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Submit ConfessionGender: Male9 June 2026 at 11:59 pm
#C27333 I am 34 male, I got married last September (9 months back) to our distant relative girl, she is 20. First 3 days went everything nice. Later things started changing. When I got to know she who loved someone for 4 years, had breakup, I didn't mind it much thinking it's a puppy love. Due to AI evolution & boom, I lost my Data analyst job which gave me 35k monthly, lost that job in October. She started questioning, keep on doubting & asking me about my past. She even said openly, I am just 20, had love for 4 years, you are 34, can't believe u not had any ex in past. Later job lose, her & her family real face started showing. She started insulting me not making money, doubting me even if I talk with my relatives or friends. The toxicity started growing day by day bigger. At last, one fine fight, she left to her mom house in December. Tried many reconciliation attempt, nothing worked out. Now last 6 months she is there only. She started going for a job, earning 20k monthly. I moved to Bangalore for job hunt, doing courses now. During those reconciliation (Village panchayats) we not talked but giving our complaints to elder only, so it's been 6 months we talked actually. I don't think it's not gonna work for long run. They kept quite because I don't have any movable or immovable properties on my name, job & bank balance. They even threatened to book false dowry, cruelty, DV cases against me 4 months back, but no movement front their side so far. They are clearly money minded, No child formed. Even her one relatives told us, they are planning to remarry her to some rich guy this time, meanwhile looking to lure any things from me. Marriage is a blessing for most, myself become dark. Help me what to do next?
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Try thinking about age gap, the next time you plan to marry someone. 14 years is no joke!
When marrying unemployed woman u should have enough money to sustain in case of job loss. It’s your responsibility as a man because she is too young n not working. You chose her for youth , she chose you for money. She has compromised on age , asking her to compromise on money too is not fair.
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U married for young age, they married for ur money... Now secure a job, then see if they change again.. If yes time to move on...
First you settle by getting decent job. Stop chasing her or begging her to return to your life. It makes your life more miserable. The person who has no money has no power too in this society. Instead of inviting more trouble by contacting her, concentrate on job and settle. Already you wasted lots of time. Don't take this as excuse to grow in life . Even if no partner, don't worry. But all you need is a decent earning. There is no shortage of work in Bangalore. If you are doing course, join part time job....after completing course, you will get good job.
The universe is guiding you away from greater danger. Walk away from a toxic and aggressive relationship
Actually the first issue is the age gap between you guys it's 14yrs damn how did you agree. Were you clear about your income and finances with her family she? And everyone marry and wish to have a good life you or she🤷🤷 finance is the major role player in life and you lost job unfortunately and she came to you with dreams of future and everything. Luckily you got to know about her thinking in the early stage Try to get a divorce on mutual consent if her parents have already planned about her remarriage kindly don't plead with them anymore. Don't make ur life messy.. take care bro life is bigger than wife
Take this as a blessing from god and move out from this broken marriage asap! You are saved, you can find someone better. Let her go her way, do not escalate the matter or else many charges will follow your way as her family n she has said they gonna put you up for, so better be careful and leave this attachment here. This ain't a love, she doesn't love you for who u are, seems she is too materialistic. I personally don't judge a person's history but sometimes it does matter and when you know about her past relationship, man, just let her go or else she will drag you to the hell. Protect ur inner peace, mental happiness, overall wellbeing, ur family's peace and move on.
Consult a lawyer and prioritize protecting yourself from potential false legal cases immediately.
First thing to do is to find a job which can help confessor sustain his life. Soon all savings will exhaust. After that confessor can decide whether to continue with this lady or not
Hence proved. A man is only admired, loved and valued until he can provide.
Get Divorce before Job. Otherwise your life will become hell. And after Divorce keep one thing in mind that Time Changes. But it is you who can change the time.
Once you get a job which is equal to your previous job, everything will change and she may ..🙆
You were a grown man marrying a literal teenager. The imbalance here was always there. 19 year old couldn't offer maturity in the marriage, and she was clearly married off for security which you couldn't provide after losing your job. Arrange marriages are transactional. Guy seeks youth, beauty, maturity and girls seek security... And at times... looks as well. Compatibility is non-negotiable on either side I hope. Now the parents won't want their daughter to sit in their home... Given that they are the kind to marry a teenager, ofc they are gonna get you two separated and her remarry while they can. Indian men have a long list and too many filthy one-liners to judge women and issue an 'expiry date'. Not my thinking, but that's how our society works. If you'd have married someone from your age group... Then the case might have been different. But they might have been too old for you maybe? Well... Your wife is Gen-Z and they are infamous for not adjusting. So... You reap what you sow.
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she's 20? unc why did you marry someone the age of your niece
Why you as a 34 yr old man were ok marrying a literal teenager? What sort of maturity were you expecting from a 20 yr old and why???? Fault is yours
Who asked you to get married to a 20 years old girl first place with 14 yrs of age gap 😏😏😏😏
Do nothing next. Let them file the DV case and go to jail, you will get bed to sleep, free food there, don’t have to work.
