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#C26849 Hello Friends, M, soon to be 45, living in NCR. More than a confession, this is a dilemma. Earned nearly 80L in past year (including variable. The lowest income can go is 67L), product based US company. Received RSUs in March 2026 whose value is approx 9L pa as of today, putting me around 89L income. Have wife, 2 children (18 yr - college going, 15 yr - 10th boards upcoming in 2027) and both parents who live with me. Single income. Recently received an offer from Abu Dhabi for 43k AED per month, free education for children below 18, 4k AED per member in UAE for annual flight allowance, health insurance for family, mobile expenses for me, etc, and 4 month additional salary based on performance, 35 days of annual leave + work from anywhere, giving 49 calendar days to be with my family. Plus, during vacation my family can be with me. So, I see 3-4 months of being together in worst case scenario. If I quit before March 2027, I need to forego my RSUs. While the jump is about 40% if I match the exact cash value (and not additional benefits), I wonder if it is worth the migration. First year, I am thinking of going alone and shift my family next year - not parents though - as no dependent visa will be given for them. Parents are just above okay to stay with my brother, but they less willing mainly due to his wife. I have already pushed their upper limit from 38K -> 43K AED. So, I don't expect any further negotiation. Is it worth disturbing my family for this movement? I have already shifted 5 cities across India, so my family doesn't see this to be a problem. But I will be without my family for the first time and also when my younger child will be giving 10th boards. I am thankful to the universe for this situation. It is a good problem to have. Right now, I don't have any debts and I save in excess of 3L per month. I wonder if I will be able to save in excess of 5L per month in terms of AED, which can make this a financially compelling reason to move. Me and my family live pretty frugal but not miserly. For example, we have a 3 BHK whose rent I pay is 32K including maintenance. That's something I have tried to inculcate in children too. While I have used AI tools to do the calculations, any first hand experience from someone who is in UAE or was in UAE can be extremely helpful. So while financial reason is one reason to move, the other reason I am unable to make a decision is due to disturbing the current family dynamics. I really hope I can get a quick response to this as I need to confirm the potential employer about my availability. Thanks in advance.