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Submit ConfessionGender: Male6 June 2026 at 6:48 pm
#C27285 I(28m earning ₹30LPA) am in the arrange marriage market for a few months now. All I wanted was to find some one who is equally educated, ambitious, had good skills, has good work experience etc., the proposals coming my way are a little surprising. Recently a dentist's proposal came, they demanded a reverse dowry(I never demanded anything, I am strictly against it). They said, I should be the one, to open a clinic for her i.e. buy her own clinic upon marriage. I asked her, where do you practice currently and she said she is not as she is not able to find some where to practice(if i remember correctly she graduated a while back)... Essentially jist was, she would rather sit home than take a low pay(unacceptable to her) job at some clinic where she might learn the trade in real world. Her parents know I make decent income. 2nd category is homely girls, they have gone to college, but thats it. Maybe did some bsc/msc/bcom types placeholder degree from their local college and sits at home waiting to be married, expects to be a home maker... Talked to one, I was really lost on what to talk, some how conversation turned towards iphones lol. Similarly educated, but has a lot of emotional baggage, 1 girl I met told me she just came out of a 6 years long relationship, from the things she said, she was still dealing with issues... Later I find out she has a lot of situationships as well... I avoid judging people, but I wanna avoid this kind of a person, who has a body count. My requirement is simple, similarly educated(masters or higher), is in good standing career wise, and is ambitious, her ultimate plan is to do stuff rather than sitting at home, not been in too many relationships or have baggage(I dont as well.)... Not drink/smoke as i dont as well. I try and look for signs of excellence. I wont mind marrying some one with hustle. Like I wont mind marrying a person who is well versed in trades like a chef who is running her successful hustle (or even is capable of, very hard to tell though). They may not have a reputed degree or a college... But they did something, Iykwim. Is this too much to ask?
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It's arranged marriage so wait and watch .. Marriage is biggest gamble every man and woman plays and there is no winner in this gamble ...
Bro, try some European girls 😄 Buy a Forbes magazine and send proposals to the top 100 single women entrepreneurs. And hey, even Leonor, Princess of Asturias is single try your luck there too 😂
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Ni...thats fine ...bt if ur income is 30lpa then find someone that has good character, personality, god fearing lady that warm ur home ...qualification -bachelor certificate is enough.. I guarantee you wl have happy life .
Someone gave me a great advice.. try to find a good person first.. and build for the future together.. your partner is the biggest investment of life.. career is one aspect of life. You need a partner for much more than that..
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What you are expecting is genuine. Since, you were focussed on your career and never had any body count you expect same from your life partner. Believe me such girls do exist in corporate and real world. But few ppl here would discourage you and ask you to compromise on house wife etc. You have to have patience till you find the right match for you. So, keep searching for now. Don't settle on someone that you don't like. Its ok to be single then be unhappy. Pray to God and Universe will help you to find the one you want in your life. It will also give you mental strength for your search.
Same situation from last 2 years. Make much more than u. Was of ur age when started. Got 1 trauma, girl married someone else after dating me for months. The only suggestions i can give u is; marry a descent housewife bcz the characters u r looking for doesn’t exists into the wonen who works. A reality check ; when they expose to corporate usually have body count or ego issues or baggages. Or target someone of lower age like 22-23 and mould her into whatever u want
Then go to the LinkedIn bro .... Lol 😆
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Marriage is pure gamble Very fortunate if u get a girl of ur choice Else most of us live with narcissist wives all our lives
Get a homely girl who is adaptable and can follow and u can be the leader. Ultimately parenting in these days needs one parent full time. Even if u get a working girl at the time of babies she will have to take break.
Don't look for perfection, look for a connection. Homemaker contribution to our GDP is 15-20% as per latest report. They are not useless. Handling a house is a full time job, apps like pronto charge 40k for servant with 8 hour shift. when you have a family of your own, you cannot leave your kids with neighbour. Your expectations are extremely high and unrealistic. And everybody has some sort of emotional baggage, don't judge them.
No u r right at ur place, but to be honest, female with good character cannot have EXPECTED Salary as u want, bcz in corporate if she's not "entertaining" then she can't steps career ladder, that what I saw in corporate for 7 yrs & if she's not drinking/smoking/clubbing she can't have a "group" (I know) obviously exception are there. So keep this in mind & then search.
