been two months since we separated. During this period, neither my wife nor her parents contacted me. However, last week my wife called me. She said that she loves me, wants to be with me, and asked me to take her back. She apologized and promised that she would not repeat her past behavior. She is asking for another chance. Now I am completely confused. I do not know whether I should accept her back or move on. During these two years of marriage, I experienced tremendous emotional trauma, stress, and depression. There were times when I was genuinely afraid to go home because of her. When I shared my struggles with a few close people, most of them dismissed my concerns by saying things like, "These are small issues," "You should adjust," or "This is how married life works.butif the same situation had happened in reverse if I or my family had treated my wife this way now harassment case would be on my name and my family.are problems for men’s are Not the real problems? I’m in really In confused state what to do further pls suggest me how to proceed further thank you