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Submit ConfessionGender: Female7 June 2026 at 3:10 am
#C27292 #26F I have been married for 2 years through matrimony. My husband works in the IT sector, and I am a homemaker. During the first year of our marriage, everything seemed good. I took care of the household, cooking, and my in-laws, and we shared what I believed was a loving and respectful relationship. However, after about a year, I started noticing changes in my husband's behavior. Since I usually sleep early due to household responsibilities, one night I woke up in the middle of the night and saw him chatting with someone on his phone. When he noticed me, he quickly turned the screen away. A few days later, I checked his phone and found a chat with another woman, but before I could read the conversation, he came into the room. The next day, when I checked again, all the chats had been deleted. I confronted him directly. He denied everything and said he was only scrolling through reels because he couldn't sleep. The argument became heated, and during the fight, he slapped me. That moment broke something inside me. I left and came to my mother's home, where I am now. I feel hurt, confused, and lost. I have suspicions but no proof, and that makes everything even harder. I am so desperate for answers that I have even thought about somehow getting access to his WhatsApp or Instagram accounts just to find out the truth. I know this may not be the right thing to do, but the uncertainty is affecting my peace of mind every day. I am not looking for revenge. I just want to know whether my doubts are real or whether I am overthinking everything. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you deal with the lack of trust and unanswered questions? Please be kind in the comments. I am already carrying enough pain.
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You can't get proofs like that only law enforcement agencies cops can get proof from servers . Well you can hire a private Detective to shadow him and his activities behind your back. Like where he goes 🤔
Try to resolve it amicably. TALK to him. He will definitely apologise. Every body over react at times. Do not bring this in future conversations after this... It's very easy to walk away but the outside world is very cruel to a single woman. Try to be diplomatic or keep silence ... You will definitely solve this. Don't take everything to heart... Stay strong Stay cool For a change go for a outing and spend time together... It will definitely get solved... All the best
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Be calm. Don't be in too much of hurry to judge anything. Just for one fight, you came to mom's place....thereby giving him more chances to live freely. Instead of doing that, try to stay close to him, make him attach to you. After marriage usually woman turned typical housewife....give time to him, roam with him when you get time, be always close to him, attend him. As much as you stay away from him, he will go far. Go back to him, talk to him. Sort it out in cool way.
Ask him if he wants to be with you or not. And he has to be loyal to you. Else go to divorce proceedings
I think you did the correct thing you confronted him and left. The best advice I can give is for you to inform your parents the issue and let parents handle the situation. This had doubted you immensely so if you even reconcile you will still doubt him and he would still continue with his rodeo in silence. Probably someone for his work a colleague I guess. As you are just newly married I hate to say this but when trust is lost its lost. Marriage is about partnership and loyalty. Best you both separate and start new lives. God bless you be healed.
He may be a cheater. The more information you try to find the more hurt you may feel or get. Now the situation is what do you want to do next? 1. Save self respect and go for divorce 2. Go for counselling 3. Get to the bottom of it no matter what and do what next? 4. Sit with him and try to understand what had happened and take it from there on next steps If divorce is inevitable then understand that divorce is equally hard as marriage. Take informed decision and own it All the best.. 🤝
Until you get clarity you can't trust him it happens with everyone.only the possibility is to move smoothly when is drunk u can that situation as an advantage.
Please take the life easy. Be strict to him , that's enough. Tell him to be open , that's enough.
Did he call you after that day or after some days of that moment like for resolve this issue
Did you find any unusual chatting when you see the chats? Raising his hand is wrong, but you came home right just wait until he comes to you and say sorry..
Seems sex is missing in your marriage….hot sex and mutual respect….baki sab set
Men don't reply your answers. Trust me. Hey leave u like this only , confused and dilemma. Either ask elders to intervene in this matter .
Yes u can hack his phone
If he is having affair 😂 then one surely come to know ...No point wasting your time investigating you not sherlock holmes ...go for marriage counselling if your husband agree if not then you donot have any choice as you are financially dependent .. so better would be get a job for urself ...If not Then suffering is your virtue .. accept your husband and live with it
Slap = divorce - what else do u need to know good y dont have kids
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Why don't you just ask it calmly to your husband? Don't shout and start fighting... Just talk and tell him how it is affecting you and how you are feeling? Try to communicate with him first before taking any action....
