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#C27293 I don't know if I am just being unreasonable and I should just shut up and stop expecting things from life or that I am living in a loveless marriage. 1.5 crazy years have passed. He sent me connect request on matrimonial app , profile was good so I proceeded further. He was ok with supporting me financially after marriage after quitting my clinic and shifting to a new place which will take a while. His widowed mother lives with us and married sister half hour away. After marriage we didn't go to honeymoon and mother in law said she cancelled it saying he has lots of expenses to pay attention to. When one day I was unable to receive my mother's call, she called him and she picked up, saying I am fine and adjusting well in house and refused to give his phone to him. That was the first time I realised she doesn't like my mother at all. When he started spending some money on me, like bringing me back from parent's home and buying me some new clothes, she created a scene. Since then, he never took me out anywhere. She video called her daughter to show what all he brought for me and screamed. Neither her nor her daughter has any boundaries. Within a month I became pregnant and although children are blessings, I was sceptical if I ever be able to raise the baby especially since I was unemployed at that time with no stable income. Have to admit in initial first trimester she was actually nice to me for a change. Then started her actual satanic torture. She started accusing me of stinking badly and kept saying that ever since I came to this house, it stinks of me. She made me wash my bags, daily hair wash,made me buy fabric conditioner and when she was still not satisfied, threw my bags. Yet she randomly entered our room frequently and sniffed and said the room stinks and opened windows without my permission. Kept seperate stick to lift my washed clothes to examine. My husband also started saying that I stink after filling his head with nothing but hatred for me. I had heightened senses during my first trimester yet I had to tolerate strong smells of fabric conditioner and floor cleaners and bleach. When we shifted to our new house, his sister and daughter with his mother slept in our room and me and husband in common room. Next day she used the same stick to remove the bedsheet on the side where I slept. I did not tell my family about any of this thinking it will hurt them. We even stopped going for walks after she got paranoid and thought I give him my phone to speak to my parents during that time. She is a terrible cook yet says to everyone that listen that everyone says they like her cooking. She only has to cook in the house while I cut onions and tomatoes and doesn't even make us something we actually like and barely adds and seasonings and condiments just because she doesn't like. Even when she's not at home her son is supposed to inform and ask her permission to go anywhere and inform her when he reaches too. He doesn't inform me where he goes and when I ask her she sometimes says but sometimes she says none of my business. Just days before my baby shower, my father had a heart attack and my mother looked after him in the hospital. None of my immediate family members attended my baby shower. Since my parents are at the hospital and I was uncomfortable staying with my relatives, I returned the next day where she started screaming with her daughter. She talked about everything from head to toe how she doesn't like us at all and she can marry her son off to someone better than me, how our wedding was not upto her expectations, how I didn't bring much gold in the family. I recorded everything on my phone and then revealed everything to my family. My husband has never been supportive nor he called out his mother for calling me useless and laughing that my family has no medical insurance to our maid. He simply verbally abused me and wrote terrible things on WhatsApp, saying that am an self loathing gold digger and marrying me was his biggest mistake and then deleting it. Left immediately after our son was born. Gave me no support whatsoever and constantly chatting with his family. He only messaged me on my birthday while none of his other family members even called or messaged. I had to get my family involved except my brother who stays abroad everyone were present and had the audacity to point fingers at me. My mother earlier had to yell at her for torturing her pregnant daughter. His sister started saying how I wear torn clothes she have seen it and how I leaked some of the information to their family friends. Although many months have passed and their behaviour is better than how it used to be, this problems still haven't stopped completely. There is hardly any intimacy in my so called marriage. He only watches movies till 2 am and play games on his phone. He even takes his phone to the bathroom and doesn't come out for hours. My mother in low still thinks she can dominate me like she does to her children. I have started giving them back so they call me nuisance creater and dramatic. I am worried about my child. I honestly want safe , happy environment for him. But we barely go out and have a good time, I barely had any money in my account,work has been unkind,husband doesn't give me money although he earns well. I am unhappy, I really am. I should have remained spinster all my life. I was a virgin before marriage, docile by nature, spends less money, respectful to people and excellent skills required for my work yet nothing is going my way. He doesn't want to go to marriage counsellor to make things work . My family is ready even if divorce happens and siblings will look after me and my child until I stand up on my feet.