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#C27263 M, 24, works in Gurugram, hometown is Agra. This started in January. She is 27 years old, and this is her first relationship. For me, it was my fourth or fifth. We worked at the same company last year. I had a soft corner for her from that time, but I never expressed my feelings because I was afraid of rejection. In November, we both resigned from the company around the same time, although it wasn't planned together—we had made our decisions independently. After leaving, we started talking regularly about job opportunities and interviews. She got a job first because of her strong communication skills, while I got mine a little later. She joined her new company at the end of December, and I joined a different company at the end of January. During this period, we spoke every day. Things were progressing slowly. In early January, I finally expressed my feelings for her. She told me she wasn't 100% sure about a relationship and didn't want to make any commitments. Even so, we continued talking, and I held on to hope. Since my training was work-from-home, I was staying in my hometown. On February 8, I traveled to Delhi to meet her. I brought her a bouquet of roses and some plush toys. We spent time together, talked, and shared our first kiss. After that, she returned home, and I went back to my hometown. Unfortunately, the gifts raised suspicions within her family. Her grandmother noticed them and informed her uncle. She lives with her cousin and two sisters, while her mother lives in Imphal. She lost her father during childhood and was largely raised by her uncle. Her family called her and strongly advised her not to get involved with someone from a different community. Because of this pressure, she decided she didn't want to give me false hope. She stopped responding to my calls and started ignoring my messages. I sensed what she was trying to do and asked her directly whether she was creating distance so that I would eventually move on. She admitted that was what she was trying to do. Although it hurt, I understood her situation. I stayed patient and continued hoping things would improve. Gradually, she saw my efforts and eventually said yes to the relationship. Since this was her first relationship, expressing emotions and feelings wasn't easy for her, but she genuinely tried. We were happy together, and for the first time, it felt like the life I had imagined was becoming real. Like any couple, we had disagreements, but I always preferred resolving conflicts before going to sleep. On May 9, we had an argument. I told her that during conflicts she often became distant and avoided communication, whereas I preferred talking things through immediately. Looking back, I realize I misunderstood her way of expressing herself. While she was trying to communicate how she wanted to be loved, I focused more on explaining how I wanted to love her. My intentions were good—I genuinely wanted to give her a happy life—but I wasn't always listening the way she needed me to. We eventually resolved that argument after many calls and messages from my side. However, toward the end of May, we had another disagreement, and I repeated the same pattern. I kept trying to resolve things immediately, while she wanted space. On June 1, she wasn't ready to answer my calls or respond to my messages. I went outside her office and waited for her. When she saw me, she came over and spoke with me. I apologized repeatedly and asked her to resolve things with me. Eventually, she agreed, and I left. The next day, however, she again asked for time and space. Instead of respecting that request, I went to her office again because I wanted to see her. From her perspective, this made her feel that her words and boundaries didn't matter to me. Even though she had clearly asked for time, I showed up anyway. Since then, she has told me that she doesn't feel right emotionally and needs time. She doesn't know how long that time will be. I returned to my hometown. The moment I saw my family, I couldn't hold back my emotions. I cried for nearly two hours and told my elder sister everything. She tried to comfort me and help me understand the situation, but my heart is struggling to accept the possibility of losing her. What scares me the most is that she may take time and never come back. I feel like I could lose everything. I still love her deeply and would do anything to fix things, but right now I don't know what the right thing to do is.