But you did check some chats you said ! So it is true
Neenga lam eppo than madam thirunthuveenga..
Its just chatting so chill & you also do the same.
Have affair outside your marriage with 1-2 guys . You will get your answer 😜
Its simple. Everyone understood tht you need ALIMONY coz you dependent housewife
Why women still carry patriarchal mindset Do you know about feminism, my body my choice concept? It's totally OK to do extra marital affair, You can start also Off course he slaped you it criminal offence, I think you should put case on him of domestic violence. But nothing wrong in extra marital affair In my state west bengal man accept and has no problem with his wife's extra marital affair . Even both husband and wife do extra marital affair It's not a bad thing , You have to worry about domestic violence rather than extra marital affair
Dear what U mean of revenge ? In married life do not think ABT revenge which is not good for the married life or normal.. any have U have doubt on Ur husband activities now Ur turn to change him from illegal activities and giving Ur time . If he continues means just inform to the parents and move forward with the outcomes. Tc
Please calm down and read the below truth which will be echoed in your ears for next few years 1. Married men mostly tend to cheat when given a chance. (Unsaid rule is “Jo pakda gaya wahi chor”) 2. We are not irresponsible or bad or casual but we long for a side chick desperately as monogamous marriages are hard especially for male species. Its just hard. Think like why does someone burb even when its noise is bad and makes others uncomfortable. Its natural for us to get carried away by the next girl who shows interest in us 3. Married men need to kept in check and hence, Indian wives are always controlling/ dominating and never allow husbands for friends night out or late parties or solo trips or boys trip etc. 4. What has happened is the ultimate truth. Your husband was making an attempt to woo some lady / trying to score outside but you have successfully foiled that attempt 5. Chances are that behaviour may continue if you choose to continue to stay at yours mothers place Solution: 1. Come back to your home and slap him / abuse him / give it back to him 2. Show him zero tolerance towards any infidelity. Say loyalty is non-negotiable else he will face divorce combined with false dowry / 398A. Or do something else but the idea is to scare him else he will not mend his ways 3. Do not overthink and work on building marriage and your relationship. If you sleep early / don’t spend time as a couple and take things / each other for granted …banda toh phir bahar muh marega na 4. Its all fine / forgive him / warn him and move ahead 5. Focus on what lies ahead ….address the problem, solve it and invest in your relationship and YES I AM AWARE THAT EFFORTS SHOULD BE FROM BOTH SIDES. All i am saying is that at least one of you / you start showing efforts of being invested in this marriage. Believe me he will follow you like a child PS: Woman the truth is that so many of married men are way too desperate but we also get scared of our wives and we need to be kept in check (hope you subtly understand)
If you build your life around these things, nothing will move forward. Keeping watch on partner yields nothing, be it hubby or wife. You have just spoiled your life for nothing.. actually nothing. Now find the way, stand on your own, earn money and live on your terms. One more thing, don't search monogamy in future, it's not there, it's just obsession.
Slap = Divorce?! Is it that cheap or easy or frivolous.., end of the together journey!? Seriously, get matured. Just on basis of doubts, how far can you go....., evenif he chats to fulfil fantasy, what was the hurry to conclude....
Nothing to trust & go back to. He will slap again
Took all the proofs give him a chance if then also he won't change better leave him
No tolerance for Domestic Violence, you should have slapped him twice there and then, File a case against him of domestic violence or move out from your marriage.
Talk to him in a good mood...check his activities at night without him knowing that you're spying on him there is a way to clone anyone's whatsapp you can do that using his phone...I couldn't find that video on my mobile ill send it once found
Listen you are already using words like revenge in negation of course and he already slapped you. Someone giving you gyan of having extra marital affairs for yourself, ignore them their father, mother and wife's are slut not you. Take help from elders not sure that will help, marriage counselor will help for sure but it all depends on you and your husband. Most important thing be independent and start working and please don't share these things with your colleagues they will definitely try to use you, they will use you as sex object. And most important beware of those who are commenting above as extra marital affairs is normal, always remember they are sluts. If he is having extra marital affairs then it totally depends on you, either divorce or giving him a chance.