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I just know one thing from my experience is..if the current partner is not better than the previous one's you're gonna get stucked again and again in your life remembering them whenever you face difficulty.

Grief management you require...she left and you could not move ahead .. you still in that moment and time . Trying to repeat the same thing with your wife but it's not happening...so go to grief management therapy.. it's better than divorce ..

Sometimes things take more time to heal than we can think of. I can empathize with you. Do talk to friends, like your best friend about this. Take sessions with a psychiatrist. Talk to the doctor as much as you can. It helps relieve the pain, sorrow, and anguish which you are carrying within. Slowly things will get better. Most important stop comparing your wife with your ex. It will always hurt you. Try to stop living and past and hurting yourself over the past, thinking what you could have done better. Been there done that. So take my advice, talk talk and stop comparing and living in the past. God bless you.

Men will literally do anything but go to therapy

I would suggest you talk to your wife outloud. Whatever you have in your mind tell her everything, confess to her ,so that she can also understand your situation. I think the problem is things are very pilled up into you which makes your marriage more suffocating. Whatever you have written here confess that to her.I think she will understand. Good Luck 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 Everything gonna be fine. It's very easy to break ,try to gather your pieces ,make your things work.

Why don't you go for a Hypnotherapy session and work on releasing the pain trauma ...it works 100% it's going to help you. I have myself taken about 5 session nd it's been 3 yrs those people don't trigger me anymore.

This is natural but cmn be a Man! Take some sessions, spend some quality time only you and her, give some gifts 🎁, best way is to take her to a Holiday, discuss emotions but don't mention about her being the reason just indirectly and see what's her response...make her feel or understand that it's not due to her and that you just need her support

U might get into another even severe depression if you leave your wife. As you said u r doing much better maybe its becoz u have a good partner who supports you cares for you and that is why today you are in a much better condition than before. I would suggest - Please don't ruin ur present becoz of your past. Your past won't come back but ur present can create a better future for you. It's okay to not feel the same as u felt in the past. It happens with a lot of us that a part of our heart stays in the past but that doesn't mean you stop living in your present and unnecessary dwell in the past that has no future. I would sincerely suggest you to maybe you both can plan to have a baby that baby might bring you both close like u never thought of. I have seen couple getting back together even after separation for their baby. So the baby might turn out to be a cupid for you & ur wife. Stay blessed stay happy in your present. Keep the past at past and move forward with your wife for a better future together. 😊❤️

i feel sorry for what u r going through. Please take help of professional clinical psychiatrist/counsellor. Don't hesitate. That will heal you.

It's a very rare case mostly people will heal and forget the past after sometime or years but you are suffering your mind is weak it's a great injustice to your good wife practice to control your mind don't overthink time will heal

Love does that to us. I know what you are going through. Allow yourself to feel everything you are feeling. Don't judge yourself. It's already complicated being human, and it's not necessary to feel a certain way. Accept yourself on all levels.

I am sorry for what u are going through.U need therapy and proper counselling,Heal and live your fullest.

It is greater to be loved than to love, remember this and move forward. Nothing is permanent in this world. Keep this mind and make your wife happy

Jiske pas jo hota hai wo wahi de pata hai. Property doge alimony bhi de doge coz ye tumhare pas hai. It's ok ki tum apni wife ko nahi bata paa rahe , but divorce se kya tumhari wife ki married life kharab nahi hogi? When she says she loves you, to wo feeling kya hurt nahi hogi? Kya property or paise usko heal kar sakte hai? Ye sawal sirf isliye hai ki tum apne guilt se bahar aao,past ko heal kiya jata hai, agar life me move on karna ho to. Baki tumhare emotions to genuine hai. Uspe doubt nahi karna hai, sirf breakup ko accept karna hai.

You are now 31, 7 years before break up happened, you were 24 then, and you were in live in for 2 years .it means you were just 22 when you started live in with her....really

Give yourself time. Don't think so much. Plan a baby.

