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Submit ConfessionGender: Female9 June 2026 at 8:06 pm
#C27323 I really don't know what to do, and I need some advice. First, an important detail: I'm not from India, although I am South Asian. He is Indian. He is currently in my country for work and will be leaving soon(probably after a few months) Leaving aside how our love story started, the main thing I want to talk about is our future. I am 20 years old and currently in my first year of MBBS, so I still have many years of study ahead of me. He is 25 years old. I cannot disclose his identity, but I can say that we love each other very much. The problem is that both of us know that our future together seems uncertain. Recently, his parents have been pressuring him to get married. Since his job often keeps him away from home, they want him to marry someone who can stay with them and take care of them as they grow older. He tells me that he does not want to get married right now, but he feels that he may have to give in to his parents' wishes. This is especially difficult for me because he is my first love. He has shown me genuine love and care from the very beginning, and I have never had any reason to doubt his feelings. I genuinely cannot imagine my life without him. At the same time, I cannot marry him right now even if I wanted to, because I need to focus on completing my medical studies first. So now I feel completely stuck. Should I let him go and try to move on, acting as if the past six months never happened? Or should I hold on to him because I truly believe what we have is real and meaningful? Should I tell him to go ahead and marry if that's what his situation requires? I honestly don't know what to do. Love is such a crazy thing. I would really appreciate any advice.
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Focus on yourself, your career before anything else. This will help you sustain throughout your life while relationships come and go. He is 25, not 40! Any Indian guy can wait another 5years if he really values your companionship. It's actually for him to choose his priority, not on you. Don't even assume that you are at the receiving end, you're not. Feelings of being in love is great but also a lot of brain chemicals doing the talk. And it'll placate after a while. If you choose your self-worth before anything else, the world automatically syncs with you and values you.
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The best option right now for you is to focus on your career. You are too young to sacrifice your career for a guy who doesn't have the spine to commit and wait. Fast forward when you are in your 30s , what will support you will be your financial freedom and stability. Let no guy no matter how much he tells you that he loves you control the narrative of your life and decisions.
Reason he getting married because his parents want someone to care for them ,that's not how marriage works, his wife must live together not him being in another country and his wife in another country either but together as partners. As of now you focus on your studies and if he is for you in future it will happen eventually but stop stressing out for a man you hardly knows little about him.
concerntrate on your studies ... becoming dr and getting superspecialization would be bigger asset in Life than some Man ... Your future is in your hands ... Make your career , establish yourself in the medical faternity and rest many men will come ... But this opportuniy of making urself a good dr comes once in Life
Never marry a man who is marrying for his parents. Never marry into a household where you are considered as their house help or caretaker. Be extremely cautious.
Focus on your studies. Career comes first. You don’t have to tell him what to do. He’s only 25. If he wants to wait for you, he will.
Just move on Let his parents and he have a blessed life, u marry after u settle down with your career related person only
Focus on your career. Don't become a homemaker to please someone else. Choose yourself, not some guy.
Never compromise ur career its.simple.n clear
Move on Treat these 6 months as blessing and move on If you remain in relationship things are going to be worse for both of you
First understand an average Indian's mindset. 1. Go abroad mainly for independence n escape surveillance of parents, friends and family. 2. Enjoy life n live to fullest. 3. Seduce a girl n enjoy with her or enjoy with as many as possible. 4. Return home n marry the beautiful n financially rich girl, he chose n his parents r arranging marriage. 5. Have final farewell fuck with this abroad gf citing family, emotional sentiment reason/excuse n escape. This is an average indian man's dream n wish in life.
He is not ready for commitment. Don't fall for it.
Please focus on YOURSELF!! I was in this situation a few years back and I have no regrets leaving my then boyfriend. I have completed my studies and achieved something which i wouldn’t have been able to if had gotten married!! Tell him to get married . this breakup may hurt you for a few months but believe me you won’t regret taking thjs decision. Seeing yourself succeed in your career is more important than marrying at20 and looking after his parents and probably even have children!!!! FOCUS 👏🏻ON👏🏻YOURSELF👏🏻
Career is important
Just 20… Studies is important
Move on! Those feelings are only haunting you because of your age..!!
NEVER leave your career for a man - man may leave u or u may leave the man but career will sustain u for life and u won’t have to life by compromising ever
Parents want a free ka maid to take care of them and destroy the sons life which will never get settled - i can see a divorce coming unless he marries a girl from village who is uneducated and ok with this arrangement