An old ox seeking tender grasses is a perfect example here.. whether you have money or not, you ain't controlling cats of genZ.. Such stories are often common in Bengali families where old men seek young wives at least 10-15 years younger.. When you seek young legs, you get bamboo in your ass.. that's what is happening here.. stop fantasizing young cats, live the reality of the 21st century world and get yourself someone of your generation. It almost sounds like a child rapist.. no offense but it's a common sense
Well, the first thing is that, what she what? Is she want to live with you then you have to fight with other family members and if she don't want to live then you also have to move on because at this age she is not able to understand the value of marriage and there is also a generation gap, which really keeps very much importance in any relationship. Secondly brother, their is also one mistake you had done that, you had married a girl who is really very much younger then you and if anyhow you continue your married life then you have to face this situation again and again. And you are afraid with any legal action then kindly make one application and send to the authority and disclose all the situation that she went herself and all things...
Why would u marry a child???
Why did you marry someone so young? This was bound to happen
Speak to a good lawyer and take necessary steps so that they dont harass you. Get a divorce.
Try to convince her don't talk with others only uh and ur wife don't involve any one either ur father or her father.. uh and ur wife only will solve ...
Take all the blame and disappear.
Really sad
Thats bound to happen if you marry a smart beautiful young lady next time go for a lady eho is few years younger and have work,at 34 how come you have no savings nowadays lots of people loose their job.
Unkool how I married a 20 year old girl ?
Uncle marry a child, thinking and complain like a child. Be a man. Culprit only follows village panchayat. Real man/woman use court for critical conflict. They can't prove dowry if there is no transaction happened. Girl should provide evidence. Why you fear? Culprit only fear of seeing law. But face POSCO. During arranged marriage, what were your guardians doing? Eating mixture? How they can't identity the age of girl? I suspect. Are you still doing panchayat using this guardians? Time pass for them.
Wtf! Typical arranged marriage. Chii Who marries a 20 year old girl?
Bitter truth now days . Don't proceed for marriage with just job income and second age gape 🙏
Silenlty take a divorce and plan next... Legal seperation is best
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First it's your mistake as you married a 20 year old girl..it's 14 years diffrance between Both...and what made you to marry without having enough money and assets? ..you married her only for sex.....is it...let her go from your life.... find new life.. don't think like 60s generation village head pancyath 😂😂.....get out from her life let her to be happy...
FOCUS ON SECURING A JOB.
Move on! Not worth
Why would you marry someone who is 14 years younger dn you? That's a whole generation gap... Also, since alot of people are loosing jobs due to AI boom, and you were in a field with the greatest risk, shouldn't you marry someone who is earning enough and would be able to support the family till you find another job... You went for beauty and not character when choosing to marry, how are we supposed to help you now? You reap what you saw....
Earn money bro
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File for divorce.....or she ll Ruin uu
How did u accept a woman who has 14 years of age difference??? Generation gap!!!! Did u actually think of her in first place ??? Will u marry someone in their 48? (34+14) You have spoiled her life in the first place by accepting her ...also u should have thought about their intention of giving their daughter to a person who is 14 years older than their daughter....worst ba....2026 la kuda ipdilam nadakudha weird
34 years and You don’t have a job Marrying a 20 year old and first thing you say about your wife is she had a relationship before marriage Leave the girl alone. Get a job and be a man first. Hope she divorces you. Disgusting person marrying such a young girl.
Bro if you apply for separation. It’ll go against you. In India mard Jaat ke support ke liye koi law nhi hai. Aap job lo usko ghar lane pe liye dubara panchayti karwao. Agar wo aai to thik nhi to uske end se hi divorce file karwao. Agar wo aapko apne marzi se divorce de deti h to isse jyada khusi ki baat or koi nhi hogi. Aapki bride ka complete mind wash ho chuka h nhi to 20 saal ki larki kabhi divorce ka maamla rise nhi karti. Shaayad iske liye kuch log mujhe criticise kare… mujhe lagta h ki aapne usko phone use karne ki freedom di hui thi ye sb usi ka result h. Koi or aapki fielding set kar rha h aapke against me aapke bride ke through.
Why did you marry a girl 14 years younger than you??..what kind of maturity or support or dependability you expected bro??
They are not money minded, you're poor minded idiot married young girl for god knows what reason. And when she found you're incapable, you're blaming her and family. Stop the non sense and first have some dignity
Why did you marry someone so much younger than you? So that she can take care of you till you die and you never have to take care of her in her old age? You deserve this fate
Fault is yours mate, anyways u have been married late u shouldn't got married to 20 year old girl common
Please tell me why did you choose a girl 14 years younger to you and that to a relative? I hope you get a job soon and get your marriage annulled.
अच्छा हुआ बला टलि, जल्दी से डिवोर्स दे दो, और job के लिए मुझे इनबॉक्स करो
Men who beg for reconciliation in such cases especially after knowing about the mindset of ur wife and family, are the biggest fools. Best time to divorce her. Meanwhile keep hunting for a job and fix ur life.