Are you planning to select an employee or life partner. Understand the meaning and do accordingly. Some men expect a working lady and then after marriage expects to do all tasks as homemaker. If you are expecting the lady with your criteria, be prepared to help her with all the chores at home. Some women won't share their income with you and don't expect her to do so.
My comments to any post in social media is very limited. But I felt I could give you a perspective. When we are looking for life partners wht do they professional will matter only for a Lil while. Sometimes just one meeting with a person doesn't give you a insight into them. A person should feel like home. You should be able to live and build a life together. Your life values and ethics should match. All these don't come with a women or man having a good job. After sometime it doesn't matter how much ever u earn or she does if you can't live with each other.. I am sure all those who have gone through a divorce may be equally educated but couldn't live together. Sometimes a person without masters or a good job can be a best life partner because they can show up in life in difficult situations and stand with you. You should broaden your thoughts and give marriage a different perspective. If your doing well today with 30lpa you could help some one grow with you or invest in her education so that she becomes independent if the person is good. If you look or think about a person with the perspective and blockage u have it's gonna be difficult. The job market is volatile today it's 30Lpa but what's is in store for tomo. To cut it short don't meet people with ur expectations because eventually both of you can build a life along each other
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Just show this confession to the girl u meet for arranged marriage. Her response ll tell u, if ur life ll be hell or nightmare. Definitely not heaven.
You want a companion or partner? Once you are clear about it, you will be in peace.
Marriage is a business and whatever you think now will get reversed. So don't judge and expect anything. Now get married and go with the flow. Don't go for each complaint.
You are thinking, be patient and make a wise decision.
There is no perfect person, just the one who wants to make an effort. Ask her views on marriage , family, growth ,savings, good life, vacations etc . That might give you a better understanding for a life partner than what she has done in past or how is she living her life now. Better still, give judgement a rest and rely on your instinct and heart's fondness. Don't look for an achiever but a nice person who can make home a home.
This is unrealistic expectation. If she's having similar ambition, she'd be in a city where situationships are normal lol.
Why don't you marry one of your colleagues? They have similar educational background as you and is equally ambitious... So search for someone in your office, maybe look into other departments...
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i am a bit confused here, why are you looking for good skill and good work experience? Also your criteria is unrealistic...an ambitious person by definition will aim higher....they would not settle for someone in the same paygrade....
when u learn the difference between business partner and life partner please comment back.............we can deal then.....................
First of all, if you show ur money everywhere, it's more likely that you will attract only money-minded ppl.If you show your character,skills and hobbies first, then there will be a better chance to get a good spouse. Money,degrees and other technical things, you can definitely discuss after the initial conversation. And in today's world even a 19/20 yrs old girl has a higher emotional baggage and body-count as compared to a working millennial woman. So yeah,its tricky bt keep trying.
No brother, keep looking you will find a good partner
Look for a decent family, if a family has good background and understanding, chances girl is also have some good understanding about there partner.
Its not too much when u think about it from your side but all guys want girls with below qualities 1. Educated and is trying to be on her own feet ( earns min 50k+ pm in hand) 2. Decent people & Good humble family background(both parents and the girl does not think as if they own the world) 3. Jolly & family oriented and is not a cry baby (cribbing about everything in life in general) 4. Presentable/good looking(one that u like as per your preference) - namak swad anusar There are very few girls with all the top 3 qualities and 4th as per your taste. All the guys in arranged marriage are looking for these girls so they have become hot cake stuff and top 1% guys get them. Now the question is are u considered top 1% from the other side of the table(think from the girls side as if u were to marry your sister to some one with your profile and background). If no then adjust on point 4 and get married else u will keep looking for years and end up being depressed.
First of all just I want to know house wife means simply Sitting at home ?? ... 😂
No Just try to contribute equally after marriage also Dealing with in laws, staying ( even if it’s temporary) in on laws place, maintaining relationships with extended families of in laws, If no dress code for you No dress code for her also. If planning a baby, since she will have to carry the baby 9 months, you try to compensate during postmortem by contributing in child care as much as possible. She will be the one to give birth and breastfeed so you try to compensate by taking care of other things. In short try to be equal as much as possible
Bhai ye sab chodo koi mujhe ye batayga ye high paying job kaise milegi 😭
Don't settle for less than what you believe you deserve, bro. You have done quite well for yourself at the age of 28. You have proved that you are worthy, and you deserve to have preferences and standards. Don't let bafoons mock and shame you into settling for less. Know youe value.
