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Submit ConfessionGender: Female9 June 2026 at 1:30 pm
#C27313 My father was suffering from terminal cancer and passed away just three days after my marriage. Due to financial difficulties, my inter-caste marriage was conducted through Arya Samaj. After marriage, I discovered that many promises made about my husband's job, family status, and financial condition were untrue. Soon after, I faced financial hardship, emotional neglect, and continuous domestic violence. Despite being a bright student, I had to put my education aside because of family circumstances. After the birth of my son, there were times when I did not even have money to buy milk for him. I started working to support my family and later enrolled in IGNOU for graduation, but my husband's lack of support and dishonesty affected my studies. I managed work, childcare, household responsibilities, and education largely on my own. The abuse in my marriage continued for years. I suffered severe physical violence, resulting in permanent hearing damage and the need for hearing aids in both ears. During this period, I secured a government job on my first attempt and continued supporting my son financially, including paying rent and school fees, while also completing my graduation and starting a master's degree. Over the years, I discovered that my husband was involved in multiple extramarital relationships. I endured humiliation, verbal abuse, threats, and even an attempt to physically harm me. Eventually, I filed for divorce. Even now, I have not sought alimony or maintenance from him, despite the difficulties I have faced. During one of the most difficult phases of my life, a senior colleague entered my life. He is a 38-year-old Muslim man working as an AEE in the R&B Department. For the past three years, he has supported me emotionally and financially without expecting anything in return. He has always respected my boundaries, never pressured me for marriage, and has remained a constant source of support for both me and my son. Today, I feel emotionally attached to him and believe he possesses the qualities of a caring life partner. However, I remain conflicted because of social expectations, religious differences, and concerns about how such a decision may affect my family and future. My divorce case is still ongoing, and while I have rebuilt my life through hard work and determination, I now find myself facing one of the most important decisions of my life: whether to move forward with this relationship or continue alone. I am seeking genuine advice on how to make a decision that is best for me, my son, and my future
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Dont be in a hurry. Post divorce give urself some time to heal.. what u think as an attachment can be just a sympathy. So take time to analyse it too.
When you go through so much , you may tend to fall into any trap(I could be wrong). If we are deprived of love and affection earlier in our lives , even the little feels like so much.The current person knows everything about you,He might be genuine but do not blindly trust anyone. First be sure he isn't married, know his family, if you are considering marriage in the future. You are already broken inside, take time to heal first then you can have a clear picture of everything.
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Dont rush yourself, i know sometimes it is difficult to be alone and we need companions but you have see how traumatic life can become with wrong decision, date this man but dont be in hurry to marry him or have his kids... with time you will have enuf information to decide for yourself.
Pls don’t rush…..and a wise advise is to stay away from this relationship as well….do not repeat ur mistakes again….as you mentioned the religion allows POLYGAMY as normal cases …..be ware and take your call wisely…..grasses are always greener from the other side …..there are many wise things to do in this universe other than marriage…..be PSYCHOLOGICALLY INDEPENDENT dear lady….and focus to raise your son very well….u r already a strong lady….be stronger day by day ….good luck
Dear, all these years you struggled alone and faced everything. Think of your child's future. Whatever the support you get from anyone, at the end of the day you are the lone warrior. Don't fall into any beautiful dreams as you are strong enough to build your life. Once if you become weak again, you may fall for sure. Be a strong person and make your son proud of you....
Shed relationship goals, live for your son. So simple. Why life need be made more complex. What more complexity you need to see?! If still find drawn to him, try live-in and see (live-in doesn't necessarily has to be sexual allways).
Hats of to u for building a position after so much hurdle 👍 Ur courageous so u reach this position Focus on ur life and try to secure ur kid's future But definitely not involving urself with a Muslim guy bcoz u know the kerela files and lots of other incidents 🙏
Believe me , you must continue alone that's it nothing else.
Do not be in a rush....take your time to evaluate him as a long term partner....weigh the pros and cons for yourself and your child first...if he still ticks all the boxes, by all means then go ahead and marry him
Don’t even think about it
You have fought your battle and succeesed even after suffering so much. Now your first priority should be your son. There is a proverb in hindi dur ka dhol suhana lagta hai meaning grass is always greener on the other side. Just because you get a comforting vibe from your collegue doesn't mean you will get the same vibe after he becomes your husband. If this man really wants to help you both he will do whether you marry him or not so for now do not complicate things as your divorce is ongoing. Before making any decision in life just keep you son on the first priority that how your decision would have repercussions in his life then you will be clear on everything. May God ease your pain.
Stay away from both. U r roasted in life from first one that's why you feel that man to be super caring. But truth might be different.. . Better let few years pass , once u cross. Your limit , he will. Use you like no one
Already suffered a lot. Why get into new relationship and it may affect your son
Better to be alone and take care of your son
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Better to think twice
Get ur divorce sorted out first then rest urself for sometime then think about another relationship. Just because he is supportive doesn't mean he is good so back off and relax first then think about future
please live for yourself and not for someone else's rules and expectations. we know of a good hindu(girl)-muslim(man) marriage and everyone has accepted it. best wishes.
At this stage you might be thinking it’s just you who is suffering but believe me you don’t know what’s going on around and what everyone is suffering
Continue Alone
Say big big nooooo
Now you understand the importance of arranged marriage? Love does not offer you financial stability it wears off after 6 months of marriage, if it's doing well that means he is taking care of your expenses...it's a bad world do not trust anyone.
He is not earning but you want him to pay you... Crazy
Don’t get married again ☠️
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He is Muslim, stay away from him...