Try chord cutting therapy, hypnotherapy. I think it will help you . Don't worry there are so many PPL who r stuck like this . These therapies will heal u from within and help you to live your life to the fullest with the person who loves you at present.

Just attend some spiritual camps & retreats, it wil completely wash off all unwanted memories, just work on yourself & never think of leaving her or affecting spouse or her state of mind.

Divert the mind and soul. Plan for outing with family and keep yourself engaged.... Try to het more intimacy physically withb wife and do the same as your did with ex.... It will fade...

You haven’t healed from your breakup. You have to let go of your past. You can’t forget her, but you need to stop reliving a story that’s already over. Living in the past will keep you from enjoying your present. If you can’t manage your emotions on your own, please consider counseling.

Message me ..same issue we can discuss

What wrong ur wife did. Before marriage u might have told her all ur nonsense emotions. U think divorcing her will give peace to u as well as ur wife. U think giving money and property will sooth her. Ur past is over. That too it's a seven yrs before. See, ur wife is loving u. Love those who love u. U go for counselling. Everything will be alright. Prepare yourself for parenting. Take care of her well. This will change ur mind soul and everything

Stay few months apart from your wife, you will surely miss her , understand her worth. Sometimes physical distance diminish the mental distance.

Sometimes you cannot fall out of love especially when there’s no closure. Believe in investment of time and detachment of emotions, even when you can’t fully love, you can enjoy moments, start valuing your own life and time and effort of others too, show gratitude , live in the present and eventually learn to let go of the memories, may be you might not love someone with that intensity but you might be able to live properly. Take up some activities , learn to love yourself and may be start some self therapy. You will do yourself a favour , it’s not about your wife, it’s about self contentment ! Try to bring yourself back.

Take some yoga class

Get help. Go get Therapy

Past is past..Don't live in past lose your wife too.

There is nothing called love....it is only god.....naam jap karo u will feel it

Maybe you can first strike a good friendship with your wife and then progress to an emotionally romantic relationship. Also, never compare your previous feelings with your current one. They can and will never match, bcoz earlier you were younger and carefree. And now you are more mature and responsible. So think of your wife as your best friend, forcefully making yourself to do things like bringing flowers, saying I love you won't work because you yourself know that you are pretending. So start from a more genuine relationship like friendship, this way you will naturally spend more time with her. Also what has gone had gone. Don't let the past baggage spoil your present and future. Maybe the breakup happened bcoz you deserved someone better. All the best !!!!

Every single arranged marriage deserves misery. Such a medieval mindset. That's what you deserve if you treat marriage like a business rather than a love affair. Enjoy 🤣🤣🤣

You need therapy.

Take few steps. Whenever you go down the memory lane just close your eyes and stay silent. No one goes in past 24 hours. Concentrate on the flow of your breathing. Your breathing will get affected because you are in the loop. As soon as breathing becomes normal the temporary memory is out of your mind. Then carry on with your routine keep practicing this you will thank me. Your past attachment will get resolved permanently. Be happy 🙏

Bro...LIVE IN is not our culture ..you done mistake...but your current wife have no fault and why she will suffer because of you?? Its totally your fault...Dont divorce her....Give time to her and treat her like princess and forget your EX....close that book now....live in present not in past.....

Wow.....just see the comments from the male crowd Just reverse the gender in this post and see how these same male crowd will use R*ndi word, past baggage , no seal no deal , red flag, dont marry grl with history , u r a emotional cheater, bla bla bla Pathetic mindset of indian men🤨

jaaGi rayiMaandi dunPa... Don't worry bro, wen ur wife gives u, children of guests, u ll start feeling better...

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So attached to a person who ended everything with you?? that means you were nothing for her. You are crying over a dead relationship which is not allowing you to move forward in your life. Why are you choosing somebody who definitely did not give a flying fu*k to your feelings. Get a grip. You are living in a fantasy land and you are pulling yourself in darkness. NOBODY IN THIS ENTIRE UNIVERSE DESERVE OUR LOVE MORE THEN OURSELF. See a shrink, if you can't get over it.