This morning I saw a similar post from a girls perspective, now from the boy's side..ignore the negative ones and keep searching, you will find a good partner
No..keep searching you will definitely get one..
That's completely fine....keep searching... you'll get the one
Yes. You have been living in a bubble and suddenly decided to get married.
U want saint level lady . I wonder where will u get such blemishe free. I know u are divine soul too no wonder ur expectations are very high
Get settled with a family girl. If you go with highly educated and ambitious women they bring lot of situationships and trouble in their bag of problems that you have to resolve.
If you want to marry career oriented person ,please dont expect double duty like homemaker plus earner , do household chores with her equally or keep cook , helper.Plz nowdays its trend from men side .
It's not much but try looking for love marriage ...there you'll find what you really want...in arrange marriage setup it's difficult buddy
Don't expect too much dear. Your parents and you will later make her to do all tasks including taking care of your parents.So, I don't think the girl is asking too much for the clinic.
U re a private employee don't marry
Bro that girl not exists
Bro its a arrange marriage why are you demanding so much🤣why not chase a girl whom you like maybe same job same place 🤔but one issue is where will you find this type
Na marriage market acha hai na job market... bc duniya
love marriage kr
Arrange marriage will always come as deals . Try finding someone you would love and spend rest of your life with irrespective of the diffrences just make sure the other person is on same page
You are here to find the life partner or to crack a business deal ?!
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Good Luck Buddy. Its not going to be easy for sure.
It's ok
Better wait for sometime bro
That's reasonable. But no matter what you do or decide at the end do get a background check from some independent source.
Stopped after reading ur first para. Mofo is in search of impossible. I hope u don't do suicide
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Well, a person can be ambitious in being an able homemaker- I think if somebody observes their colleagues in a corporate setup, they can easily come to this realisation. Being a home maker is a full time job with no room to cut slack. An ambitious and carrier driven woman might not want to take a backseat for tending to children/ parents, if and when needed. Nothing wrong with it but if these things are not discussed, it creates great rifts in relationships at a later stage. And either of the partners have to be an active parent for proper upbringing of children- taking turns might seem a solution but children, in general, find it difficult to adapt to frequent changes- after a certain time they might become indifferent to both parents if they keep on switching roles very often. Social media or some marriage counselors might try to convince you otherwise but you can only outsource your chores as a parent not your responsibilities. So, if one of the partners is earning well, they can look for someone who can manage the household front without feeling less in the relationship- this eases life because equality is overrated- equity is what brings stability. It is, however, a total different thing that in an Indian arranged marriage setup, it is next to impossible to find a female looking for a house husband.
It's good to know that you like ambitious women. People with similar education and career goals are generally more compatible. However, any educated independent women in mid 20s is highly likely to have been in past relationships. I think you should relax this condition and you'll start getting good proposals. Maybe avoid girls with a history of serial dating or casual hookups but there's nothing wrong in 1-2 serious relationships (which have completely ended now).
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I am 30 and earn 11lpa not getting matches at all
Just curious - why you even tolerating them ? What do you want from these hungry strangers ? Think 5 times whether they are even capable of giving it to you what you want from them ? If not then stop cribbing and start living your life. You are in top 3% earner of the resource deprived country. Don’t let it go on waste and take everything good what life can give you 😀
Reverse dowry.....this is today's India.....very sad
Keep going Bruh
Keep searching
Reject girls with past
You can’t expect people in late twenties to not have a past or baggage or past relationships or what you call is body count !!!! Pffffff ! Hypocrite much ? Whatever you expect cannot even be fulfilled from a two teir city girl. Be open minded. If you want a good salaried girl they will have equal demands and those are fair ! If you wanna settle for a homely girl then go for it may be you get someone really good , educated and open minded whose thrives on learning new things. You need to widen your scope of expectations. There is never a tailor made spouse, every human is running on insecurities , baggages and problems, and those who show them to be perfect , they lose it pretty early and show their true colours.
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